how to tell your mother she has to go on a diet without offending her feelings??

@gonzalu (216)
Portugal
January 16, 2007 5:48am CST
Well, this is my question! I need to say it to my mother but I just don't know how! Like, saying to a smoker he should quit smoking is one thing. But telling someone she is fat may mix her feeling very badly.... Can anyone help me?
4 responses
@pratu0708 (126)
• India
16 Jan 07
Do you want her to go on a diet and be slim because you are embarassed about her or do you just want her to slim down for health reasons. be clear on your reasons and with love and affection voice your concerns to her. she is your mother. she will be more than carried away for your concern for her and how much you love her. Tell her and you will be surprised at how happy she will be to know that you actuallly do love her and care for her and most important be a partner with her to help her lose weight. Dont just preach to her, be there for her, encourage her and help her and for your sake she will do it.
@gonzalu (216)
• Portugal
16 Jan 07
Well, It is for health reasons. Obesity has many complications! diabetes, cardiovascular problems....
@gonzalu (216)
• Portugal
16 Jan 07
Well, It is for health reasons. Obesity has many complications! diabetes, cardiovascular problems.... among other
@gonzalu (216)
• Portugal
16 Jan 07
I really must talk to her about this! I fear she may have a heart problem.
@Pekachu (1112)
• United States
16 Jan 07
you just tell her you are concerned about her health and think she should lose some weight its never easy to say this but you are concerned and thats very nice
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@gonzalu (216)
• Portugal
16 Jan 07
Yes! I really have to make her know I am concerned with her health and not her looks!
@gonzalu (216)
• Portugal
16 Jan 07
otherwise she will feel Shame of her body
@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
16 Jan 07
is your mother easily offended? if it was my mom, i will tell her directly since i know that we are close and she is that way to me too.
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@gonzalu (216)
• Portugal
16 Jan 07
Weren't you afraid she started feeling bad with her body and ashamed of herself?
• India
16 Jan 07
U can just tell your mother the scientific problems that are caused due to obesity.U should tell her that U want her to live long and healthy and u don't want to lose her soon just due to her obesity.Tell her calmly and in an emotional way.She will surely start dieting....U could calmly tell her to start dieting to remain healthy. Stop her from eating junk food and also do not allow her to eat more fatty-foods with a reason of health....
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@gonzalu (216)
• Portugal
16 Jan 07
Yes! and i really must make her quit eating junk food! What if she thinks I am embarassed by having a fat mother??? Or what if she just stops eating at all because of that? I am really terrified to have this conversation with her