What would you do?

I would give him the space that he says he needs to sort things out. It will be hard, since you're used to talking with him every day, but 2 weeks doesn't seem like an unreasonable amount of time to give him. Make a date so that the two of you can get together to talk- say in 2 1/2 weeks. That way you can go on with your life and you know that you will see him face-to-face to talk again. Who knows what people think when they do things like this; at least he's trying to communicate to you that he's confused about things.

oh thats a hard situation, I'm not really sure what I would do if it was me. It would be so hard not to call or even text him. I think if you love him then you should wait, but then it's not fair for him to put you through that just because he's confused? Sorry I'm no help lol Hope it all works out :)

This is a hard one mystikel and right now you are very much in the dark as to your boyfriend's reasons but you need to be able to get some honest answers. Think about whether it is possible that he is scared he is getting himself in a situation with your family. Also has he been married and does he have any children as these could be factors which are influencing his thoughts. Do not sit around waiting for him to show up but do what you want to do, or would do were he not in your life. Of course your children will be taking up more of your time right now with being on school holidays etc. Do you think this could be something to do with what he is thinking? If you think he could be the one for you, then give him the space but not for too long either as you need to know what is happening. Before agreeing to take him back you will need to do some serious talking about what you both want from the relationship, why he couldn't talk to you about this problem etc. Good luck mystikel and will be thinking of you.

I think that's a bit weird. I can understand wanting alone time, but not for weeks!

well you have the right to check on him cuz in short he is your bf so why not take a move and talk to him and help him up in a relationship you both must help hand in hand uu.

I guess the best way to sort out the problem will be to talk to him personally....Go out some where you feel will have peace of mind and that noone will disturb u people.Talk to him personally and let him know what is that you are going through.Ask him to share his problem with you.Make him feel wanted and let hom know that he is not alone and that you are ready to hold hands and walk with him anytime.... Yeah,even i have gone through similar situation and there is no better way other spending time with eachother and then understanding your partner in a better way. It will do wonders for sure.... If this doesn't work out then dont you worry...Just think that the guy was not meant for you.this is not the end of the road for you....If the guy really loves you then i am sure that he will talk to you the whole thing and make you more wanted... All the best to you both...

mystikel this is a not so nice situation to be in! If only we could get into the minds of the male and know what they are thinking it would make life a lot easier. To give him space sounds so easy but it is a lot harder when you really care about someone and your thoughts go everywhere. I have been through this a few times with my son and the results there were not what they expected! I hope you can have the strength to give him his "space" and that the end result is what you wish for! Try very hard and good luck to you!

If I were you go and confront him. You need to talk seriously to him straight. Maybe he had a problem which you don't know that he's keeping it as a secret to you. Do you still love him? Then I think this time show this love to him. He might just need to comfort from her loving chum.

Yes I have and it drove me crazy! It was not even worth the agony because he broke it off with me anyway. He was thinking about seeing someone else, so this is why he needed time. I am not saying this is what he is doing, I am just saying this is what happened to me. Only you know how he feels so you must decide if he is worth wating for.

I would say give him a chance, at least he seems to be open and honest with you, but try to agree to a definite timeframe (a month perhaps) that is aceptable to you both. It's great that he wants to sort himself out but he can't leave you hanging too long in the process

well i think that your boyfriend really is in a situation where he has to review his life, think about his plans and how he can get out of his rut. personally if i were in his shoes id need the help of someone that i could really trust and that i could really turn to.. i do not want to sound bad but i think that your boyfriend doesnt really consider you as someone whom he can share his problems with.. and the fact that he wants to see if your relationship is part of the "rut" or not means he is doubting the relationship established.. now i think that you should talk to him and tell him that you will always be there to support him and that you are there anytime he needs help.. that is, if you really love him.

there are times men just want to be themselves. we want to be alone in our room, or go around somewhere with no one. sometimes we tend to search for our own selves! in short, we need time to be really alone. just like cellphones turned off and getting a recharge. but there are also instances that we got problems that is why we need to be alone. we want to solve it ourselves before run for help to other people. but nowadays, there are men who wants to be like Moslems--having many partners at the same time. so they want to be alone to have time for others. or maybe, your bf is just trying out to give time to his family, or anyone. just respect him and show ur undying love. dont worry he'll not leave you if he really loves you.^^

i would let him go - if he comes back before you have found someone else and you are still wanting to pursue a relationship with him, then go for it. Otherwise just move on.

I'm of the opinion that if someone loves you then they would want to be with you and not need time apart. I have a bit of a cynical nature and would wonder if he is interested in seeing someone else? Could he be wanting you there waiting for him as a 'backup' if things don't work out with someone else? Only he knows the answers for sure. If it were me then I would give him the time apart that he's requesting but would let him know that if he drags things out then I won't be there when he comes back. You can't wait forever. Whatever you decide, make sure you don't sit about miserable and waiting for his call. Go out with your friends and have a good time. Let him see that you're not dependant on him for your happiness. Good luck!

He is not worth waiting for. He's up to something, forget him and move on with your life

2 weeks is really not a lomg time - and if you really care about this guy I think you should give him that time to sort his head out. However, it is not unreasonable to ask him to meet face-to-face after those 2 weeks to discuss things and let you know where you stand. And if he's still unsure then probably time for you to cut your losses and go on without him. He can always come back if he wants, and then it'ss your decision whether you take him back or not,

Just do things what you want to. I have the same situation like you a few days ago and i havent deal good with it until now. I am really anxious about it and i hope you are not. Just call him and chat with him. Mary

Some people are having the habit of having to dump everybody, If I was a girl, I would stay with him. You should listen to him, and try to fix it. NOT ALL. He might want to say something so paying attention to him is probably the key. Try to give him a chance

i will just say cut ur looses n try getting some 1 worthy of you...

I would say give him some time but dont just sit around waiting for him. Try to find things to occupy your time so that your not always thinking about him. If he doesnt come around in a week or so call him and find out what is going on. Best of luck to you and take care!!