How important is verbal affection. All are rated!
By dextrophobia
@dextrophobia (155)
United States
January 14, 2007 3:09pm CST
How important is hearing things like compliments, and things like "I love you!".
Personally I find in very important. It's not that I NEED to hear things to believe them, but I feel that if I constantly say it and don't get it in return, perhaps my intentions to make those feel better by saying things like that are fruitless.
How important is verbal affection?
8 responses
@SisterLove (304)
• United States
14 Jan 07
As a woman I need to have affection physcially and verbally. Hearing it verbally just gives me the opportunity to remeber that someone in my life made me feel important to them at that moment. And you know what it wasnt what he/she said that matter. What it is knowing someone cares for me and I can always look bad at a bad time in my life and remember that I was recognized by them. Like now its been 11 days since my sister has passed away and I just like to think of all the nice things she once said to me. Never mind that someone did not respond back to you I'm sure there thinking of it, the important thing is that you said what you felt and you will never have any regrets when that person is good. The best to and many you recieve many complaints from this day on.
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@smalltownmtngirl (327)
• United States
15 Jan 07
Its very important. You have to have both verbal and physical affection. It just makes you feel good :)
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@mansha (6298)
• India
15 Jan 07
I think to sustain any relationship its the most important aspect. A person might know that he/she is loved and cherished but just by giving your feelings a verbal form or putting that affection in to words you juat help the person to realise that love is not forgotten or lost by you. woman or man I think both need to hear it constantly. WHat other way is there to use the tool of anguage so effectively than this. So use it and say it.
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@divin_gracia (180)
• Philippines
15 Jan 07
for me, verbal affection is very imporatnt because it always works in giving assurance that they are important to you, and you to them. verbal affection gives a great feeling and that means a lot and brightens your day.
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@dextrophobia (155)
• United States
15 Jan 07
I know. And is it incredibly difficult to comment someone? even as simple as I LOVE YOU. I just think many people are afraid they will be misinterpreted, as to say they don't want to lead someone on and such. But that is self censorship, and we should all be as open and honest as possible. Avoidance is dishonesty
@sweetlady10 (3611)
• United States
14 Jan 07
I think verbal affection is important. Definitely we feel good when we listen something nice from someone of our close. In the same way we should say it to others to make them little happy.
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@dextrophobia (155)
• United States
14 Jan 07
It's like the golden rule I guess. Do unto others as you wished done to yourself.
@momwatittude (542)
• United States
14 Jan 07
My opinion is that in a relationship it can be easy to forget love is not romance. It may include romance but the two are not the same. Most relationships at one point or another, require you to work to keep the romance alive or the laziness of love can cause problems down the road. At the begining of the relation love is expressed through you and your partner, it then becomes a passive knowledge, so to speak, and can be more a matter of telling rather than showing.
Saying something like, "oh, honey you know I love you," just doesn't cut it anymore.Thats meeting the verbal standards, but not the required standards of action. Of course there is nothing wrong with telling your partner that you love them. But there comes a point in a relationship when action is just as important as verbal affection.
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@margieanneart (26423)
• United States
15 Jan 07
I believe that verbal affection is very important. It fills the other person with happiness and contentment, as well as self worth.
@cwilson26 (2735)
• United States
16 Jan 07
I think it is very important. My husband isn't all that good at it and I try to tell him that it's nice to hear I love you more than once a day. And it would be nice to hear a compliment about something for a change. Ok I'm not fat but I have gained a few pounds over the holidays and I'm trying to lose it and he "jokes" with me and tells me I have a big butt. Well I don't take it as a joke. I have low self esteem as it is and that just makes it worse. I had real bad acne until I started using Proactive Solutions and now my face is cleared up. Before that he would "joke"again and call me pizza face or something like that. It's like I have to practically force him to say nice things and quit the "joking" and I hate that. If I have to force him then I don't feel it is sincere. Before we were married I was told I love you all the time and I was given more compliments. But it's like once your married that all goes away and they get too lazy to do those things anymore.
