Love & Infatuation...what's the difference?
By jackslaiter
@jackslaiter (371)
India
January 14, 2007 6:31pm CST
I remember my college days when a friend of mine proposed to a girl that he loves her. In return she said, that he was not in love but infatuated by her. By the term infatuation she meant to say that it was only a kind of attarction and not love. So what i mean to ask is that does not LOVE start with attraction? I have to say that without a basic attraction how can love start?
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@jackslaiter (371)
• India
15 Jan 07
so have you been in a situation where you are confused...means cannot decide whether you are in love or infatuation state.
@Honeybuttz (256)
• Philippines
15 Jan 07
True Love can start with infatuation, but most of the time especially teenagers, infatuation is only based on feelings and it could easily changed.
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@wakish (28)
• Mauritius
15 Jan 07
- Infactuation is based on physical attraction ONLY!
This kind of sensation makes you say: "This girl is so hot, so sexy..etc..". That is, you are attracted by her physical appearance and not by her inner sides or way of life.
Here the explanation of your attraction is "desired physical appearance".
- True Love, on the other hand, is based entirely on a pure emotional attraction.
Here, you do NOT have any explanation about why you are so attracted to that person.
You feel that you like/love everything that this person does and her way of life, no matter whether she is sexy or not!
In this state of mind, emotion (emotional love) over-powers physical attraction in a certain way.
In certain cases, the person you love may be "awkward", but still you love him/her intensely irrespective of what he/she is! Wheareas in infactuation, the sole attraction is "nice (perfect?) physical appearance"; this also entails "lust".
I hope i have cleared out some doubts and that i have helped in a certain way..
Cheers!
@pujarani (63)
• India
16 Jan 07
Infatuation is temporary while love is permanent. But at the same time infatuation can change into love
@adnan82 (672)
• Pakistan
17 Jan 07
love can only start when u r spending time with that person...when u r talking. to that person.. u love the person nature...not.his face...attracted by physical beauty ..is infactuation...if u ..infacutated by some 1 n .. some how or other u start talkin to him/her.....and then u find.. out... then i dont like him/her not my type..my nature..then..where the hell love is :) man understand....
@Honeybuttz (256)
• Philippines
15 Jan 07
Infatuation is a strong attraction to someone physically and to someone's special qualities and it is based on emotions only.While true love or love, though it starts with a strong attraction and feelings, It is more based on choice in commiting yourself to the object of your love.
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@jackslaiter (371)
• India
15 Jan 07
I agree with your point that Infatuation is more a physical attraction than based on committing yourself to someone. But my question is that how can we know, whether a person who is infatuated by us can after sometime really love us?
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