Daycare or Not?

i thought its always good to send your infant to preschool.our children learn to mingle with others and stand on their own toes.

My children will never go to daycare because I've worked in 3 different ones and I wouldn't want my kids any of the 3. One was the highest rating a daycare can get in the stars system. (I don't know if you have that wherever you are) The other two were close. I had many children in my class that were there when the daycare opened and they were the last ones to be picked up in the evenings. I don't understand why people have children just to have someone else raise them.

We had our share of daycare horrors let me tell you. One of the worst was a very highly rated pre-k. This pre-k expected 3 and 4 year olds to sit still for 2 hours while the teacher lectured. If they couldn't sit still they would tell the parents they had ADD and to get them checked out. Now my niece was big for her age but she was the one picked on by this group of girls, she'd have bruises from it and nightmares. When we talked with the people at the school about it, first they wouldn't believe it. They figured since she was bigger no one would bother her (yeah right) and then they finally stated "What do you want us to do about it?" That was the final straw and we took her out of Montessori. This is just the last example. We had one that would put kids in time outs by locking them in a high chair and leaving them there for hours. We only found out because my sister went to pick up my neice early. We had others that wouldn't want them to get dirty at all, if they did they had to go home. Of course they played out in a playground with dirt. We had one that showed the kids a goosebump movie, to 4 year olds. The list goes on. There are some very good day cares out there. You just have to watch, be alert and be willing to check up on what is going on. Know your kid and know if there is a problem or not. The more you know the more you can be prepared.

My grandson will be 2 1/2 years next month and goes to preschool, and likes it a lot.He plays with other children and they also learn a lot. I dont think there is a problem with preschool at all. But he only goes twice a week.

I totally agree. I did not send my kids to daycare until they could talk. I felt it was better that way because they could tell me when something happens.

I have a six month old daughter and i wouldn't send her to daycare. i know some daycares are ok.. but how do you know they are getting the proper attention they need. Also what's the point in having kids if your going to send them off for strangers to raise them everyday ?

It's good to see you thinking about things. Yes, stay at home with your children, those years are very precious.

hmmm in my life no daycare because every day i care to everyone i love everybosy my friend, my family thank you se you

I used to work in a daycare as well, in the kitchen. When I did my daughter ( who was 18 months at the time) attended the daycare there. I didn't have any problems with it, as I was right there. I also knew the teachers and got along with them. My daughter was a very outgoing child and always loved going to day care. My son is a very shy child and has never attended day care. We have thought about it and disussed it a few times, but it just isn't right for him. We have moved since I worked at the day care and he would be attending one where we don't know anyone. I'm sure for some kids this would be fine, but my son has a hard time staying with people that he knows sometimes.

Me personally i work from home just so my kids dont have to go to daycare! I like to teach my kids and get them ready for preschool/headstart... and its alot of one on one time also... I think that daycare isnt a bad place but i rather help my child one on one and know that they can get that extra help than what one teacher has to share at a daycare with so many other children. Thats my insight on daycares but their ok if you have to use them.

Yes I think it not worth keeping the children in a daycare as specially when they are very small they won't be able to tell us if they are mistreated or they are tortured in any way in certain cases when there is a need for both the parents to go to work then it can't be helped but still it is very sad, sometimes if the people managing the daycare are nice bY God's grace then it is OK, but very rare.

I am 46, 2 1/2 years ago, my husband and I decided that I would quit work and stay home to take care of my grand babies. I could not fathom the notion of letting strangers at day care take care of them. If you watch the news, you hear of a child that had been hurt in daycare, I realize that the reports a few and far between, but one child hurt by an uncaring worker is too many for me. I also know that accidents happen and can in my home just the same, the thing is I trust my gut reactions and responses much more than I would a total strangers. I would be very interested in hearing why you feel like this having worked in the day care world.

No I don't send my child to daycare but will send him to preschool at the age of four. Our schools are over crowded and there is a waiting list for the preschool.

I totally agree. It doesn't seem fair to the kids to send them to strangers when they can't speak.

Its a very good conclusion. When it's possible, it's always better for parents to raise their own children. No one can hand down your wisdom like you can.

No daycare here. I stayed at home with my little one the first 15 months. I just started back to work last week, only working 2 days a week. While my Husband and I are at work, my mother in law takes care of our Son.

There is a risk though even when the kids are old enough to verbalize , at that age which is about 4 years old their imagination is also well developed. They may make things up and verbalize them. You have to be careful, if you don't trust where you send your child then you should find a different place because in the end you may never have a way to tell for sure what is going on there. If you don't trust the provider, then you shouldn't allow them to watch your kids.

Well to be honest I myself am quite leery of daycare,s or in home sitters. We had a couple of bad experiences with my daughter who is now four. Her first sitter that she stayed with, ended up neglecting her, sticking her in the stroller all of the time, didn't play with her, onyl fed her fast food, oh it went on and on. The second one we had problems with , had hit my daughter over the head with a brush when she wouldn't let her brush her hair, she would take her underware for her own daughters and then tell me that it was lost ,same with her clothing and toys. She would also spank her, and put her in diapers when we had asked to keep her in underware. So yeah. I mean if you trust the daycare, I would say go for it, but ask a million and one questions, make sure you meet with everyone who will be attending to your child, make sure you know where that child is going to be during the day, nap time, diaper changes, etc.

Kids should be taken care of by their parents , other people will teach them their own way.

If you do send your kids to daycare please check out the daycare throughly....with the state and everthing. Read all the public data about that daycare. I had a bad experience with a daycare that seemed to be a very good christian private care.....looks can be decieving....please check them out before you leave your kids there.