why do love ones betray!!

India
January 16, 2007 9:32am CST
looking for a befitting reply to d unanswerable question as to why do our love ones betray....why the trust breaks...as to why...why..why....
2 responses
fairly4458
@fairly4458 (842)
• United States
16 Jan 07
I wish I knew...my ex husband did it with his secretary... I have been living with a man for two years & he got engaged over the new years weekend to a woman he met on the internet 2 weeks before. He lied, & cheated while I was working two jobs for the Christmas holday, he was out cheating on me. Now, while I look for someplace else to live, he wants me to pay his mortgage while he still lives there! Guys, can't live with them, can't shoot them...
1 person likes this
warmweatherwoman
@warmweatherwoman (2233)
• Atlantic City, New Jersey
25 Jan 08
oh your last comment couldn't have been said better- can't live with em, can't shoot em. I have been cheated on by a trusted loved one more than once and find myself at a point that I don't believe there is a man out there that would not cheat if given the opportunity. I guess it hit me so hard because I am a very positive, and secure person most of the time- and these events made me feel inefficient, negative and unworthy of someones true love. I now find myself not even giving men a chance to get a second sentence out- I stop there right at hello- with a simple "no thanks". I know it is wrong to look at every man the same and just assume they will do the same- BUT- the hurt was and is so much- that I just don't see it any other way right now. Hopefully I will overcome this and find someone that will love me monogamously.
Sandpiper77
@Sandpiper77 (14)
• Australia
26 Jan 08
It's an age-old question but research has shown that many people cheat because they are basically more concerned with themselves than with the one they claim to love. We are all narcissistic to a degree (and need to be to survive) but some people have a much greater sense of entitlement (which comes with narcissism) than others. They believe they have the right to do whatever they want and if others get hurt, then too bad. The following links might be of interest: www.ultimate-self.com/unnatural-narcissism/ www.ultimate-self.com/heartbreakers/