Councelling

Your wife may just need some time to accept the truth. She may need to see you with him to really believe it. Many marriages in the US have similar issues. The husband or wife may be gay and decide they no longer want to pretend in the marriage. In most case the married go to counseling to try and work things out, at first. In the end they both accept reality and get divorced though. In other cases they may stay married and the gay spouse commit to not have a boyfriend. In yet others, the wife may be ok with the gay husband having a boyfriend as long as it too is a stable committed relationship and he's not sleeping with multiple partners. THey may stay married and even have the boyfriend moved in with the family. It's really a personal decision you and your wife have to make. If you just want to be with him and not have a relationship with your wife then leave her. If you care about her enough to find out want she wants, maybe you two could meet some sort of compromise.

I think you should definately stay with your lover if, you truly love him, I sorry for your wife but one day hopefully she will realize that the best & most unselfish thing 4 her 2 do is 2 let u go. Right now I think she might feel that you are obligated 2 stay with her and even though she really cant have you in the way she really was she'll take anything she can get, maybe even go as fas as trying to ruin your relationship with your boyfriend. I would stick with him if you love you obviously know who you are, dont change yourself 4 anybody else (even your wife) dont cheat YOURSELF (it sounds like you have been 4 a number of years, but society can be cruel & I dont blame you!) you wife will hopefully realize that you have moved on, & one day with much help, support, & counciling, she will move on too. Good Luck, Stay Strong, & Never give up on your dreams, or the people you love!!!!

I have sympathy with both of you. In my country gay Indians also have to hide. That is so uncool! I believe that a person should be accepted for who they are.

She may not want to leave you, but what is stopping you from leaving her? If you love your boyfriend and want to be with him then be with him. If you afraid to come out because of what you think people might do then I'm very sorry for you. I know it's for for some people to come out of the closet to everyone. If your not ready, then don't rush it. If your boyfriend really loves he will wait.

She may not want to leave you, but what is stopping you from leaving her? If you love your boyfriend and want to be with him then be with him. If you afraid to come out because of what you think people might do then I'm very sorry for you. I know it's for for some people to come out of the closet to everyone. If your not ready, then don't rush it. If your boyfriend really loves he will wait.

i think u have to take one decision.either ur wife or ur boyfriend...it would also b helpfull for u 2 and as well as for ur wife...

I'm sorri dear but I don't know how to help a sisuation like that. I'm thinking you get out of both relationships and make a clean but. That is scarey I really don't know what advice would be proper to you. I'm sorri.... Have a good day and good luck

Why, does your wife want to stay with you if she knows? Do, you really feel you are gay or did something happen to you? I pray that you can make the right decision with the help of God.