Talking to your kids

Talking to your kids about your mistakes,is one way to ensure they don't repeat those mistakes in their lives,it good and should be encouraged.

I am only 21, but I know I can talk to my parents about anything. I know many things they have done, and I think if you talk about your mistakes and be open and admit your faults, kids notice that and will learn from that. I think denying things and avoiding your past will only make your children be hesitant in getting honest, contentful advice and responses from you. Indeed I do not know from experience of being a parent, but I know from experience of being a child.

My daughter is only 9 going on 10. I have had little chats with her about how I can relate to things she has done and goes through and I am sure as she gets older the chats will get more serious. I will be honest and open with her.

Yes most definitely I can talk to my boys about anything and they know they can talk to me too about anything on their minds. And yes I have shared with them different mistakes that I have felt I made when I was growing up as well as how I would have done it differently!!! It's so important these days as a parent to let your children know they can come to you and that you will be completely open and honest with them - because if they know they can come to you then you know that the healthy communication which is lacking in a lot of families these days won't be happening in your home and I prefer it that way!!! I don't think you should ever lie to your kids about things you did when you were younger - that's just wrong!!!

Definitely. I never want my kids to think I was perfect. They should understand that sometimes we make wrong choices, just like they will. I do make sure I let them know what consequences I paid when I made that bad choice or that it was a wrong choice to make. I truly do think that being honest with your kids is the best thing.

when the time comes i will tell them all the mistakes that i made in life so that they can understand and they will not repeat the same mistake that i did

I have always talked openly to my children about my triumphs and mistakes. The unfortunate thing is that they tend not to learn from my mistakes. They are making mistakes of their own.

This is the way of protecting and saving our children from our past sins, to avoid them in the future...!.

My kids are actually only 2 and 5 right now but as theu get older and need to know things then yes i definatley will. I will probably stress over how i will bring it up but once i have it will all flow as smoothly as it should. It is best to be as open and honest with your kids as you possibly can!!

this is a good one. it will be must for the parents to talk to their kids if they r doing the same mistakes. this will really make ur heart light. and also it gives ur kids some idea about what they r doing. about my self i will for sure if it is a must.

Yes, and I have used this as a tool for the reason why I know what they want to do is a bad idea. But for the most part I wait for the appropriate time or age in which to disclose my personal teenage mistakes and then of course there are those things in which they really just don't need to know nor do I need to relive.

My daughter is only 2. I am pretty sure, though, that once she is of age that I'll be able to do it. Children need guidance and what better way to do that than to let them know you've been there? Communication is important in all relationships. Including Mother/Daughter relationships.

I have a super relationship with my daughter now, she is 25 but when she was a teenager she was full of the attitude. I could see her heading for disaster but when I tried to talk with her about it of couse I knew nothing and she knew it all. So I tried to talk with her when ever the situation arose that I had first hand experience but if she listened to me that is another story.

My two teenage boys I now can. When they were younger, I would do it in a generalization sort of way. But now, to use as a teaching lesson, sure. Both my husband and I are very open about our mistakes. We fell that that gives us basis and a solid foundation to back up [if] we need to tell them "no" about something and why.

I do it. But irony of it is that the mother and the son donot listen to me and just avoid to listen my comments !!!

Recently on the discussion bout failing I told my son How I had failed in my first year of college then made it up next year to the rank of topper by working real hard and changing my subjects. I would like to share everything with him, to let him know trhat failures and mistakes come and go but I will always be the one he could count on and he shopuld try and turn things according to his will and not feel depressed by failures nd niether shopuld he feel afraid to tell me his mistakes as we can work out thiongs together if he is honest with me abiut everything. To ask for honesty and trust you should giove them first. I believe in this but how far I am true only time will tell.

Yes, here lately, me and my son have been having alot of open communication and He and I both talked about school or his friends, he wanted to know how it was for me growing up and how I acted. Was I like him etc etc...I believe in open communication and being honest with him because I want him to be honest with me...

Yes I can so they can learn from hearing about mine.

Yes in hopes that they would not be making the same mistakes I have made.

I think you can and actually I do.I think it is very important for pur children to know that we are not super heros.That we made mistakes in our past and we do not judge them for their mistakes.I try and tell my kids that if it is a mistake that I have already made just try and learn from mistake instead of us both having to make the same one.