When is the right time to tell your parents that you are gay/lesbian?
By bubblgum25
@bubblgum25 (185)
Philippines
January 14, 2007 3:20pm CST
I believe that even if we don't tell our parents that we are gay/lesbian, that deep inside they already know. They might be in a state of denial for not acknowledging it even if it's already very obvious based on our actions,friends,interests., or they might just be waiting for us to acknowledge it first and tell them. If you think and feel that they already know it, should you even openly come out to them and say it?
So, the question now is: When is the right time to tell your parents that you are gay/lesbian? When is the perfect time to come out?(if there is such a thing as perfect timing when it comes to this matter).
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@mzbubblie (3839)
• United States
14 Jan 07
I don't believe there is a such thing as perfect timing. I believe you have to go with your heart and when YOU feel it is a right time to tell your parents. You have to be sure with self and real with self knowing that is something you going to stick behind and be confident when you tell them. Good luck with confronting your family..I'm pretty sure they love you and it doesn't matter who you are they gonna love you the same...
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@cajunmomma (624)
• United States
14 Jan 07
I think only you can decide when is the perfect timing. I don't think that the timing is the same for everyone. I guess it is when you are ready to let them know and feel comfortable with them knowing. My best friend is gay and his mom found out by accident. He was waiting to tell his parents until he moved out of his dad's house, but his mom found his myspace account. Now she knows and is in denial.
@cloud_kicker_32 (4635)
• United States
15 Jan 07
this is deff a hard one... I guess only you will know,,its a hard decission,i know..No matter what you do one may stay in denial..its usually the father ..because lets face it..most men are homophobic,,and they tend to go over board in reacting to it..but i think most moms just know..and maybe even know it before you do lol..my one friends mom used to joke about it to my one friend..and she turned out right..lol..but just be prepared for the worst..and major over reacting..I odnt know your family.,.but mine would be totally cool with it..but everyone is different and i really wish you th ebest luck in this situation..
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