My 20 year old daughter

I'm sorry to hear this, but the best thing I could suggest is just be there for her. Talk to her, do things with her, keep her spirits up and show her you love her unconditionally. Maybe help her look for an apartment and depending on your situation, maybe offer her to come stay with you for a while until she get herself back together. That's a plus because you get to spend more quality time with her. I think more than anything you just need to be there for her. Her heart has to mend and that takes time. I'm pretty sure with your support, she will be fine. Good luck to you...

The only thing I can suggest is to be there for her. Be there when she needs a shoulder to cry on. The worst thing you can do is be judgmental at this point. Hug her, hold her close. Thats all you can do for her.

I think it's normal that she's still not herself because of what happened. Just give it time and she will eventually be her normal self. If you're worried about her depression. Try to be more vigilant in looking for the signs. It could also have if you talk to her and tell her that this is part of her life and she will eventually be able to move on.

I am sorry to hear that your daughters boyfriend threw her out like that and hope that she will be okay. If it runs in her dads side of the family, then you should check up on her and make sure she is okay. You should talk to her and let her know that you are there for her and that she can talk to you about anything. Let her know that you love her and care about her and want her to do well. She probably needs you very much right now. Hopefully she can find a boyfriend that will love her and treat her better and respect her.

please plase talk to her about getting help. I totally believe that depressionand chemical inbalances are heridtary. My grandfather on my dad's side commoted sucide and my uncle on my mom's side commites sucide, and i had 2 cousins that reied it and my brother, i have also attempted, but i am now treating my depression with medication off and on. Please have her seek help, even if it just to see a counslor to talk.

I would talk to her, try to cheer her up. Go out for a girls night out, and buy lots of junk food, rent a movie and stuff your faces... (that always cheers me up) or go to the gym together (to work off all of the junk food you just inhaled) and work out (working out makes most people feel better about themselves..) help her develop into a "better" person, go shopping, do something to keep her mind off the guy. I know this isn't what she wants to hear right now, but it's better he showed his true colors now, before they were married and with kids. encourage her to start a new hobby or something, maybe take some art classes or a yoga class. I hope all ends well.

No, I don't think you do. If she inherited depression, you would have seen signs of it before now. Everyone who loses a love has to grieve for awhile. Give her a chance to get over it in her own time, but watch for signs of worsening depression. Talk to her about it, and listen.

you should always watch her out if you believe that she can't handle herself with her depression. Better to figure out her weakness and know how to manage her. Let her forget his depression by giving her other outlet that she could enjoy.

im really sorry.......the best thing you can do is just be there for her as she needs somebody around with whom she can talk and let the depression alleviate....and at the moment she want people who are close u,family and friends...make her talk...if she keeps everything inside it will just be more n more worse...talk to her boyfriend if possible and try to solve the matter...i hope things get better... X

I think at this point of time she needs some support from your side. She is suffering from a problem but u shouldnt force her to talk u on this matter. You can try spending some time and slowly she will talk to u regarding her life. Intitially she will take sometime talking to u. But its the best thing to do to wait. Regarding the depression i dont think it will impact much if she is strong but its better not to take risk. U can try visitin her often.

Awww... I've never been thrown out by a boyfriend, but I sure have been burned (not literally), more than once. I could imagine she must feel pretty crappy right now. I was thinking, since you're really worried about her mental health, offering her to stay with you til she felt more positive might be a good choice? With someone around to talk to her and try to keep her up beat, she won't have the time to dwell too much on her hurt. The worst thing she could do is move out and live by herself where she'll have all that empty time to be depressed, and dwell on it. And very lastly, if you notice that she continues to look really down and depressed, maybe you could talk her into talking to someone about how she feels? It doesn't have to be a therapist, but maybe you could motivate her to sit down and tell you about her feelings and have a big hug session filled with ice cream and movies? I used to be very depressed. If someone had tried to do some little things for ME, it really would have made me feel much more loved than I actually felt. So if all else fails, give that a try. It really might just brighten her mood.

Daughters are one of the most important gifts bestowed by nature. Do u agree?

Just be her FRIEND....all she needs right now is someone who can put up with her ups and downs, she is going to cry on second and the next second she is going to be all quite and say nothing and the next one she is going to act complee normal.....just be there for here, ccept here for who she is right now,and try to get her mind busy so she dont think of him so much, take her out,and go to places she really likes to go, and do stuff she wants to do.... I experienced the same thing 4 years ago when I was 22, I broke up with my boyfrined after a 2 year relationship cuz he was aggressive....but went through hell to get over him.....my father took me away from here, to another country just to be away from him...

I think what your daughter receive before is a good time from your side and which lead to this life, but I suggest to give more time and love to her this shall make her life a good one

Your the mother... and it is your responsibility to oversee your kids future. Why did u allow your daughter to live with her bf? In my country even 20 yrs old are still living in the family... and some are treated like a baby...that situation really is depressing...dont u love her enough?

Yes, I would say that you may have something to worry about. I would sit down and discuss your concerns with your daughter and try to have her seek help if she feels extremely low.

Does she have a close friend or friends who could stay with her at her new apartment to help give moral support? She shouldn't be alone right now. Be there for her when she wants to talk. Let her know that she is special and her x-boyfriend is not deserving of such a prize. She needs a lot of encouragement and a lot of close friends to help her get through this. Also keeping busy with other projects will help keep her mind off the situation. I know from experience, the alone time is the worst. I'll keep her in my prayers.

I've been through depression when my boyfriend left me. But the best person that helped me was my mom and ofcourse my one and only Savior, Christ. Give her books to read especially the bible. I believe that would help her a lot. Please allow me to share this verse. Psalm 147:3 He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds. Let her know also that God definitely wants someone better for her. Tell her prepare herself for that guy. Godbless.

It is very bad incident you are her mother talk to her and told her what you want share your kindness with her she is your daughter she might listen you

sorry to hear that. i know how painful it feels. experienced it before. your daughter is still young. someday she'll meet the man who is worthy for her great love & affection & would live life at its best. tell her to enjoy life to its fullest. just pray wholeheartedly for courage & enlightenment to be able to surpass these trials. pain is only temporary. lift everything up to God & he will not fail you. prayers do really work wonders, it does move mountains. just give her all the love & support you could give for her to feel better. just be always at her side for comfort & care no matter what. my prayers are with you! god bless!