I just want to be alone for a while? Am I being inconsiderate

@manong05 (5027)
Philippines
January 11, 2007 7:22pm CST
to my spouse's feelings if I say this? Will you be offended if your spouse tell you, that he/she doesn't want to see anybody including you for a while? Honestly.
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• United States
12 Jan 07
I assume you are thinking of a separation and take time to review your life. If there are no marital problems, then I think I would be hurt.
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@manong05 (5027)
• Philippines
12 Jan 07
There are no marital problems. I don't actually mean separation in the sense of getting away to a place outside the house,where I can be alone with myself. If ever, it will only be for a day. What I mean is I want to be alone without living the house. Maybe in my study where I don't want to see anybody and talk to anybody.
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@katrina21 (116)
• India
12 Jan 07
Every person needs time to work out his or her feelings from time to time. Most often one does this without specifically asking for time, on ones own time when the spouse is away. But once in a while, you may want to be away from your spouse for a while and I do not think there is anything wrong in requesting that, and this is more likely where spouses spend extended periods of time together. The request however, should be worded carefully, to avoid hurting feelings!
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@manong05 (5027)
• Philippines
12 Jan 07
I agree. There are times when our good intentions are misunderstood because of the words we use. good thinking, thanks.
@mtdewgurl74 (18151)
• United States
12 Jan 07
Honestly? Well, me myself would be hurt if my husband said this because he has told me he needed a 2 week break from me and everyone for his nerves to calm done some. I think that if a relationship is having problems then both of the people involved need to take a look at their realtionship but if kids are involved it is hard for a woman to get away for awhile so she can reflect on her realtionship the way a male can so if she/he lets you go and reflect will you give her the same respect and let her go and reflect everything. My mom is going through a touch time with my dad she is wanting to go to a hotel for a week to stay nobody know where she is and have no contact with her so she can straighten out her life and put things in prepective. I think she needs to also. Everyone needs to do this but there is a child at home who is in school and I live in different parts of the state then her and cannot help till a break then it causes my relationship problems when I watch my little 5 year old sister so its a catch 22 for me
@manong05 (5027)
• Philippines
12 Jan 07
you've expressed yourself very eloquently and very practical in your thinking. However, there are no marital problems neither it has something to do with the kids. Just a feeling of wanting to be alone. I am not thinking of going to a hotel or something like that, just a time for myself where I don't want to talk and just be silent maybe spent time in my study or in the living room without talking at all.
@runsgame (2031)
• India
12 Jan 07
honestly , i allow her to take rest and be alone for some time. we hav to admit the feelings of all including wife
@manong05 (5027)
• Philippines
12 Jan 07
That's very thoughtful of you to say that. thanks!
@tictac714 (975)
• United States
12 Jan 07
How long are we talking about? I mean if it's for a couple hours no big deal, but you could probably accomplish that without needed to announce it. If we're talking about days, yeah I would be hurt.
@manong05 (5027)
• Philippines
12 Jan 07
Actually I mean a day or two. I am not thinking of going out somewhere, I will be at home but maybe stay in my study and I just don't want to see and talk to anybody. Just a time for myself.
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@mzbubblie (3839)
• United States
12 Jan 07
I believe it depends on you guys relationship. maybe try talking to her and letting her know that sometimes you want to be alone to clear your head. I believe if she knows and understand you, she would respect your space and let you get yourself together. In hopes that if the roles were reversed you do the same. So my answer is no, I would not be offended...I would give my spouse his space to collect his thoughts and get his self together
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@manong05 (5027)
• Philippines
12 Jan 07
good attitude! thanks
@fujin1985 (684)
• Philippines
12 Jan 07
when someone tells me this, i'd not be offended because i for one prefer being alone when something's bothering me. i'd respect that decision and give him some space to collect his thoughts and clear his mind.