Divorce : How does it affect the children?

be their for your friend.they will need it.My parents divorced when i was 9. When i was 13 i had to have this long interview with family services where i was told, do you want to libve with your mum, or your dad/? Its not the sort of question at my age i should have had to answer. Be their for your friend, im sure shell make it with loyalty & a good mate like you!

my parents got divorced when i was about 4, yeah back then i was hard to take and i was sad about it, but now it doesnt affect me. im 16 now so i dont really think about it, and to be honest i think i am closer to both my parents because of it, as i dont see them that much so dont argue or anything

Just try to be there with him. Share your experience and how you cope with it. I know nowadays divorce have really gone far way to many countries. Its really saddening is when children are already involved especially emotionally because no children want thier parents separated and their family broken. More often than not, children become the pitiable victims of a split-up. In some other countries children end up in drop centers, in the hands of disaffectionate relatives and a lot more are left to the streets fending for themselves-living on the benevolence of others and exposed to the dangers posed by abusive as well as oppressive elements.

My parent's definetly screwed me up when they 'seperated' -- there was emotional blackmail, choices to make, and endless guilt-trips! It was complete emotional and mental hell for me, and I hated it -- I don't think parents really concider what they're doing sometimes when they use their child to hurt their ex... If it helps, I think that the best thing your friend can do is distance himself from the whole messy scene, maybe take a holiday or something?

I remember when my parents divorced when I was young; I used to blame myself but then my mom would say bad things about my dad and his mistress. So then I hated my dad for many, many years until I found out that my mom was rather sick in the head. I'm sorry that I missed all those years with my dad but we're very close now. Children should never blame themselves and the parents should sit down with them and explain what's happening. That they both love them and will be there for them.

my parents had divorced when i was eight years old... and i sufered a lot because because they where fighting for my custody. :(

Sorry, I have no idea how to help you or your friend. you are in hard situation, just try your best. divorce can affect the children mentally they might got stressed.

It will have an effect no matter what. The parents should put aside their problems when it comes to the children and make the change as comforting as possible. Children should be afraid of change because they do not feel safe.

it will only n only affect the children .. cauz husband n wife wants the divorce they will seperate n live happily . and. then . who will suffer children . that child will miss the . time of a father or a mother...he needs both...something he will share with a father which he cant share with his mother..n vice versa. :)

Be a friend. Listen to your friends pains, what he feels. Comfort him and share your experience with parents having divorce. show to him how you managed the same situation he is facing right when your parents divorced. the fact that you're into the same situation like him, will make it easy for you to help him and he will surely see you as an example for having managed to deal with the separation of your parents. you can also divert his attentions by bringing him to social gatherings or you both engage into sports or any good thing that interests the both of you. sometimes, the best way to get rid of a problem is to stay away from it.

Yeah....you got it right,it does have a very bad effect on the children....moreover children also cannot get alongwith their own relationships later

My parents are also divorced and i dont get to see both of my sisters.

divorce is really a painful thing that anyone could go through...most of the time it creates an emotional turmoil not only to the parties involved but especially to those children..when all things are said..i gues you just have to let time heal all the wounds that this process had created..

It seems asif you're a great friend. And even though you might not know what to do, just "being there" is a very good thing in my book. You dont have to climb Mount Everest you know. On the other side theres only so much you can offer as a friend so it might be a good idea to encourage him/her to a counseler that is better equipt in helping him/her work through their ordeal. If needs be. Good luck!

it really does affect kids that are used to a happy and nice family having to see one of their parents leave for some reason that they might not understand it affects them phsycologically and emotionally.

Many who endure the unhappiness of a failing marriage see divorce as their only means of escape. Yet while obtaining a divorce is relatively easy, it ends up being more difficult than imagined. On the personal level, divorce shatters self-confidence, and promotes guilt, anger and insecurity. Socially, it complicates all interpersonal relationships - especially when children are involved. Divorce is never an easy solution to a troubled marriage. And if divorce is difficult for marriage partners, it is far worse for their children how to help children: If possible, have both parents present when telling children about the divorce. Tell your children that the divorce is not their fault. Tell your children that you love them. Reinforce it is okay to love both Mom and Dad. Give children details regarding how life will change. Tell children both parents will continue to be a part of their lives. Minimize changes in your children's lives as much as possible. Inform school and teachers about changes in the family. Continue to show your children you love them through both words and actions. Listen to your children. Role model appropriate ways to deal with feelings. Re-establish a sense of security by providing structure, Support your child's relationship with their other parent. Work on re-establishing a sense of family.

Divorce has many effects on the children in a marriage which differ along several variables.the age of the child is a significant determinant of what particular effects he or she will experience.the effect on children aged up to age 5-6... group are the most confused and disoriented by separation.they often fear the abandonment of the other parent which coupled with poor understanding of the separation leads to high anxiety.

it realy affect the childrens if they are not mentaly prepared to it.some of friends have to help them.

my family is still together but i have a lot of friends that have divorced parents... i dont really know how to help him but surely he would parreciate ur company and sustain...

Facing the divorce of the parents in early age will definitely have a bad infact on children in understanding whats happening. And a decision to stay with whom is something funny at that age. Bringing a child into such situation is the worst part of the divorce.But at present your friend is in the position to judge the situation and cope with it, But i feel he needs a support frm friends