should i stay or should i go?

you should go on with your life, and explain your child later on what was wrong

You should get out of there as soon as possible. That is way too bad of an environment to raise a child in. If he is slapping and punching you now, how long before he raises his hands to you kid when he gets pi$$ed?

I am not sure where you live or anything, but you need to get a protection from abuse order (PFA) against him. It is not acceptable for him to hurt you. If you are living together move out and live with family or friends. If this is not an option find the nearest womens shelter. . .they will help you get established in a place of your own. They will help you to get a housing voucher -- where you can live somewhere and only pay a portion of the rent based upon your income. THey have helped many women in your situation. If you don't leave he could hurt you real bad, and possibly even kill you. This is a serious situation. Please keep me posted.

well you already kmow the answer move on why waste anymore time on someone that treats you that way you dont want to have your baby around somebody that thinks nothing of hitting you next it could be the baby

I don't have children, so most people tell me that I am no authority on the matter. However, I do believe that staying in an abusive relationship is not healthy for any of you. I think it is ideal for a child to have two parents, but they have to be two good ones. If you think you have the strength and the resources to be a good single parent then you should move on, now before your child gets attached to his father. Everything that I have read indicates that children suffer most from being separated from a parent after the age of 2, and the effects can be life-long and devastating. I have a niece whose father left them when she was 3. She is now 29 and has a great deal of difficulty forming lasting relationships. My personal opinion (which is not based on professional knowledge)is that she is afraid to get too close to anyone in case they might leave her.

From your discussion it is evident that your boy friend does not respect you at all. Just verbal quarrels are okay and those can be solved but physical touches in anger are very bad and strongly denote dislking! so Just Leave him for the sake of your baby. If his behaviour will continue like this then it may have bad percussions on your babys mind in future. You can grow your child well as from discussion it seems that you are a very caring person and a special person for your baby.

I would leave him. I dated someone who used to abuse me. He started out with just mean comments. then he started hitting me. Then he took me by the head and smashed it into the wall repeatedly. He would tape record me without me knowing. RUN. I do mean RUN. just because you have a kid, doesnt mean u have to be together. If you want your child not to see mommy die, then run. The abuse will only get worse. Not to mention if that child starts to be an abuser too.

You think your child is not going to grow up confused in such a disrespectful environment such as you're living in now? I would say if the two of you can't see reason and respect, trust and love each other enough to stay together, then it's time you moved on and took your child with you. Show the child love and devotion and bring him up in a peaceful and happy environment. You don't need to find another partner... just do it for both yours and your child's sake and safety. I'm sure you have friends and family who care enough about you, to help you through any tough times you might encounter with the upbringing of your child. Never be afraid to ask for help and advice, and you'll find your life will improve no end. Good luck with your decision and your new life, should you choose it. Look after that little chap... he deserves a good start in life! Brightest Blessings and thank you for this discussion. :-)

I think you should get on with your life. Your child won't blame you for trying to make yourself happy and give the child a better life. Besides you might find someone new fairly quickly.

this is very wrong inspite of living together for 2 yrs he still treats u that way ,.... pity on him that he doesn't respect a woman any way u must not rais a kid in such an atmosphere but he needs a father and rets of the decision is urs . if u hv any friends u can trust go to them seek help fromthem..

your promblem girl, is almost the same as my friend. her problem is much more complicated than yours becoz the guy is married to other woman. well, come to think of it girl.. are you happy? Are you just keeping the relationship just becoz you want your kid to have a dad? Come on... Think about yourself... what you can do more without that guy. Dont let other people ruin your life... Prove yourself worth and let that guy realize what he had lost.. soon you'll see, he's begging for you!

You need to get out of that relationship...abusive relationships are much more damaging to your child, than not having his father around. Has his father ever been abusive to him? If so, both of you should get away from him. If he wants to still see his child, then go through the court and express your concerns. Main Point: Your child is better off with a step father or father figure than an abusive father, and you're better off too. Living a life of abuse is no way to live.

Takign a quick decision to leave is very easy. The more you fight, the more you understand each other. This gives you an opportunity to your partner better and then accordingly you can make adjustments. A better life comes when both of you make lot of comprises. And where you need to make compromise is better understood when you quarrel with each other. For your kid to lead a happy and healthy life, you need to really find time to sit together and explain to your partner- the things you like the most about him and the areas where he needs improvement. Also ask him what he expects from you and what are things that he doesn't like about you.Then list everything out and check where both of you can make compromises so that you two can gel well. Don't take hasty decisions now. Try discussing and check whether there is any scope of leading a smooth and enjoyable life. Life is a path full of thorns and not roses. Its not enjoyment always. There are lot of miseries, pain and disasters too. try to overcome them. You will definitely succeed. Put Your Best efforts and good wishes.

I had to leave my daughters father for the same reasons. I was becoming an empty shell of a woman when I was with him, and staying with him was not the best thing for me or my daughter. He is a good father, but he is a lousy partner. I never married him because I also knew that I didn't want to stay. It took me a couple of years to get the courage to leave, but I'm glad I did. There is no more fighting, and we are great co-parents. Good luck to you in whatever you decide.

Well first of all he has no right to hit you! Secondly...you need to think about yourself and your baby first and all that fighting is not good for the baby..or you..in trying to raise him/her. I would suggest you two either seek counselling and the fighting and hitting stop...or you should break up...because right now it is not a healthy relationship.

Now why would you want to stay with someone like that? Get the heck out of there and get on with your life. If a man would ever punch me I would tell him to get the hell out and never come back.Your baby would be better off with out a dad like that.

You should get out of the relationship while you still can, if it was just you and your partner then I would say it was entirely your decision to make and that no-one could really tell you what to do, but since there is a baby involved I don;t think you should subject the little one to that. Even if no violence is committed towards the baby what if its in the same room and something gets thrown and hurts it (sorry, don't like saying it but have no idea if boy/girl). Research has should that being around that sort of behaviour won't necesarily result in children growing up to be violent themselves (am currently writing a paper about domestic violence) but is that what you want your child to see? I think you already know what you need to do and leave your boyfriend and I hope everyone saying it helps you to make the final decision to do it. Please tell other people about it too so that they can help you if he tries doing anything else to you, often it can get worse before it gets better, I'd imagine he won't be too happy if you leave him but if you have people looking out for you and can support you through a tough time it'll be worth it, you don't need to live like that.

Go on with your life. Put your baby first. The man you are with can have a relationship with your baby when your baby gets old enough to question where's his or her daddy. Don't stay with a man who is doing things like that in front of your child. The baby can be badly affected by this action.

First of all as you rightly said that you have to think about your child but then did you not know how your guy was or is as you were with him for around 2 years now. Anyway's it is the 21st century and it would be better to leave the person and live on your own and take care of your child. Ultimately it is for you to decide as it is your life and whatever advice anyone gives it is YOU and YOUR CHILD in the end who have to live with it as no one else can do anything about it.

well, thingz are not dat easy.dis is a much bigger n much more serious issue than it seemz to be.dis idea of dumping the guy iz no solution at all,for the simple reason dat u hav a child..u can dump ur partner,but dumping ur child iz not the right thing to do. look,der are problemz in every relationship.there r fightz n arguementz.that doesnt mean u end it all n jz move on wid it.so, my suggestion to u iz dat u shud talk it over wid ur partner, n try to explain to him the consequences of dese problemz between the 2 of u.make him realise dat u owe some responsibilitiez towardz ur child n for d sake of ur relationship,u must both sincerely try to keep thingz stable n the way dey were earlier.but if he doesnt want to listen n adjust,den let go of him...u'll find someone better.