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By na2482
@na2482 (423)
United States
January 12, 2007 1:28pm CST
I have this girl friend that i haven't seen in 17 years or so. Yesterday i recieved a e-mail on my space from her. She lost her father, her mom just recently died from an overdose(my best friend had no idea her mother was on drugs). Shes in a relationship with a married man, doesn't care anything about her except what's in between her legs, To make the situation worse, she just found out shes pregant. At first i was a little shocked finding out about her parents pasting away. She hasn't always been the brightest girl, but i love her like my own flesh and blood. I honestly don't know what to tell her to do. The wife of the married man found out about my best friend having a relationship with her husband an is making all these threats. She really has no one but me, but i can't be her angel. I think she has to try to figure this one out on her own. What should i do, be there or continue letting her make her own decisions?? Everytime i try she always gets herself into a jam.
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@korek222 (701)
• Poland
12 Jan 07
wow i must say this is a tough situation - i would suggest her to leave that guy , start a new life as a lonely mother , raise her child good , find a propoer work whichy would give her aand a baby a good new start and wait for a prince to come in her's life :)
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@nidahali (446)
• Pakistan
12 Jan 07
I think that you should be there for her but not as a by-stander but her angel in disguise. You should open her eyes to see the negative things she has got herself into and what she will be in if she doesn't ask for help and end her relationship with that man. You should be there for her whenever she tries to make a wrong move and correct it for her or even make her realize that she's making the wrong move. Treat like the princess she means to you that maybe seeing this she might actually stop seeing the other man and maybe end her suffering. I don't quite actually know how you are supposed to do all these but atleast you should try something before it's too late because once it's too late you'll only end up cursing yourself for not doing anything. So save her and yourself before it's too late. I just hope you can get throught this hard period together victorious. All the best.
@na2482 (423)
• United States
12 Jan 07
thank you very much, its just such a hard situation, so much time has gone by, but i've always tried to be there since day one. I have always bailed her out of these kinds of situations in the past, if i keep doing it how is she going to learn?? I will be there for her because i love her dearly, i'm so confused.
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@nidahali (446)
• Pakistan
13 Jan 07
Hey man I hear you. Just wish I could tell which would take all your problems. You can start by letting her make a decision and just watch if it will effect her badly then show her the other angle of things, maybe she isn't seeing things from your angle. If it won't hurt her that bad then let her make the decision and get hurt a little and then show her your angle which would not have hurt her. This might take her attention and listen to you everytime and maybe start to look from the different angle. Really hope this helps you out. Take care.
@kiwimac (323)
• New Zealand
13 Jan 07
I hesitate to give you advice on this but perhaps the best thing you can do, can be for her is just her friend. Take her out for a coffee somewhere, give her a chance to talk to you, see what her feelings are, she is in a difficult place right now and needs as much support as she can get, I should think.
