Stay at home mom
By tohot666
@tohot666 (300)
United States
January 13, 2007 11:11pm CST
Now a days people seem to get irked at the fact that a woman would wanna sit home and care for the children. When did the standards change on this. Not so long ago it was the norm. I have worked through all of my pregnancies and promptly returned to work as quickly as possible after. I do see the benefits of a 2 parent household, but at the same time, there is so much that I have missed and continue to miss.
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@Ciniful (1587)
• Canada
14 Jan 07
I chose to be a stay at home mother, simply because I didn't want a day care raising my kids. I wanted to be the one to teach them, and instill proper conduct in them, and I wanted to be the one who saw their first steps, heard their first words, etc ... not some day care worker who tells me about it at the end of the day.
I did choose a career choice I could pursue at home, web design ... so that when I start feeling completely unproductive, I have that to remind myself that I am doing something with myself other than just being a mother. But I chose it specifically because I could drop it at a moments notice to go read a book with my son or do bead necklaces with my daughter.
I haven't run into a lot of problems with people for my choices ... if anything, I've had a few that assumed I must be living off of government assistance, since they never saw me leaving my house for work, lol. My husband works nights and sleeps days, so they didn't see much of him and made interesting assumptions .. but that's a very slight few. Most have been completely accepting of my choices to remain home.
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@clownfish (3269)
• United States
14 Jan 07
Hi! I am a work at home mom. When my daughter was a baby, my hubby and I decided that I would stay home with her and try to work if I could get good enough jobs. I have been blessed to find some great jobs that have allowed me to stay at home with my daughter and work. Truth be told, to get a job outside the home and pay for daycare would leave us with a lot LESS money at the end of the month. If people thought I was lazy or whatever, then so be it. I know the contributions I make to my family! :-)
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@clownfish (3269)
• United States
14 Jan 07
Hi! Oh, absolutely. I just used to have a friend who would call me all the time - sometimes 5 and 6 times a day. I guess she thought all I had to do all day was sit around and talk to her! LOL
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@Lisamommy (111)
• United States
17 Jan 07
I love being a work at home mom. I am glad my husband has been able to support me in the decision to stay at home a raise my son. When I first got pregnant, I was so terribly sick throughout my whole pregnancy, I had to quit working. I haven't worked outside my home since. I work at home now with a wellness company, I love being able to work around my own hours. I love being a customer of these great products and helping other work at home too. I think it's wrong for other to say it's wrong for the mother to stay at home. With all the troubles going on in the world, mothers should all be staying home and teaching there children right from wrong. Otherwise, these children are growing up with no attention given to them. Of course I know some mothers have to work, but if they have a choice, they should stay home.
@elegant5 (12)
• United States
27 Jan 07
No one else can make that decision for you. It must be based on your individual situation and that of your family. I believe that both partners in a relationship need to contribute to that relationship in all areas, however, how that is done needs to be decided between the two of them. I wouldn't be fulfilled as a person if I wouldn't have given myself an education and a career, but that is not to say that for another woman it would be so. We all seem to think that OUR children can only be best taken care of by their own parents, and unfortunately that is not always true. Yes, of course, the parents love the children, yet many do not possess the skills to parent well. I have often seen stay-at-home moms complain of boredom, and irritability towards their children, and I wonder if that is such a great environment for the children to be in?? An unfulfilled mother may not benefit her children by just staying home and being around them. It's a complicated issue for sure and needs to be discussed and looked at in a very honestmanner. A good day care provider is healthy for most children and can benefit the entire family. I personally believe that working part-time is the ideal way to go. It doesn't matter which parent works part-time, but probably the person who makes the least amount of money and has the desire to stay home with the children would make most sense. Regardless of who works where and when, giving children a special time each day where you relate to them and provide them with a connection to you, will cement your closeness with them!!!
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@halloween41 (39)
• United States
15 Jan 07
My fiancee and I both agreed that if we can do it and we can make it financially than this is the best decision for our children. I want to be there for everything, even the days I go insane. I also worked up til the day I went into labor and after that I have been home with my child. I guess today more women want to work and have careers and men recognize that, but I am more traditional. Nothing against those moms that work, those that do because they have to or because they want to. I just enjoy being a stay at home mom.
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