Does a lady have to abort the child of her rapist?
By EconKnowMix
@EconKnowMix (858)
Philippines
33 responses
@hiitssomu (657)
• United States
13 Jan 07
this is very critical situation of life.
the child haven't done anything wrong, so no way we can give him the rights to keep his first step to earth. any abortion is not good for mankind, as well as the individual mom.
again this is also too bad to have an unwanted child. she (mom) might not like the child whoes birth incident is related to an crime or unwanted situation for her mother. again doctor ppoint of view each child get their behaviour from their mother and father, i will never tell that a person who does rape a girl is a good person, they are alaways criminal category. so child may have few similar bad manner inherited from his.her father, which can be dangerous for the child as well as the society.
i personally feel that it is better not to have an unwanted child rather than abortion.
@simplechic (200)
• United States
13 Jan 07
She doesn't HAVE TO but it is her choice. Many women just choose to give birth and then put the baby up for adoption...which I think is the best option. Of course it depends on the woman because rape is a horrifying and traumatizing experience. Then again it's not the baby's fault.
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@sunita64 (6469)
• India
24 Jan 07
That depends on the feelings of the lady. Child is no way responsible and I feel should not be punished for the biological father. But what the lady has undergone can also not be ignored. So I think we should leave the choice to lady.
@cuterose (1698)
• India
26 Mar 07
i would strongly reccommend to abort the baby. reasn is, first of all the lady who's become pregnant by rape wont be happy with her pregnancy and she may be having hatred to the person who had raped her which would reflect on that baby. so, she wouldnt have love or affection to that babby. in that case, if the baby is born then it has to suffer hell in this world right from the day it comes to this world. what mistake is on that baby's side, to suffer from such a punishment? so i think, it would be better if the abortion is done. actually in this case we are not killing the soul, we are saving it from all future disasters in its life.
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@ginagee (843)
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26 Mar 07
This is a very difficult question. If she has the baby what does she tell the child when it's old enough about it's father, does she tell the truth, that she was raped, does she make up a story?? If she has an abortion she may feel guilty about aborting the baby. If she has the baby adopted could she live knowing that the child may one day come back and find her and ask questions. She should certainly never marry the person that raped her as that would make her life (and her childs) a living hell. Personally I would rather have an abortion and put it all behind me as much as I can, after all I didn't ask for this to happen to me so why should I suffer for the rest of my days. It's too easy for some people to say - have the baby, they must think beyond that and about all the repercussions. After all it could all come back on them when the child is growing and could get taunted by other children or even adults about its father and what he did to the mother. So it's definitely not a straightforward solution.
@pinkcarebear1350 (139)
• United States
3 May 07
I think that's up to her. But, in the case of rape... I believe that abortions can be considered the right thing to do. It's not her fault, nor is it the baby's... But, nonetheless that's a situation where abortion can be considered the right thing to do.
@lynn3024 (198)
• Canada
13 Jan 07
the joy of having the baby would over take the bad experience.
you'd be so filled with love for the baby that it wouldn't matter were he came from. it should not matter to women who the fathers of there children are only that they are a part of them and they have the joy of the experience of parenting.
@eden32 (3973)
• United States
14 Oct 07
"the joy of having the baby would over take the bad experience.
you'd be so filled with love for the baby that it wouldn't matter were he came from. it should not matter to women who the fathers of there children are only that they are a part of them and they have the joy of the experience of parenting."
Sorry, but that's absurd. My partner & I look at our son when he's sleeping & marvel together at how perfect he is & how he's a reminder of our love. I'm not ever going to stand over a bassinet holding a baby conceived by a rape & think fondly of when some barbarian violated me. If it doesn't matter who father's our children, why do most of us choose to do so within committed relationships?
The "joy" of parenting is not a joy for every one. I happen to love being a parent,but it's not all sunshine & butterflies. Parenting, more than any other commitment a person can make, is WORK. It's hard, it's sacrifices, it breaks your heart dozens of times in the course of getting your child safely to adulthood and then it breaks again when you accept that you've made it to adulthood.No one should be forced into that commitment against their will. No child should be raised by people who do not love, honor, cherish & treasure them.
@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
14 Jan 07
It is up to the woman to decide. She doesn´t have to if she wants to keep the baby.
I would definately have one if I was raped. i don´t think that i could ever love that child, even though it was 50% mine. I have been raped - luckily not pregnant and thatschild would just remember me about it every day. It is hard enough to live with the memory of beeing raped without having to see proof of iot every day!
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@cuddleme01 (2725)
• Philippines
13 Jan 07
NO. the child has nothing to do with what happened. the child is innocent. she shouldn't resort to abortion. She shouldn't commit that mistake only because her conception is due to rape.
@Gmdem13 (156)
• United States
29 May 08
First of all i have to say i disagree 100% with cuddleme01. I beleive that this woman should have ever choice to keep or abort the child. I personally dont think should have an opinion on abortion after rape unless you have gone through it yourself. i was raped when i was 13 i will tell you right now, if i was to get pregnent i would have an abortion. as much as i would love the child becasue it is part of me, the actual rape is already affecting me, if i had to spend 9 months carrying the child of my rapist, i would go insane. i dont think that if i was to have the child i would love it as much as any other child of mine only becasue every time i look at that babys face im gonna see one person. and its not going to be my child. i thinkthat people think more of the child than the actual situation. i think you have to try putting yourself in someone elses position for a chance. so you think that this woman should be upset and have the child of the man that raped her, and possibly be unhappy with her life. doesnt human happiness and life happiness have a part in ones life anymore?
@aparajitoc (365)
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13 Jan 07
No. The child must not be aborted as he/she is innocent. The goon must marry the women whom he raped. But the problem is not that easy. The girl won't be able to live with the rapist. So, this is not a solution.
@GloomCookieLex (6073)
• United States
15 Oct 07
I think I just threw up a little bit...
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@soumylegra (379)
• India
21 Jan 07
Well in India its a strict no.
The reason the social stigma she has to undergo because of no fault of hers, on top of that the child it would be more than wat she can take.
And the society wouldnt be willing to accept the child.even after growing up into an adult the kid would not be able to erase the scar n soothe the hurt inflicted.
@Sergio_Oliveira (120)
• Andorra
21 Jan 07
Of course not. The choice wether to abort or not is enterily up to the lady. Even though most would probably prefer an abortion, some disagree with it and would rather keep the baby.
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@EconKnowMix (858)
• Philippines
13 Jan 07
Thanks for the reply.
However the lady is confused she did not want to have that baby but she is afraid she will be condemed and commit sin.
@carolscash (9492)
• United States
29 May 08
I don't think that they have to abort the baby. I believe it is the woman's choice and that the child should not be killed just because of a rape. All children are conceived from the will of God and although we can't understand why it would be allowed it could be a blessing if she kept it. There is always the choice of giving it to a couple who really wants kids and can't have them.
I don't know what I would do in this situation. I guess it would depend on how I felt at the time. I believe that the lady has to do what her heart says that she should do.
@sheenshaukat (2617)
• Pakistan
2 Feb 08
No, she should not kill a child living in her womb and becoming her baby. The baby coming to this world is a custodian of the story of drama being played with the daughter of eve. This drama is full of horror and terrorism. The baby in her womb is symbol of weakness of female and it is a symbol of bedevil by the cruelest. It is a common and old story which is taking place here on the earth from very start of life. She should avoid abortion and should save the life and should learn to protect herself along with her newly born baby. This is a question at the end of lesson of the life
@shameh1202 (610)
• Philippines
14 Oct 07
In my opinion.. the lady or should I say the rape victim should not abort the baby even if it was formed by accident (rape thing). She should give some considerations. We are here on earth to multiply, to love, and be loved. Even though the father of her baby is a rapist, she must also consider that the she is the MOTHER of the baby and it is her responsibility to let the baby see our world. I hope this could somehow enlightened the thoughts of the rape victims who thought of aborting their babies.
@eden32 (3973)
• United States
16 Oct 07
Is your correction from "lady" to "rape victim" because you somehow feel being raped means you are no longer a "lady"?
This "rape thing" you mentioned, is not an accident. It is one person's choice to violate & brutalize another human, it happens to use the genitals as weapons. The potential child does not have a father, someone deposited DNA into it's mother against her will & will never be in this child's life, support it or care for it.
The woman in question has the right to love & be loved too. She has the right to feel safe in her body. She has the right to heal from this trauma however she sees fit & at whatever pace she wishes. If her healing process doesn't include wanting to gestate a pregnancy, that's her right.
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@algoespanol (60)
• United States
29 May 08
No, I don't think it's right to have an abortion under any circumstances. It's a life even if it was created by a rapist. Punishing the baby for the mistake of her father (or, occasionaly, mother, as to not be sexist) will not help anything.
@leocatubig (409)
• Philippines
29 Apr 08
No.... Even though it's accidentally happened...
It's a immortal sin to abort a child...
You take them their lives and to be a person like us..
It's illegal act here in our country...
