Is it right to marry the woman because she's pregnant?

Philippines
January 16, 2007 9:22pm CST
My close friend got his GF pregnant but he's not really sure if he should marry her because he's falling in love with someone he just met. Right now, the girls parents are forcing him to marry his GF. I told him that he needs to be honest to the girl and above all to himself. I believe that marriage is a sacred thing and you should only do it if you have really made up your mind and heart.
5 responses
• Philippines
17 Jan 07
yes your correct. having a child doesnt mean you to get married, i mean we all know that we have to take responsible for our every action but you take your responsibilty even with our marrying the girl, support the baby. but for me having one mistake can't be corrected by another mistake.
@feeding11 (222)
• United States
17 Jan 07
Interesting. I'm assuming that your friend is pretty young. If you look at this from an adult point of view first you have to ask yourself a question and be very honest. If marriage is a sacred thing to you and your friend then how is it you view having a child with a girlsfriend not so sacred? From the heart of a wife and mom I can tell you (and no one else I've ever know will dispute this), I love my husband and was so happy to marry him and I'm still very madly in love with him. We have been through wonderful times and hope for many more years to come. But I cannot tell you of the most magical, wonderful, and most sacred part of life is delivering gods gift and meeting your child that you've carried and prepared for for 9 months of your life to know that you really have never loved anyone like you automatically will the moment he or she is born. And now your friend doesn't know what to do because he is falling in love with someone he just met. Obviously this guy was not in love with his girlfriend. If he is so willing to go from one person to the next then he isn't going to be a very good father to his own unborn child. And no one can force anyone to marry another. You use your own words when you say "I do" not anyone else. Also don't you think that maybe your friend should be decent enough to talk to his parents about this before he really messes up someone elses life who is carrying his child as well. Your friend is very selfish in believing that the world revolves around him. This girlfriend of his is going to go through this pregnancy and is going to have her life changed forever. At least tell him to be a man and start being honest with everyone around him starting with himself. If he doesn't want to be a father then best not play games with a pregnant woman. Being pregnant is emotional enough without having to deal with an immature boy that doesn't know what to do one day to the next. Do this girlfriend a favor now, be honest. It's better that she can be spared now so she can go forward knowing up front that she will be a single mom. Then you need to tell your friend not to throw the word "love" around because that is sacred. Don't use it to get what you want from any girl. Your friend is far from a man.
@jenbatres (799)
• United States
17 Jan 07
I don't think he should be forced into marriage. He did help to create the baby -- I think before he dates antoher person, he should at least try to make it work with the girl who is pregnant. It is much cheaper to support someone than to pay child support in most cases. It would be better for the child if the mother and father loved each other and tried to have a relationship. Best of luck to your friend.
• United States
17 Jan 07
I think that morally its the right thing to do but hey everyone has there own opinions
• Philippines
17 Jan 07
i have two answers to this discussion first. it is right to get marry when a woman is pregnant when both partners are ready to lifetime commitment; when both partners are responsible enough to build a family. second. it is not right to get marry when a woman is pregnant when his/her partner is not ready; when a woman is been abused; or when both partners are still young.partners who got marry at an early age resulted to misunderstandings,money problems that resulted to separation. i know because my brother got married at age 18 both of them have no work because of educational attainment. they got separated just because of money matters.