income between husband and wife.. does it matter?
By leonilyn
@leonilyn (467)
Philippines
January 11, 2007 10:46pm CST
who among you guys in here earns more than your husband or earns less than your wife?
i earn a bit bigger than my husband. i dont want it that way becuse i feel like i am better than him.. and i think he should be the one who is better and who earns more because he is the guy. but the thing is i finished college and he is into vocational school. i want him to earn bigger than me.. is it possible? am i fair with him? i am not humiliating him but i guess there is where the story goes..
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4 responses
@finlander60 (1804)
• United States
12 Jan 07
I have never given any weight to the value of a person being more because he/she earns more. I make considerably less than my wife does, at this time. It has not always been this way, it just happens to be at this time. My wife does not say anything about it. She has a college degree and I graduated from high school.
@leonilyn (467)
• Philippines
12 Jan 07
okay. i hope it was just my imagination.. i guess almost all of our neighbors are like comparing the incomes between husbands and wives.. i want to be fair with my hubby.
@akotalagato (1334)
• Philippines
12 Jan 07
i used to earn more than my husband but it really didnt matter. the only downside about it was when my son got sick and i had to stay home to take care of him, our earnings decrease significantly. but then again, this just made him work harder. now he is earning enough for the whole family so i can stay home to take care of our kid.
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@akotalagato (1334)
• Philippines
12 Jan 07
i think he will be pressured no matter what you say or do. i used to try to console my hubby that it is okay for him to earn less and he should not be pressured but he was pressured all the same. it made him more productive.
@lauriefnp (5109)
• United States
12 Jan 07
The salary that a man makes is not what is important to me. I value a man who is willing to work hard and to contribute, whatever he makes. Another plus is if he truly enjoys what he is doing. We have to work for so many years that I think it is important to truly enjoy your work.
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@floresalex23 (97)
• Philippines
12 Jan 07
I guess in my own opinion, income shouldn't matter between husband and wife because there is more important things than your income.
When your income is bigger or higher it doesn't mean you are doing better and it doesn't mean you are a better person. There maybe reasons why he is getting lower wage than yours, maybe you should try to understand that.
