is it a really big deal if your in-laws doesn't like you?

yes it is, especially if you are on a close-knit family and your partner is not on your side. even if you're married and your in-laws still wants to decide for you and it's not on your favor, that's really a problem.

yah, it's a big deal for me, I don't like that there is someone doesn't like me or someone that I can talk to. I would like to have a bonding to them to all my in-laws.

It's not really because once you are married you have to take up the responsibility of eahc other

That's a big deal for me. If that's the case I would definitely ask my wife to move out the house.

czarina0527 i agree with you. mine is a love marraige and in such case its really difficult in the begining to get along with your in laws especially when they had wanted ur husband to get married to girl of their choice but you bring home the girl of your choice. i faced many difficulties in the beginning. but since my husband was on my side always their to wipe my tears off and i always had his shouder to lean on for support. cleared the misunderstandings between me and my in lawswhich used to arise due to the communition gap as i am a lady of few words. and now everything is fine . my mother in law loves and cares for me just like her own daughter.

Although you answered your own question, I have to agree with you. If your in-laws lived in a different state and you only got together for holidays then no it really isn't a big deal. If your husband stood up to them when they disrespect you no it would not be that big of a deal. Nevertheless, when you are smothered my your in-laws in every area of your it is most definitely a humongous deal. There has to be a resolution for it and I think it is that your husband really needs to put his foot down one good time and the bulk of the problem would go away.