How many people here have been divorced or are divorced?

United States
January 13, 2007 8:31pm CST
I'm curious how many people on MyLot are divorced or have been divorced and perhaps remarried. I myself am HAPPILY divorced and have no ambitions to ever marry again!!!!
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@ugachaka (297)
• United States
20 Jan 07
Not divorced personally...heck, not even married. But I've been surrounded by divorce my whole life, which is probably a big reason why I'm not married yet. My parents were both married in their early twenties to other people, then they got a divorce to be with each other and had me. Both of them again went on to marry once more. My dad has a favorite saying: "You can only split nothing in half so many times." Hopefully, they've finally learned their lessons and either find a relationship that will go the distance or learn to be happy with their current predicament.
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• United States
22 Jan 07
LOL... I do like your dad's saying!
@onesiobhan (1327)
• Canada
14 Jan 07
I have split up with partners that I was in a long-time relationship with. It wasn't legally a divorce, but it sure *felt* like one.
• United States
15 Jan 07
lol.. close enough eh?
@Stiletto (4579)
31 Jan 07
I got divorced at 21. So long ago I never describe myself as divorced - just single. I'm 45 now and never been tempted to get married again.
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@dorypanda (1601)
14 Jan 07
I have never been married (or divorced), I started living with my partner when I was 18 and he was 21, we're still HAPPILY unmarried at the moment, 15 years later! My partners sister has been divorced, but not long after her divorce (but long enough) she found someone who was much better for her, she's now happily married to him and living back near her family.
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@pirtlems (245)
• United States
31 Jan 07
i have been married and divorced twice. married ist time lasted 3 years . married 2nd time lasted 7 yrs. married 3rd time going on 31 yrs.
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@cjsmom (1423)
• United States
31 Jan 07
I'm on my third and last marriage. The first divorce was my fault, the second was because of abuse and the third is very happy. Thank goodness. It's been 18 years now and we have a wonderful son.
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@sureshmoe (974)
• India
1 Feb 07
I always not accepted the divorce...Why it occurs? Because of not having good understanding between each other and no compromise between each other...
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• United States
2 Feb 07
That's because you have been lucky enough not to experience something worse. There is NO person in this world who should stand by and allow abuse of ANY type, simply to save the name of "marriage". And abuse can come in physical and mental forms.
@missyd79 (3438)
• United States
24 Jan 07
i am going through a divorce now. finally i have been seperated from my ex husband for 3 years now. My current boyfriend talks about marriage but i am not so sure i want to go through that again, i would be content just living together for the rest of our lives.
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• United States
24 Jan 07
Just be careful and don't jump into it all at once. Enjoy the liberation for a bit. If your current b/f and you are meant to be, it will happen eventually. Men are so much more eager to remarry then women I find. At least for the most part.
• Canada
14 Jan 07
1st relationship: dated for six years, married for 12, two kids, got a divorce (which took about 2 1/2 years to complete) 2nd relationship: met online, built a friendship, then a relationship over a period of about 3 1/2 years, and have been married for three years now.
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@cyntrow (8523)
• United States
1 Feb 07
I'm on my 4th marraige. I do believe I should have waited for this one, but when you're you and stupid, you do stupid things.
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• United States
1 Feb 07
Well... at least you are persistent!!!! lol
@ukchriss (2097)
8 Feb 07
I was married divorced, married again and divorced again, now happerly living with someone. Like you have no ambitions to ever marry again!!!! why do we need a piece of paper to be happy anyway?
• United States
8 Feb 07
Well said! After the first one... who's counting? LOL
• Canada
1 Feb 07
I am still married for now and waiting on the divorce to be finalized........if I find another man I might want to get remarried....it depends though.....ny husband and I have been seperated for almost 4 years and in that time I did have another relationship and I honestly considered getting married but the relationship ended so yeah now I am not sure if I want to get remarried or just have a relationship only time will tell I guess hey
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• United States
2 Feb 07
Good luck and don't rush. If it's meant to be.. it will be as easily in 10 years as it would in 2. Work on YOU and making YOU happy right now.
@funnycole (392)
• United States
31 Jan 07
I am married for the second time. Sadly, I think this one might end in divorce also, even though we truly are soul mates, have a tremendous amount in common...etc. read on.. After my first marriage, I truly knew what I DIDN'T want in a relationship. My current husband met all the what I wanted criteria, (one of our first dates was a hockey game Kings vs Blackhawks), I actually caught a puck!!). Our only problem is that about 4 years after we were married he began to experience periods of severe depression, followed by manic episodes...(bipolar). Depression was something we talked about (his grandmother had it), but he hadn't experienced any problems with it before we married and we knew if it began we would deal with the antidepressants etc. The mania though was another situation. I was stunned by that and am still at a loss how to deal with it. My husband has now moved out and well the rest is history. Would I marry again...don't think so. I've got 2 strikes on me and this is not the kind of hat trick I would strive for in my life.
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• United States
1 Feb 07
I have to tell you, I dated a man with bipolar and manic episodes. Thank GOD I didn't follow my heart, which told me I did love him, and instead followed my BRAIN which said GET OUT NOW! It's not a life I would wish upon anyone and the stresses are unreal. I feel your pain. I hope that you can find happiness in your own life. It's not the end of the world not to be married. I'm happily UNmarried now and honestly doubt I'll ever change that.
• United States
4 Feb 07
thank you for your kind words.
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• India
8 Feb 07
i am not divorced. we are married for 10years now and cutting the 11th anniversary cake this march..but yes sometimes yes situation get so hot that i feel its gonna drown my relation. so keep cool....
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• United States
8 Feb 07
Congrats on 11 years! I remained married for nearly 20 but I have to admit, most of it wasn't worth staying for! LOL
@sweetie88 (4556)
• Pakistan
14 Jan 07
I am single yet and never got married yet. Y have u dishearted???? I think that life is full of good and bad expereinces. U should get married again and tried ur luck once again. This world is full of bad and good people and u'll have good as well as bad expereinces in this world but anyhow, its urs own choice. I should n't interfare in urs personal matter but i gave u an idea.
• United States
15 Jan 07
I wouldn't say I'm dishearted as much as I figure I've done that route and don't really think I want to put the time and effort required into a relationship at this point in my life. I'm really very happy being "alone" and raising my kids. While sometimes I do yearn for male companionship for the most part I really don't think I want to put up with all the crap that goes with it! lol But don't be disheartened by comments made by those that have been married and are done with it. I truly do believe that marriage can be a wonderful thing and a happy thing if the right people find each other. I'm not against it by any means, just don't think I want to ever have to go through the drama and all the work involved. I'll keep a boy toy on the side, send him home when I'm done. LOL
@forfein (2507)
16 Jan 07
Hi Yep, count me in Been married, been divorced, and married again! This one is the last one though!!
• United States
17 Jan 07
LOL... good luck! Keep ahold of him and make him behave!
• United States
16 Jan 07
I am divorced, and I have no desire to marry.
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• United States
17 Jan 07
You know... I see mainly women saying that! LOL Wonder why?
@linda345 (2661)
• Canada
14 Jan 07
I got married way to young, had 2 kids and got divorced after 3 years. Next about 3 years later had a live in relationship, had one kid, ended after 3 years. Married again, very happily for 6 years.
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• United States
15 Jan 07
Well I will say you are persistent! Congrats on finding the right one! I hope you have continued happiness the rest of your lives!
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@starpawan (176)
• India
14 Jan 07
hello friend... i am still single i.e. unmarried so no DIVORCE and never plan for DIVORCE after being married to someone who i love the most. We will trust each other. Always be Positive, Right.
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• United States
15 Jan 07
Definitely! I hope you find the right person. I'm not bitter on marriage, I think it's a wonderful thing and can be very wonderful with the right person. I just think I myself did it once, don't really want to put that much time and effort into a relationship (at least right now) and am so happy without a husband that I don't really mind!
@celray (141)
• United States
14 Jan 07
Iam divorce and remarried 11 years ago, today we have a blended family with 7 kids.
• United States
15 Jan 07
Can you tell me honestly that the blended family think is working? I'm curious. I've honestly never seen one that truly was happy. I hope I'm wrong and yours is very happy.. but I am curious!