Polyamory - Loving more than one person. What do you think?
By deeble
@deeble (102)
January 16, 2007 6:29pm CST
After just watching a program on TV, about polyamory, I thought I'd see what others opinions of it are.
Polyamory is basically loving and maybe living with more than one person.
For example, on this program, there was a man, his wife, their two children, his wifes girlfriend, and his girlfriend, all living together.The husband, wife and girlfriends slept in the same bed. But the two girlfriends would get up early, and go sleep on the sofa, so the children didn't see them all in bed together.
The children thought the girlfriends were babysitters.
What do you think of this?
Do you think it's fine, as long as everyone's happy? Or do you think it's immoral?
Do you think the fact there was children involved in this 'relationship' changes things?
I'm really interested to hear peoples opinions on this practise of polyamory..
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5 responses
@lecanis (16647)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
27 Jan 07
I'm not sure I understand why the adults would hide the true nature of their relationship so diligently from their children. Obviously, as another poster said, the children are going to figure it out. Not only are they going to feel betrayed and lied to, they are going to view their parents choice as obviously wrong, because otherwise why would it be hidden?
I don't have anything against polyamory. I know people in polyamorous relationships that are quite happy and live amazingly normal lives. Thought my own relationship is monogamous, I can see the value in their relationships. It's only the "lying to the kids" part of the story that really got me.
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@onesiobhan (1327)
• Canada
17 Jan 07
I've been polyamorous for my whole life.
I have a husband and a girlfriend. My girlfriend used to have a wife, and the three of us lived together in one house. My gf split with her wife, and now I live with my husband and just see the gf once a week or so.
As long as people are honest with each other, I think it can be quite successful.
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@shiboleth (270)
• Canada
17 Jan 07
I think it is sinful and decadent. People think they can do anything they want these days. There is no excuse for this kind of behaviour. The children should be taken away and placed with a good Christian family that will set a good example.
@jeepstergirl (396)
• United States
25 Jan 07
While it is an extremely difficult situation, I see it as they are all adults here. As long as everyone is happy and there isn't any conflict going on, then what's the big deal?
I do feel that the fact that there are children involved in the equation changes things, however. Children know a whole lot more than adults think they do! Believe me, it's not a situation that can last forever without the kids finding out. What happens if one has a bad dream and comes into the bedroom to see "Mom" and finds the entire neighborhood all snuggled up?
What adults do on their own time is one thing, but I don't think it's a good situation to be in when there are children in the house. It doesn't set a good moral standard, in my opinion.
@mrmatts (87)
• Malaysia
17 Jan 07
yeah.... immoral
just like many things said in the last days, man will be lovers of self and has no regard to standards of morality, or
religion, or any civil manners at all
its just bad to let our flesh and outer being rule our lives instead of living pure, simple lives
