i love a girl

I see that all these members are being so skeptical to you, and all you did was ask for advice on what to do, not what they think your moral character is. So hopefully I can give you some good advice. When you married, I am sure you did it for what yo u thought were the right reasons. But now you have to ask yourself if you love your wife enough to stay married. If you do, then you can work on getting your previous love out of your mind. If there is no way that you can forget about your love, and you don't have the same feelings for your wife, then you need to tell your wife or make a separation. It is just not fair to her to live a lie with you. Good Luck!

stop it! your married-doesn't anyone take their vows seriously anymore? you will in your lifetime love many people, and thats fine, just don't act on it.

why have decided to marry your wife if you still have unfinished business reagarding your past one? marriage is not something that you should take for granted, you should have thought several times before going into this because that will only complicate your life. you may not be seeing this girl but you are considered cheating your wife emotionally. i suggest that you should forget about this girl and move on. you already have someone with you and i guess you do love your wife or else you may have not married her. try to spend more time with your wife and try to have some activities with you to focus your attention and to stop thinking about your past one. you already have a new life and you should deal with it.

Im no good in giving advises but i'll give it a try, since you did not mention anything or the reason why you and your ex broke up and why you end up getting married to your wife? I think you need to weigh your feelings between your past and your future. I mean, its not going to be fair for your wife if she know about this. Since you marry her why dont you just concentrate with her and learn to love her and move on. Anyway, she's going to be the one whom you choose to spend your life with. If you think that you're relationship with her wont work up because of your feelings for your ex then better tell her the truth the earlier if no kids are involve at the moment. I really hope you are going to make a right decision at the end and hopefully you wont regret it.

you just told us you dont understand the meaning of marriage..one and no other.

Hi Sikkim, More details about the subject would have been better. For example: your age, her age, whether u and she leave in the same area, castes, etc. etc. If u were in real love with your ex love say Smita, then you ought to have married Smita, and Smita only. It must have been a mere physical attraction between you 2 and nothing else. Lets take it for granted you deeply loved her but couldn't marry her for obvious reason, then you should have settled the matter before getting married. Did you try? If yes, then what was the outcome? In who's favor? And have you informed this to your wife?What was her reaction? Had it been the other way round, ie you tried but didn't succeed. In that case forgive and forget. You tried your best. Do you really love Smita? Do you feel that she should live a good life? Then it is high time that you forget her. That is in your and her interest. If you are not in a position to forget her, then you are not mentally satisfying you Wife. Somewhere in the back of your mind you have Smita, and somewhere else, your wife. Consider the same thing in a different manner. If your wife is not in a position to forget, say some Shahrukh Khan of her earlier life, and if she still thinks of that SRK, don't u think that it will affect your and your children's life?. Similarly it will affect your married life, and similarly Smita's life as well. If yes, then it is high time, you forgive and forget,{ or at least try to] your ex love and wish her a dedicated love and married life. I hope you understand and settle down in common interest. I know it is easily said then done. But it is high time, you decided positively. Live and let live. God bless you in positive thinking, at the earliest.

you're just so mean.... if you have known to that feeling you have for your previous lover you shold have not get married! better reflect in yourself what's really best for you & give the decision as early as possible as there would not be too much to sacrifice yet - no kids to sacrifice for your biggest foolishness. Marriage should be of the Holy Matrimony of God that you faced to promise everything. wish you good luck boy!

you should not have married,you are deceiving your present partner and sooner or later she will feel this.You are cheating your wife out of you being with her completely so when she tires of your short handed loving she will leave you