How can I convince my dad that I'm all grown up now?!
By mochiko
@mochiko (65)
United States
January 13, 2007 3:47pm CST
I am so tired of how my dad treats me. He has lived in America for more than 30 years but old habits truly die hard. Back in his home country, he's used to obedient and shy girls who live at home until they're married. It's ridiculous, in my opinion! I have just recently turned 28 and my dad gave me a cold shoulder and hurt my feelings terribly when I finally moved out last year. In order to appease my mom and try to heal the rift between my dad and me, I have moved back in. He has tried to be a little more mature and appears to be holding back whenever I stay out late or stay out all night. However, it is only appearances because I know he doesn't approve of it and gives me lectures about it all the time. What can I do to make him realize I am grown up?! What can I tell him? I have tried talking to him in a rational manner, repeatedly assuring him that I am being safe, and I always tell my parents where I am so they know that I'm okay. This is getting to the point where I can't stand it anymore, and I have only moved back in for one month!!!! Please, tell me what I can do to CUT THE STRINGS without cutting off all ties with my family!!
1 response
@cindyspassions (510)
• Lampe, Missouri
13 Jan 07
i don't have a dad that has been like that. i moved out of my moms when i was 12 and moved in with my aunt and uncle. but you are 28 and you are old enough in our country to move out and do what you want with in the laws gide lines.
@mochiko (65)
• United States
13 Jan 07
Thanks for your response. Well, this will come as a shock but I am in the United States!!! I was born and raised here, yet I feel as if I'm back in my dad's homeland. I have American ideas, thoughts, and the urge to be an individual, yet I find it's difficult to make my dad understand.
