U n f i n i s h e d Business

Your ex does know you are engaged, right? He does not respect that and wants to talk? I suspect he is just testing his power over you for the sake of his own ego. If you love your fiance, if you really plan on getting married, don't see the ex. You should be really suspicious of your ex's motives.

In my opinion, if you really feel the need to talk to your ex, you should do it, but don't do it behind your fiance's back. To start a habit of lying is a HUGE mistake and a sure-fire way to lose trust in one another. If you must, tell your fiance that you need to do this to get some closure on the old relationship and assure him of your love. Try to put yourself in his shoes -- how would you feel is he wanted to get together with an old girlfriend? It would probably make you uneasy. I've been married for 25 years and can tell you that honesty has been a major factor in the success of my marriage. I don't lie to my husband or keep things from him and he feels the same way. What you are probably experiencing is simple "cold feet." Since you are about to be married, maybe you are a bit nervous, which is normal. It is important to put the past behind you, though, and focus on your life ahead. I wish you well!

Since you mention your fiance is not comfortable with you speaking to this guy, I would not go unless you want to argue with your fiance. If you can, just put all of your unresolved business with this guy down in an email and send it to him just to get it off of your chest andhim out of your head. I definately think you need to resolve this prior to getting married or it will haunt you. Before you get married sort out your feeling for both of these guys, it may save you the pain of a unhappy marriage and divorce.

if you feel you have ufinished things together still, you should meet him, not cheating, but for a talk...it will be better for you!

If you can't get someone out of your mind it's for a reason. It sucks that you would have to be sneaky about seeing him. But there is nothing wrong with doing so. You will love several times in your life, even after you are married. And every relationship is for a reason. Think of your ex as a teacher instead of a threat to your fiance. Find out what it is you are to learn from the relationship you had with him.