My friend needs help
By tambdy
@tambdy (1967)
January 13, 2007 8:00am CST
He has been seeing this women for 4 years and he recently asked her to marry him. She has agreed but she also wants him to let her see other men.
Now he loves her to bits and i personally think he is going to let her, i have been trying to talk some sence into him that he should let her go. She kissed one of his friends one night and tried to get him to go up the stairs with her and he still forgave her.
Has anyone else had this experience because i feel i am going to lose him as a friend and i think he is just being used.
6 responses
@Lil_miz_ice_x (614)
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14 Jan 07
I think you're friends good nature is being abused by this woman -- she seems to just want the security of having a loving husband at home, but being able to go out on the pull as though she was single. She wants the best of both worlds so I think she should get rid of her before it's too late.
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@bachelorking (23)
• United States
14 Jan 07
Never let him forget you're his friend. I've gone so far as to be a groomsman at a wedding I didn't believe in because I wanted to let my friend know that I was there for him. As far as this female is concerned, I'd suggest to your friend to hit on some of her friends or at least tell her he thinks some of her friends are attractive to get her response. If she freaks out, she might start to see the pain she's causing. If she doesn't care, maybe he'll see that, as much as he may love her, monogamy just isn't her thing. As far as your sanity goes, know that there's nothing you can do if she's got her claws in him that deep and just ride it out.
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@margieanneart (26423)
• United States
14 Jan 07
The more you talk about his girlfriend, the more you will push him away from you. Sadly, but true. I am sorry that he is being hurt by this women. Pray for him to see her in the right light. Be there for him if he needs you. We all live our lives as we want and see fit too. Not always as others view it. Sorry dear.
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@ladygator (3465)
• United States
13 Jan 07
WOW! that is so sad. And usually it is the girl revsersal. But I am very sorry to tell you, althow you asked I doubt that there is much you can do. I would just leave it alone and keep being his friend. Cuz most likely he will stay regardless and you will have lost your friend. Chose the lesser of the two evils I guess. Good luck!
@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
13 Jan 07
It sounds as if she is playing him and he should probably think twice before marrying her. She seems to be the kind of woman who does want to eat the cake, but still keep it.
I think you are a good friend by caring and the best thing you can do is to try and talk with him and if he doesn´t listen to you, be there for him when the whole thing blows, coz it will, sooner or later!
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@tambdy (1967)
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14 Jan 07
Thanks for the reply, some good advice. You are right i care about all my friends.
@eseomame (1146)
• United States
13 Jan 07
What the heck is he still doing with her? It's plain obvious that she is not ready to settle down... and sadly, may never be.:( Please do me a favour... get your friend to levae that lady. Trust me, I'm a lady and I know what I'm talking about. He may be making the biggest mistake of his life.
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