Have you ever felt incomplete?
By jillann
@jillann (779)
Philippines
January 17, 2007 12:14am CST
Have you ever been in a long relationship then one day you're not? Have you ever felt incomplete knowing that you no longer have a partner with you? Do you think life is incomplete when you don't have a special someone to share it with?
I do. And I am very sad and lonely having no one to share my feelings, be it happy or sad, with. I miss having company. But somehow, I am trying to learn how to cope up with life alone.
Share your sentiments please...
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80 responses
@pramodthakur (2365)
• India
17 Jan 07
Seems your loved one has left you alone. Please do not mind it. It is just a part of our life. It happens with most of us. A day our dear one leave us alone. We also do so with someone else. So need not to worry more about it. Start a new life with new zeal forgetting the past. This is the only way to come out of loneliness. After passage of few days/months you will see changes in your mood and life. Start to live without anyone's support. Even being an alone you can face the challenges of life. No someone's support is required at all. God has given us enough strength to us to face the hurdles of life. It is observed that good days passes away very well but when we face bad part of life, we wish that there must be someone to share our problem. When we pass this first problem without any support, it gives us strength to face another challenge. Automatically we are accustomed with the life's hurdles may be good or bad. We all here are with you. Don't mind you are alone here. Be courageous.
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@dangerdvd (320)
• Italy
17 Jan 07
in the past every dai i felt incomplete..but now... since the past year..i have with me my girl friend..which is my life
@xionous (439)
• Belgium
18 Jan 07
i have never felt incomplete. i had a friend of mine who i used to share everything with. she's been my very best friend and every day she used to call me up and we used to have good time togather. those days were great hanging with eachother, fighting, having fun togather until she left me asi have never wanted to be her bf. she found a boy friend and then left me and her reasons were silly. that was shoking for me and it took me around a week to fix my disasterous mess. but never felt incomplete and never felt im alone and don have anyone else to share with. i do have several more frnds and they were really good and worked a lot out towards fixing me. wenever i feel lonely i start chatting online or browse internet, talk to the frnds over the phone or hang out with em or just star to play my favorite comp games. if none of these helps me out i go for a walk to be with me. i then find there is still 2 more left for me and im not alone. one is me and another is god. wen she left i felt so numb and nuts. first few hours were like, am i in a dream or something? then i started to believe she left me, i started to feel lonely and dipressed and then wen i looked at my hands they started to speak to me. i know im not alone, i have the greatest gifts anyone can ever have. my body is with me and ofcourse indeed my god. may b what im thinking is not something really special or indeed u can even think me as a psycho but thats how i feel comfortable. and thats how i get away from the diperessedness. y should u waste ur time loving someone else who doesnt even care about u? indeed its better to start caring the parts of ur body. coz they are doing everylittle thing for u and they should be the greates thing u can ever have. whenever i do this i easily overcome everysingle dipressedness and feel luck, proud and happy. but ya sometimes ur really dipressed and nothing seems to work that way. you have to be patient and cool down and try to understand the situation. remember one thing cool headed person always wins.
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@missyd79 (3438)
• United States
17 Jan 07
being with out someone after coming out of a long term relationship is hard, but trust me time alone for awhile is great, it helps you realize who you are. What i did after my husband left me, i started an on line blog to get my feelings out and i felt like i was sharing them with someone even though there was no one right in front of me. also call a friend or a family member.
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@jbrooks0127 (2324)
• United States
17 Jan 07
If we live long enough we all experance this. I was married to my first wife for 37 years and she found a younger man more preferable. That loss was truly painful. What hurts the most is the loss of faith you had in that person.
But please know that life does go on and, in time, it will get better. If fact you may come to see that is was the best thing that ever happened to you.
We only loose ourself if we do not continue to have faith that tommorrow will be better. It always is but we have to look for it. I can tell you thier is someone out thier clooking for you that will bring back that closeness. But you must let them find you.
I was 61 when this happened to me and because I didn't quit I am married again.
My first wife lives alone.
You can do it and you will be so happy you did. Just learn from your past and go forward.
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@abhi21_friend (50)
• India
17 Jan 07
being alone is what we chooses to be, u can make any number of friends, with whoem u can share things.Its far too easier to make friends than to learn how to cope up with life.
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@xneuroticangelx (59)
• United States
2 Mar 07
Here is what you have to do:
Think about past experiences and learn from them. Learn from experiences that made you as complete as you are today.
Before you can find something to make you feel complete, you have to be dependant on only yourself.
Start with trying new things, things you've always wanted to try. Find a new talent or a new hobby.
There are events and things you can join for these hobbies, which will help you create a meaning and responsibilty in this part of your life, along with interaction with others, which will help you feel more complete.
Focus on the positives, and bring the best out of every situation. The more you overcome and the more ways you discover to make yourself happy, the more full the cup gets :)
@kabella50 (309)
• United States
17 Jan 07
I wonder what it feels like to hate being alone with one's self.I actually enjoy my own company and often tire of companions.Maybe I have yet to actually meet my true soulmate or what ever,but I am finding that I really enjoy my private time and the privacy of my bedroom in the evening.I would love to be in love and share my life with someone who just makes my day,but that hasn't happened,at least not forever.
@inflamation (866)
• Pakistan
17 Jan 07
I'll pray to god that he gives what ever you want. Happy now :)
@cool_xanders (121)
• Indonesia
18 Jan 07
You'll love your loneliness for this momment, but sure you'll miss compannion, because company will lighter your weary when you have some, and need someone to share with.
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@jinkson_unoh (186)
• Philippines
18 Jan 07
Being with someone doesn't mean that you're already complete. You can be complete in a lot of aspects not necessarily being with someone. Having someone is different from being alone. If you're with someone, you have a lot of chance to share things with that person. I would suggest that you should wait for the right person to come your way who will really makes you feel complete. At this time, enjoy your life of being single. You can share your feelings with your friends or family.
@amitdhatwalia (347)
• India
18 Jan 07
i m also have the same sentiments.
till date in my life i have made many friends but i have not foung any true friend. Dont know why?????????????
I m 21 n still i dont have a girl friend.
its really painful.
@crimsonblues (1191)
• United States
2 Mar 07
My whole life is very incomplete.. I feel useless, unloved and hollow.. I am trying to pull myself out of this funk but it's hard..
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@xneuroticangelx (59)
• United States
2 Mar 07
Yes, I felt like that when I was younger and saw everybody around me in relationships.
Being in a long term relationship makes your life what it is now, and you must never have regrets. Just think back to memories and what you've learned.
Now, you are more complete than ever. You have learned and experienced soo much from the relationship, and even better, now you have personal time for yourself.
Now is the part of your life where you grow as a person. Be around friends, have personal time, do what you've always wanted to do, etc.
You've got to become independant again and then, once you've learned and experienced from that relationship with yourself, you'll be ready for a relationship again.
Just know it was a big learning experience from you, and the experience made you more complete than you have ever been. You have not lost anything, you have gained a new door in which you can experience new things.
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@leonilyn (467)
• Philippines
18 Jan 07
yes i am.. especially during our first few weeks apart. i really feel like i am only half a human.. but later on i feel complete with the company of my family and friends. it took me about a year or more to accept that i have no special someone already. he is gone with somebody he loves more than me. i feel so sad but eventually realized that life is a game. so i loose fo the moment but someday im gonna win.
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@wakeelbabu (94)
• India
18 Jan 07
yes it is right if you dont have a partner to share your happy or sorrow moment you feel lonely. i do have partner and i know what is the important of the partner. i will pray to god for you to give a partner who can understand your feeling and take care of you
@s_chadha2007 (19)
• India
18 Jan 07
dear jillann, we all do feel lonesome at times, some of us feel lonely more often than others. at times we go very low and shut ourselves within. u have made agret start by sharing the sentiment. just see, there are some like me already sharing your feelings - are you totally alone now ? not really, here's a start. there may be so many of us who have felt the pangs of solitude and you surely will find people who understand you - and that can lead u to more fruitful and meaningful relationships. some one who cares - and more importantly - someone who is there when u most need him or her. we MUST be prepared to go it alone in life - but we MUST also never lose hope of finding that special some one who is out there for us - maybe pining for u just as u do for him or her. stay in touch, we can share more mutual feelings.
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@omarboy (22)
• Philippines
18 Jan 07
I beleive you will find someone again. Be patient and soon the right person will come to you. Do not look for it or do not wait for him. He will find you. For te meantime just have fun being single. Do a lot of activities. Play a sport. Have a hobby. Life is so fun
@feeding11 (222)
• United States
18 Jan 07
You always have to be happy with yourself before you can make someone else happy. With or without a partner you need to know that you should be happy. Yes I've had long term realationship, but was very happy to get out of it after years. And being alone also makes you a stronger person, it's actually good for you casue you know you can exist without anothers help.
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