How to handle a teenage step-daughter....
@shuckieduckie (121)
United States
January 15, 2007 9:17am CST
My step daughter and I get along great if she does not listen to the lies her mom says about me. I can't stand her mom and her mom can't stand me so it makes everything real hard. Well, my 17 year old stepdaugther said she wants to move in with her dad and I, who have two kids. Her dad has joint custody with her mom but the mom has the primary care. Her mom, who the stepdaughter has lived with for about 16 years but the last 10 by themselves with her dad, was not happy, upset, and understood some reasons why. Then the stepdaughter came over here this weekend and said she definitely wants to move in with us and wants to next weekend so she can say by to her friends. She told her mom this and now her mom has gone over the edge. She is saying really hurtful things and upset and being too extreme about this. She has gone as far as to say she doesn't want anything to do with her daughter because she hurt her, she wishes she didn't have her, etc. I know people say things they don't mean when they are angry but it has gotten to where my stepdaugther said she will not forget this time no matter how often her mom apologizes, if she apologizes. We know that we will have a HUGE battle on our hands soon. What suggestions does everyone have? Hae you gone through this before?
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@feeding11 (222)
• United States
20 Jan 07
Your step daughter needs to be told that it's never good to move out on bad terms. If she really wants to move I wouldn't allow it until the situation was resolved between her and her mom. Understood moms emotions but shouldn't ever go overboard, she shouldn't say anything hurtful. Doesn't sound like she thinks things through just reacts. Your step daughter needs to realize what you said, "people do say angry things when they are hurt". Don't let her just leave her mom like this because then she will think that this is ok for her to walk away from everything she doesn't want to face in her life. Put yourself in the opposite situation of the child leaving your house. You'll know more of what to do.
@shuckieduckie (121)
• United States
20 Jan 07
Thank you for the response. She did make up with her mom. Her mom doesn't want to be around when she leaves to come here and that is understandable. Looks like tomorrow is the big day for her to move in with us. Keep us in your prayers.
@jessicamom24 (391)
• United States
29 Jun 07
i under stand completey i have a17 year srep son as well and soem times it gets really hard for me to see that he has lied to me and says he asked his dad soemthing and he realyy hasb't but he real mother never stays in touch unless she wants him to showe him off or she wants him to stya with her next month and me an my husband have two kids of our own and soemtimes it gets really hard but me and his mother get along good
