Forced to call Grandparent by specific names?

Seeing as I'm the boyfriend in question here, I'll explain my side of things. I was always made to call my grandparents Nana and Poppy. It was just always expected, and I'm afraid I'd get weird looks if I tried to change it now. I talked with my half-brother about it and he thought the names were odd too. Neither of us ever call them those names except to their face. I never wanted to make my kid go through that. My girlfriend refers to one grandmother as Meme and the other as Bubbha...yeah that's right, I said Bubbha. We've always picked on her for those names but she doesn't see anything odd about it. She just calls them what she's always called them. I have no problem with my daughter calling her grandparents whatever she wants, but she should at least get the chance to choose and not have goofy names predetermined for her.

Well here, we call our granparents "lolo and lola" and then we will add the name. Some grandparents do require some nick names though and some doesn't want to be called grandma for they don't want to appear old.

My parens are called granny and papa and we are called granddad and nanny it was just so they would not get confused , it doesn't really matter its kisses and cuddles that matter xxxx

how about just Grandma and Grandpa, that is what my kids use. It seems to fill the bill and no one fights over it either. My kids call seniors grandma lady and grandpa man too. It is cute and the seniors like it too.

My husband's grandparents are Mommom and Poppop, and when our daughter was born, my mother-in-law began freaking out about what to be called. Does she want to be Mommom? That might be too confusing. Grandma? Too old (she is only in her mid-forties). Nana is easiest to say, but she didn't really like it. I still don't think she choose one, fortunately at 17 months my daughter still isn't talking, so it doesn't matter yet.

Tell your boyfriend he can choose what your kid calls his parents. You'll have him choose the name for your parents. It shouldn't be too bad!

My grandparents are Italian so i always called them Nonna and Nonno. Maybe your daughter could call his parents nana and papi? Or if it really is important to him and you and your parents don't mind what she calls them she could maybe call your parents nana and papi.

If it doesnt matter to you what your daughter calls her grandmother, then why are you making such a big deal about it? Obviously he isnt the only one that is bothered by this.

I was forced to call my mothers father pappap. All because of my older cousin not knowing how to talk and then we all had to call him that. As long as your mother is ok with your daughter calling her something different, yet respectful I would just call her grandma and let your daughter choose. Your boyfriend has his points too.

The kids will pick the name. But we had an issue when mine were small with both grandparents wanting to be called the same thing. My mom and dad were nana and papa for the longest time and then all of a sudden his parents started saying they were grandma and papa which could be confusing. But in the end the kids just call them what they want. My youngest calls my parents nana and pops and the older ones call them nana and papa and his family is grandma and grandpa.

A long time ago, I had named my grandma "nonnie". So you can either have your mom choose, wait until your daughter chooses, or since it is more of a big deal to your boyfriend, go with those names. Or maybe tell him that your daughter can call his parents that.

Well, I think that is something that can be a compromise between the two of you. Maybe she can call your parents one thing and his another. That way it is less confusing when they start talking about which set of grandparents she is talking about. Don't expect it to stick though. When my daughter started with my parents she just couldn't get it so now my dad is Boppa and my mom is Mac. I have no idea where Mac came from but it's what my daughter associated with her. So let it come naturally whenever it does happen.

I don't think i was forced to call either of my grandparents names. I renamed my dad's parents to Popo and Jojo, and the names have stuck. I still call them that, and i'm 16. Calling them something else is just wierd... My other granparents are just Grandma and Grandpa (even though one is step) i just have always called them that. Usually Grandma Donna, and Grandpa. I don't think it matters what kids call thier grandparents aslong as its ok with the grandparents. Maybe try talking to your boyfriend and telling him she'll probably change.

I don't think it's right for your boyfriend to demand. First, he's not the dad (right??). Also, we have different opinions. He should respect yours, your the mother.

Your boyfriend needs to get over it. It is up to your parents what your daughter calls them not him. When my oldest was learning to talk we tried to teach him to say grandma it ended up coming out meema. Grandpa came out bobop. Now my 3 girls also call my parents meema and bobop. They dont care, as long as they know who they are refering to that is all that matters.

When I was growing up I had grandad and nanna.. I didnt have any other grandparents so it wasnt ever a worry. I have a 9 month old daughter now, she calls my mum Grams and her dads mum Nanna.. She doesnt have any grandfathers.. I was never forced to call my grandparents specific names, thats just how it was. Im not sure how you can get him to stop taking it seriously.. I suppose he has his reasons for being so serious, and you both just might have to find a comprimise..

when my daughter was born we call my mom grandma how ever when she started talking she made her own name ( girl ) kid will call her what ever they want. so how does he want you to address your mom and him till the baby starts talking ?

Don't teach your child to use pet names right away. knwwing how to say "grandmother" clearly generalizeds to other speech development patterns. You didn't say if the boyfriend is also the child's father. If he is not then a) she shouldn't learn that he is "daddy" and b) he has no say in what she calls anyone in your family. If it seems to you that what she calls her grand mother means little, then ask the boyfriend what HE would say...and what names HE would use, and use them. But...if this is the symptom of some general control issues within your relationship, you need to address those directly instead of letting it express itself in other forms, like what you have your daughter call the grandparents.

children do change the names while growing,so I dont think your boyfriend should take this seriously.

No I wasnt made too, but my mom has her preference, granny. My husbands grandmother and grandfather were called Ginma *her name is virginia* and pumpa I do not know where these come from but all the grandkids called them that..now with your boyfriend, why does it matter? Why not compromise..