Some Advice Please................Update
By missytia
@missytia (387)
Australia
January 14, 2007 11:53pm CST
Thank you to all of you who had some advice for me regarding my daughter who's father (my ex) took her on an overseas holiday and falsified the itinerary so I would let him go.
Anyway, my daughter returned home same on the 10th January. After I made my other post, I got in touch with my solicitor once she was back in the office. She advised me that there was nothing that could be done until the 10th January and should would write a letter asking for an explaination.
When I picked my daughter up from her Dad's place, I asked for an explaination and he could not give me one.
The matter is now in the hands of the solicitor and I will be applying to the court to have a variation made to our current parenting orders, to incorporate travel in the future.
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15 responses
@kathy77 (7486)
• Australia
15 Jan 07
This must of been a dreadful period to of not knowing where you daughter was you have to apply to the court as no man/woman should be able to get away with this and nobody understand the stress that this causes their ex partners when we don't know where our children are I am so happy for you that your son is alright.
@helpingminds (89)
• India
15 Jan 07
Nice to hear that your Daughter is back home!! I know it is very painful to miss someone whom you really Love!! Now itz time for you to Enjoy with her!! Keep going!! My regards to her!!
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@kyliepops (269)
• Australia
16 Jan 07
Oh its so good to hear that she is home safe!
I know that it was extremely hard for you while she was away but you have done everything the right way.
The only wayto fight him is the legal way.
No explanation is just not good enough, i mean who does he think he is?
The jetlag should wear off, try and get her back into her normal pattern of sleeping, thats the easiest way but it does suck, even as an adult its hard to deal with jetlag!
Enjoy this time with her again and im glad she is back home safe and sound!
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@tigrashadow (1086)
• Australia
20 Jan 07
as you know im so glad that she got back to you ok and hope the jetlag has finally worn off.
it is a good idea for the situation to be handled legally for future situations so you wont have to stress so much.
i really hope your ex comes up with an explanation because the situation just wasnt good enough on his part and is not fair on you, who was back here going crazy with worry.
i hope your solicitor thinks of every possible situation so that he knows exactly what he can and cant do
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@missytia (387)
• Australia
20 Jan 07
Thank you so much for your concern. It's good to know people care. Still nothing from the ex and I don't think he will volunteer any information either. That's just the way he is.
Also, the jetlag has settled. It took about 4 restless night for the 2 of us (my partner didn't wake at all) but she is now into her normal sleeping routine. PHEW!!!
@tigrashadow (1086)
• Australia
21 Jan 07
thank goodness for that...glad things are back to normal...
@Adversa (406)
• Australia
19 Jan 07
Very good idea, that way he wont be able to pull a stunt like that again. Glad to hear your daughter made it back safely. I could just imagine how you would feelk if something happened to her so far away, especially with a falsified itinery, you would not of known where she was.
Get it on paper, that way he cannot ignore your wishes next time. Good luck
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@Tanika (632)
• Australia
15 Jan 07
Great to hear that she is back safe and sound. It is pretty bad that there was no explanation given about the whereabouts? Did you daughter have a good time or was she stressed?
I think that your doing the right thing by contacting your solicitors and applying to the court for a variation.
Sorry that you had to go through this but at least she is safe and sound.
Tanika.
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@missytia (387)
• Australia
15 Jan 07
Hi Tanika, thank you for your thoughts. She seemed to have a good time but she did tell me that she missed me and was sad because daddy wouldn't let her ring me. She's kinda regretting the holiday now as she's still having trouble sleeping due to the jet lag. Poor little thing is so confused. And I'm getting rather sleep deprived also.
@loujac3 (1188)
• United States
15 Jan 07
I am so happy that you have your daughter back. It could have been a different ending with him not returning her to you. Men can be power control freaks and they find it easier to do what they want than to consider the consequences.
It has been said that it is easier to ask for forgiveness than to ask for permission.
What was your daughter's feelings toward this matter? Was she upset with her father?
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@ausnikki (4054)
• Brisbane, Australia
15 Jan 07
I'm so glad your daughter has been returned safely to you.As for her Father not having an explanation,well that's not good enough.Having matters in the hands of solicitors is a great idea,you need to protect yourself and your daughter from this happening again.
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@GardenGerty (160665)
• United States
15 Jan 07
I think we are so glad that you posted an update for us, so that we know your daughter got home again safely. You have taken a good step, and I know you will be even more cautious in the future about her travelling with her dad. Did your daughter say where they actually went, and if she had a good time? Try not to drag her into taking sides, because it might be a good memory she will have, even if it scared the life out of you. Make sure she knows how to get alhold of you if she is ever away, though.
@chertsy (3798)
• United States
16 Jan 07
I don't know how you handled this situation. But sounds like you did a better job than I would have. First I would have totally freaked out. Second I would have reported her kidnapped, because it happens a lot where the mom or dad takes the child out of country. I give you a lot of respect. I would of had his butt in jail for doing that crap to me.
Good Luck.
@patootie (3592)
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15 Jan 07
I am so very pleased a good ending came of this ... it is very good that your ex husband kept his word and brought her back and I do hope you will be able to give him credit for doing that ..
But why on earth did he have to be so petty as to keep you from contacting your daughter .. that was very immature of him ...
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@cwgrlsarefun (1581)
• United States
15 Jan 07
This is very refreshing news. I did read your last post and have been waiting to hear what had happend. I am glad to hear that she has made it home and is safe now. I hope that you can get everything worked out with her father so that this does not happen again. I would be very leary of letting him take her far from home anymore. So glad that all worked out for you.
@Melizzy (1381)
• United States
15 Jan 07
I am glad your daughter was returned safely. Have you spoken with her and found out exactly where they were and what they did? Asked to see any photos that may have been taken? Found any receipts in her stuff to verify where they went?
@marief2rnurse (2704)
• United States
21 Jan 07
I really don't understand why so many men love to aggravate their exes... mine borrowed our kids and didn't return them for 2 months! The kids missed school for a year, I'm glad he's realized his mistake though and doesn't do this anymore. The next time he does it, I will not take the kids back so he would learn about responsibility. I wish the law out here were like that of the laws in America.
