What do you do when your family keeps asking you when you are getting married?
By JerZGrl73
@JerZGrl73 (11)
United States
January 13, 2007 11:49pm CST
My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 4 years. We know what direction we are going in together, we know we want to eventually get married, sooner than later. But the family keeps asking when we are going to get engaged/married and we both feel like there will never be any surprise to getting engaged because of people constantly asking. What could we do to make them understand our point of view? We are just waiting for the right time.
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@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
14 Jan 07
You need to sit down with both families and explain that you are not ready to get engaged or married. Ask them to stop talking about it as this is your decision and it will happen when you are ready and them bothering you makes the wait even longer. Most people do get enegaged and/or married around the 3-4 year mark in their relationship. I would bet that this has more to do with them wanting grandkids and making sure you aren't "living in sin" than them actually wanting you to be married for the right reasons.
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@lonewolfnan (4366)
• Canada
14 Jan 07
My family has recognised my relationship and the fact that I will not get married again(once burned,twice shy).They do not bother me about it.In fact,the only ones who do keep asking are from the church we use to go to but no longer are allowed to participate as we live in sin.
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