DO YOU HOLD A GRDUGE? - how do you learn not to?

I really don't hold a grudge. I don't know what makes me not, it isn't something I strive for or try not to do, I just don't. Life is too short I figure, and it's not going to make anything better so why worry about something I can't change?

I do not hold grudge at all. I am very forgiving. It is really hard to change that u know. But, I always pray to God to forgive the people that make mistake to me.

Well, I would be telling a lie if I said I did not hold a grudge. I do with my ex. He really stomped on me pretty good. Played both sides to the middle. When I broke it off with him, he begged for another chance. Ha...like that was going to happen. I ran into him a few times while I was shopping and avoided him like the plague. I do not wish to gain revenge on him. I just wish he would drop off the face of the Earth.

I am terrible at holding a grudge. I can hold a grudge for years and years. I love this discussion. I received some great advice. Thanks matlgal you always have wonderful discussions.

I wouldn't change. Like the saying goes, I forgive but I never forget. Plus it depends on the degree of what happened.

you sound EXACTLY like me!!! i know that i hold grudges like no other and i need to learn to let things go, but i cant!!! everytime something comes up about a person who has wronged me, i remember what they said or did to me, and i get mad all over again. Im trying to "let things go" as they say, but its not that easy. I wish i werent so sensitive sometimes and didnt dwell on things, but thats just how i am. i have just ended friendships with people over something they did that bothered me and i couldnt let it go. if i could have just forgiven them, and moved on, they'd be in my life today. but then again, i feel if they were real friends, they wouldnt have hurt me! SO if you figure out how to get rid of grudges, let me know!!!

Wow, you do ask some interesting questions. I think of myself as a caring, considerate, individual, and my husband tells me that I am generous to a fault. I would never deliberately hurt anyone, so I automatically assume that no one would ever deliberately hurt me, so when it happens I do my best to try and resolve the issue. Often it turns out to be a misunderstanding and once it is cleared up, then the relationship usually returns to normal. However, if I know that what someone did was planned and deliberate, I don't hold a grudge. However, that person just becomes non-existent to me. I will no longer acknowledge them. Bye-bye. Gone. The end. Over and out.