I got fooled
By Marie2473
@Marie2473 (8512)
Sweden
January 14, 2007 6:29am CST
This is really kind of embarrasing, but at the same time I know that it happens to more people than me.
I just wish I would have seen the signs before. As some of you may know - I was in an abusive relationship before, that was all lies and pain. I was in it for 4 years and during those 4 years I thought that this was the way life should be and I even thought I loved him.
Anyways, during these 4 years "we" bought alot of things on credit, took alot of loans and ofcourse they were all in my name.
When we broke or I broke up i was left there with alot of debts that we before used to pay together.
I tried to make it work, but eventually i just stopped paying, coz I just couldn´t make it.
This has resulted in all the debts going to a different place and th at place is now taking money directly out of my paycheck. (do not know the name of the place in english)
Anyways. they have made a "budget" and according to this, they are allowed to take $630 every month maximum, but they also have to "save" enough money for me to get by.
I do not know how this will end although I am kind of glad that they have taken "over". Now I see a light and think that things eventually will be paid off and I can have a normal life again!
I just hate the fact of what I let this man put me through and for so long as well...
Nice to have put my thoughts down, that really helps sometimes =)
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5 responses
@tigrashadow (1086)
• Australia
18 Jan 07
do they all do it or something? lol when my abusive ex and i broke up i had debts i had to pay off cos it was under both our names and of course if one disappears..the other is left with the debt...even though he still had the items i had to pay off..
we call them debt collectors here and you can offer to pay a certain amoutn a month that you think you can pay or leave it at what they say......but im with you..the sooner its paid off the better...
its amazing what we let them do to us...emotional, physical and financial abuse...
i was so happy when we werent together anymore as it meant i had all my money for me.
good luck on paying it back...and yes it sux that we get used like that and yes many will say we were stupid to stay but unless you have been there you dont know what it feels like in that relationship....you think thats the best you can do for yourself, or that they will change cos they keep saying it, or remember only that you love them and you deserved it...the list goes on..
im just glad that you are out of it now and in a loving relationship....hope you get the other stuff paid off asap
take care
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@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
18 Jan 07
I am also glad that he´s out of my life and that I am free from him adn his abuse. I will manage to pay it off but it will take time, but in the end I will be stronger =)
@lauriefnp (5109)
• United States
17 Jan 07
I admire your strength and determination to resolve this and to finally put it all behind you. What kind of a man would leave you with all of this debt? Well, I guess that you already answered that when you said that he was an abusive liar. Good for you, taking the high-road and doing the right thing for yourself. I'm sure that it took a lot of courage to get out of that, and you're much better off now. It will be worth living on a budget for a while just to know that this will all be over with soon! Good Luck!
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@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
18 Jan 07
yeah it will be all worth it in the end, and I do know that i will robably become stronger from this. i will never ever let anyone use me like that again. I was young and naive and after beeing abused i had no confidence to speak up... But he is the one who will suffer from it in the end... he has almost noone left in his life, just because of the person he is.. and no money in the world is worth beeing all alone!
@claudia413 (4280)
• United States
14 Jan 07
What a hard way to learn not to do something like that again. It'll be a lot better for you when this is all over and everyone has been paid in full. I'm sure you're going to get a lot of responses here from other people who did the same thing. Good luck to you in getting all of this behind you.
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@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
14 Jan 07
Thanx for commenting. yes i did learn the hard way, but I know I will pull through =)
@dustyland87 (148)
• United States
17 Jan 07
Wow that really sucks, my wife had to go through something similar. When she was married to her ex he messed her credit up pretty bad and she spent years trying to fix it. She's not got it better and under control but yea it does suck when you trust and love someone and they use you like that.
@Adrieanna (79)
• United States
17 Jan 07
Wow, thats pretty harsh seeing that it seems like he knew what he was doing! But know that you know what could happen when u mess up and fall in love, next time Im sure you will check his credit too!
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