domestic violence - is it ok?

Domestic violence in any shape or form, be it physical or mental which is in my view worst is wrong. For male and for both female and yes it happens as you probably researched that women are just as likely to hit out at their boyfriends/husbands than the norm of men attacking women. However, there are obviously certain circumstances where a partner has been pushed, manipulated and controlled so much that she has been pushed into a corner. If you corner an animal it will strike, so true is doing this to a human being. We are human, we can only take so much abuse before we act. Suppressed emotions and bottling up vent up anger with no place for it to go is a volatile situation and it's like a pressure cooking willing to go off at any time. I have been subject to a mental abusive relationship where my confidence was ebbed away and I lost any self esteem, I was made to feel worthless and I was bullied, really bullied. Unfortunately for some reason I do attract bullying people and one day I struck out, I was not pleased with myself that I had overstepped the mark, they were indeed shocked and it had some marked improvement but at the end of the day if it happens again will the attack be worse next time? In any situation both sides have to be heard out and at extreme provocation then sometimes violence is the only option out of a difficult, volatile situation. Good luck with your paper.

Unless it is self-defense, domestic violence is never okay. Unfortunately, there are often situations where the battered person - usually a woman, but sometimes a man - must hit their partner in order to defend herself. It's reprehensible that police arrest people who defend themselves like this and not the person who was beating them up in the first place.

its not right for a man to hit a woman and is def not right for a woman to hit a man..be it pysical or verbal, mentally,its just wrong..althoug i think if its selfdefense then theres no wrong there..if someone come up and started beating on me i would hit em back..

Domestic Violence is not okay... Although there are plenty of women who victims of domestic violence. Sometimes spouses who are victims to this...continues to stay in the relationship in the hope that one day their partners will change and stop hurting them... But this is not true, once your partner shows signs of violence and u just tolerate them to do so...They will continually hurt you and not respect you. You should know your stand on this....Dont allow anyone to hurt you.

one of my students told me that a battered woman killed her sleeping husband. The authority put her behind bars for murder and the prosecution is still going on. I asked him whether the woman has some chance serving a little less than life imprisonment, but he said she deserves that kind of punishment. I wonder what's going to happen to her. Is it partially her fault killing the husband? She should've asked for help. But then culture dictates harmony, not controversy. This should be an eye-opener for not all the Japanese, but for every women in the world.

Ok, number one, and I speak from personal experience, if a female is hitting her partner in self defence, then give it all you have. I have had one man hit me, and he will never do it again. I resorted to violence seeing as how I was not only protecting myself, but my unborn child. Otherwise no, I don't believe that physical violence is the answer. If you can't talk it out, don't bother hitting, it's not any more right for a female to abuse her partner than it is for a man to abuse his partner.

Violence of any type is not right nor should it be tolerated.The first time one partner hits another,alot of counselling will be needed after they split up.To remain in an abusive relationship is not healthy to anyone involved.

I have to agree with several others. Domestic violence and self defense are not the same thing. The batterer often tries to make it appear that way, but it's not correct.

Actual self defense is not domestic violence. That is a different matter and should not be lumped in with Domestic Violence. Domestic Violence is never ok. It's abuse by any other name. It doesn't matter if the abuser is male or female, a parent or a child, it's still abuse and should not be allowed to continue. The one who is being abused needs to get out of that situation and not look back. The abuser should be put in jail, that simple.

domestic violence is not at all ok be it either coming from the male or the female. it causes destruction and the relationship never prevails! it has a bad effect on the children. there would be no peace in the household which is very essential for life to carry on smoothly.

Domestic violence, be it from the part of the man or the woman is simply unacceptable. It's not about gender but about a democratic family system, where children would have their right to live in a peaceful environment.

No domestic violence is ever ok.

If a woman is hitting back in self-defense, then it is self-denfense and not domestic violence. Domestic violence is never okay, regardless of gender.

no.. its definitely not ok

it is just plain unexeptable, no one should resort to violence, I know sometimes people make you so mad at times but assault is assault.