How do you deal with a supervisor you who is mean to you?

I had two supervisors that I had to deal with. One of them hated me for reasons unknown and she wasn't afraid to let me know. When I was lent to her department to work she was a total jerk. Then I opted to volunteer for a former supervisor who worked in the same department and when she saw me she said, "Your lucky your not on my side of the dock." I didn't think much of it but when I was lent to her again she was on me like white on rice and wrote me up. I took that paper to her boss and told him that there is nothing in my log that shows I did anything other then my job and that she has been after me for whatever reason. He ripped up the paper and told me she would not be allowed to borrow me from my department. Then a new supervisior came along and hated me because, well she was immature, and a band groupie. How someone like that gets to be in charge of anything is beyond me. Long story short she wrote me up so many times it was comical. I went to her boss who mediated for us. In the end she was transfered to another department and I went on with my life.

Be very nice to him! Do not let him know that he is upsetting you.

You should definitely speak to her boss. For one thing, swearing at co-workers is definitely unacceptable behaviour. You don't have to put up with that.

There was a supervisor at one place I worked and she was so rude. If you asked a question related to your work, she would roll her eyes and sigh as though you were the most unintelligent person in the world. Turns out she was thrust into a supervisory role when the previous supervisor left and no one else wanted the job. She wasn't confident or comfortable at all with her responsibilities and the only way she could establish herself was by making other people look and feel stupid. It was demeaning. If all of your officemates feel as you do, maybe you should request a departmental meeting with the supervisor (all of you and her). Let her know that, as a group, you feel that you're being harshly criticized and would like to hear her explanation of what is being done wrong and what she expects you to do to fix the situation. If she denies you the meeting, then you know her attitude is not a result of what you or your officemates are doing. She might be very insecure and could be treating you poorly just to feel that she is in control. Also, if she won't agree to the meeting or give you any constructive information to work with, you're in a better position to present the situation to the general manager. It will demonstrate that you tried to work with her to resolve your differences and she would not agree to be part of the process. It makes you look more responsible and not that you are just "tattling" on her because you don't like her. Good luck to you! It's awful to be miserable at your job, when you have to be there every day!

Have considered transfer to a different department? When you have a one on one with her, why don't you let her know how you feel of her way of handling things. Good luck!

sometimes there are people who are just realy hard to work with. I think that if she is truly impacting and affecting your work performance and how you feel when you are at your job, you should make the first move. I feel badly for you that you are in such a situation :/ I'll tell you, I don't understand why some people would put themselves in the job positions that they do. A good friend of mine worked for a charity organization called Make a Wish, and at her branch of MaW there was a female supervisor who might as well have been called the second coming of the Grinch, lol. She didn't allow anything like little birthday celebrations and definitely didn't want anything done for Christmas. And this is at a charity! You would thikn that anyone working for such a place would have a really open heart, since most of those positions aren't even paid ones. Huh. I'll never understand some people. I wish you good luck in getting this perfectionist supervisor dealt with. it sounds to me like she is on some kind of a power trip, and I sure would not enjoy working with her as my boss.

any position that requires leading people must be friendly and well-liked. if she's mean to everybody, dont you wonder why she had that job? if i were you, id do the first move and report her mean attitude to the general manager.

For me, i won't fight her back directly. But i would talk to her one to one. Advice her to treat her subordinate nicely. We are all employee of the company, and it shouldn't be a big deal at all. I mean shouting and criticizing won't bring better result for company, but it will deteriorate the working environment quality and lower down the employee morale. It's good if you approach her superior, at least to let higher management to be aware of what is happening. If the higher management is siding her, then you should consider to give up and quit. Coz it's really meaningless to stay and work for a company which promote favoritism.

well thats i think is the best idea to do something about it...why not suggest to your management some evaluation rate on employees where in employees are being rated for their performances for the given period of time ,, that is including supervisors and the like....in that way you can express or voice it out in writing all the complains or feedbacks of everyone concerned..without hurting anyones feelings...

id just quit. its just not worth it. if you'r not happy at work, then you won't be happy at home. theres alot of jerks in the world and you don't have to work with them!

Try to find out when your supervisor is in a good mood, then talk to her about it. Tell her what you feel, I believe she will be discussing this civil with you in a proper forum or timing, If she doesn't, then write a concern address to her, and send a copy to her boss. Good luck.

It sounds like your going to have to. If you don't it won't get done. You work there but your don't deserve to be treated badly. She has a job to do to and if she is wasting time yelling or criticizing someone needs to let a higher up know or you wont be able to do your job

If she cusses at you, you can report her to her management. Great way to get her fired. First try talking to her and let her know you dont appreciate it. Dont let upper management talk down to you just because of rank.

A perfectionist huh =). If she really don't treat you right and you feel shes abusing her authority as your superior and you believe that shes not helping the company by nagging every soul in your work place then you might think and report her to her superior. Maybe shes afraid that you'll outperform her =). I believe you have the right to know the reason behind her nagging.

i feel sorry to hear that. i had an experience about the mean supervisor when i did my practical when i was in the third year.she's so mean to me and also to my friends.it's unbeleivable. at the first stage i felt so sad but i thought once again what's the best solution for it.the best solution was i set a goal to perform the best works to make them impress especially to the general manager. i did many splendid jobs and it opened her eyes and my general manager.since with that kind of reputaions so no one could complaint anything about me and the supervisor got some respect on me :)

You need to tell someone you trust about her behavior. She is creating a hostile workplace. She has no right to make you feel bad. She also has absolutely no right to swear at you. My boss is always threatening us with losing our licenses. She says it every time we make a little mistake with paper work. She is so bad, two girls quit because she frightened them so badly. My friend told her why they quit and she was surprised. I had also told my assistant director why they quit too.

Nice thought, fairytopia88, but that kind is usually incompetent. They rarely appreciate their staff, or understand they're doing something wrong by acting like that. I supervised a project taking 300 calls a day about money from accountants, lawyers and some very annoyed people, with first-job kids as first line enquiry staff, and never even needed to raise my voice. Doesn't make me the world's greatest manager, but this was high density stress for everyone, and acting like that would have been utterly absurd, and entirely unjustified. Management is about knowing how to work with people and situations. If you can't do that you're a lousy manager. Vote with your feet. Go looking for somewhere with some decent management, and better career path.

She probably has experienced times in her life where she was not in control of something and overcompesates by being overly controlling whenever she can.

Is he/she abusing u? if not then... be patient for it. If she/he is abusing u then we can report it.

hmmm why dont you report it to the HR department?