how can you be your kid`s best friend?

I don't think there IS necessarily a way to get them to tell you EVERYTHING, to get them to be your best friend, if you WANT them to trust you, you'll have to earn it, through talking to them, and sharing things with THEM -- tell them about your day, and then ask them about theirs.

My thing is I always ask them how was there day and set aside time to talk to them if there is a problem big or small. You have to make sure they understand you are always there for them no matter what. My kids will say,"mom, I need to talk to you and it's important." Whether it is or not what's important to them should be made important to you. That way they know they can always count on you.

It is my personal opinion that this is what is wrong with kids today. Parents try to be the kids friends instead of being their parents. Parents need to make tough decisions sometimes, and make sure that they do what is best for the child in the long run and not what will make the child like them. If I become my childrens best friends I believe that I have failed. My kids can like me, but they have to know that I am their parent first, friend second. I am going to make them do stuff that they do not think is fun, things that they don't want to do, but I will make them do this knowing that it is in their best intrest. They will have to do thinkgs that I know they will not be happy with and there will be some times when they do not like me. But they will get over it and when they get older they will realize that I did it for their best intrests.

I think its wonderful to be friends with your kids to a certain extent.. i think yea they should feel like they can come to you anytime about anything but then again they have to know that if i do something wrong mom or dad is going to still punish me as im a child... you know .. My dad tried being my best friend as a teenager and that made things worse cause i knew i could get away with alot more which got me in trouble alot more! Cause i knew my dad wouldnt care he just wanted us to get along and be "good" friends and beable to talk about anything i think alot had to with my mom passing when i was 8 yrs old and he felt he needed to make up for it ... it was nice but i would of been alot thankful if he would of punished me for the things i did wrong, to keep me in line.

I think kids look to a parent for direction, inspiration, leadership, wisdom. you were here before he was, he wants you to share what you've experienced. I guess if you want to be your kid's friend, then- Don't Be His Friend, Be HIs Parent.

I don't think your child should be your best friend. I think there should be boundaries within a parent/child relationship...and those boundaries can't be established if you're seen as his/her best friend. My mom and I had a great relationship where I knew I could go to her and talk to her about anything; but she was still that authority figure that was there to lay down the law if I misbehaved.

I would not want to be my childs bestfriend. I want her to consider me as her mother. To respect me. I have went that route before and it does not work well. They start to treat you like just one of thier friends. If you are upon and honest with your child they will learn to be open with them.. Make them feel very comfortable. My daughter and I have talking time this is when she can talk to me about anything and she will not get into trouble for what she says or has done.