If you could have an affair and it was guaranteed that you would not be caught..

I would never have an affair. I don't believe in it. I think if a person wants to be with someone else they should end the relationship with the person they are with first. I wouldn't want it done to me either. I take my vows very seriously.:)

To say one has never had the thought of an affair would be a lie. I have been married for 18 years and married at the age of 18. So yeah the thought, the temptation, and the opprotunity has arose on many occasions. But I have to say the reasons for me never following through with it was not only the fear of being caught but the idea that I would not want to betray my husband in that way nor would I want him to betray me. I think it is about respect, love, and the commitment I made to him when I said I do. Cheating is the ultimate betrayal. I have always told him that I would at least respect him enough to leave him first if I found myself unable to say no to another mans temptations. Because I really feel if that ever happened I must be missing something in my marriage. I have also asked for the same respect from him.

If I would never get caught, and if no one would ever know, would I even consider having an affair? Heck no!! I love my Sweetheart so much that the very idea of an affair disgusts me. Why would I even consider it?

I have done it in the past. And the guilt still eats me up inside even though I'm not with that person anymore. He cheated first~which is in no way an excuse~so out of anger and revenge, I did it back to him. It didn't make me feel better, it made me feel worse. I would never, ever make that mistake again. Good discussion!

I couldn't have an affair, I love and care for my partner too much. I would not want my partner to be hurt -- even though you say I would not get caught. I would feel like I was betraying him. When your in love with someone like I am you could not do it.

I couldn't do it. I'd rather end the relationship than to go and cheat. I couldn't live with the guilt, and I'd never want to be the other woman, or I'd never want to cause any pain or hurt to my partner. I know how it feels. I wouldn't wish that on anyone.

It is wrong and does nobody any good

I can't imagine an affair that will not leak out. The world is just too small. Guilty or not affairs are very subjective. In today's globalisation rsulting in more business travels versus a century ago, falling to temptations may be unavoidable. Wives/husbands may feel they are deprived of physical emotions thus affairs surface. There is no right or wrong just physical requirement.

sometimes it gets on my mind specially when you are enticed to do it, but eventually (and thank God)my guilt will always prevail. and also im afraid of all the consequences that it can bring

I couldn't cheat on someone and live with the guilt. I've had it done to me and it's not nice to go through, no way could I ever do that to someone else, even if I thought they would never find out. If I felt the temptation that strongly I would question my relationship and what was making me want something or someone else.

Even if i am guaranteed that i will never be caught of having an affair, i will never, never, never do it. if i do it, the worst enemy i will have is my consience, guilt will surely eat me alive.i did commit into that relationship so i should stay loyal and love my partner more.i do believe in "karma" or bad luck which means that if i cheated now in a relationship, in the future it might as well happen again but the other way around, my partner will be cheating on me.

When I am into someone it is impossible for me to even be attracted to anyone else for the first few years. After about 7 years though I start to get a little bored, and am more susceptible to an attraction to someone else. I am not a sneaky person though, I am way to open and honest to even consider having a clandestine affair... I would never be able to look my lover in the eyes again! I would either end the relationship I was in or try to instigate a threesome.

i couldnt because the guilt would kill me

No, I would definitely not do this, James. If I no longer loved my current partner, I would break off the relationship before beginning another one. This is only fair. I would hate someone to cheat on me - and I believe in treating others the way you would like to be treated yourself.

i could never have an affair on someone i love, because it just is not right and i know how it feels to be cheated on. Plus I believe that when you are commited to someone, you should honor that and if you want to go outside the relationship then you need to leave before you do that.

Absolutely not. There is no way that I would do it, even if I knew I could get caught. Getting caught is not what stops me. It is one my love for my wife, and my self respect that stops me. Even if I knew I wouldn't get caught I would have to trade it for my self respect and I would not be willing to do that.

I would not do that. It would not be fair to my b/f. If I devided that I wanted to cheat, I would just leave my current b/f for the new one. There is no reason for me to have an afair. I am just not that type of girl.

i would never cheat on my husband. if i still wanted to be with other people i wouldn't have gotten married in the first place. i don't understand why people cheat on their spouses. why do they marry someone that they would cheat on? i just doesn't make any sense to me.

Personally, i will never do it. You only do that when you don't love the person you have a relationship with. Even if it is guaranteed that i wouldn't be caught, i still wouldn't do it. Guilt never comes away.

I WOULD NEVER DO THAT, BECAUSE IT WAS ONCE DONE TO ME..THATS MY OPINION THOUGH..