Should I stay or should I go?

Ah. Whether or not one should take the big move is always such a big decision to make, isn't it? I think that if you, as you say, have nothing left for yourself in Virginia, you shouldn't feel compelled to stay there because others will be hurt by your leaving. Most people leave home and create new lives, so why shouldn't you? As a Miami native, I should caution you that while it is a nice area to live in, you need to consider that South Florida is a very expensive area of the U.S. in which to live. You also may need to think about asking yourself how you'd feel about living in a city that's more than half Hispanic. If you think you can find a good job and tolerate a multi-cultural city environment for longer than an average tourist's visit, then by all means, come here. (Maybe we can even hang out!) Just remember...Hurricane Season starts in June. If you prepare, you'll be okay. And don't try to live life guided just by what others may or not feel.

Hi. I think you have to do what is right for you. Talk to your parents and explain to them how you feel. Truely loving someone is being able to let them go. And if it doesnt work out they will be there waiting! xxx

I think you should go your gonna have to leave the nest at some point so better now then later. Also as you have said there is nothing left for you in your hometown except for your family. It will be a hard thing to do at first and you will have your ups and downs and even get homesick after awhile. Your parents will be worried but at what point in your life won't they be? I say spread your wings,close your eyes and take a leap of faith in yourself to do the right thing.

i sugest u to stay

Go visit first and see if you like it, you can always move back, see the world, and remember there isn't going to be anything better if you move, Its you that needs to find yourself. If your family loves you they will support your decision.

I think your family will love you always, regardless of wether you leave or not. At the end of the day you have to think about yourself. You are born alone and leave the world alone so the only person you should be worrying about is yourself. I know this may seem like a very selfish way to think, but everyone worries about themselves, so from time to time you should put yourself first too. I have recently moved away from home and my parents did not approve of this and are upset with me. I have only moved for a few months to complete my masters studies whilst at university. Yet my sister still rings me and tells me how they still miss me and care of me even though they are upset with me. The funny thing is, I'm still living in the same region as them! But I knew I had to move because it was a question of my education. I am paying £8,000 for my masters and do not want anything to distrupt this. I needed my own space and own independence do my own thing for myself the first time in my life. All the studying, working and paying off my debts boils down to one person - ME. So long story short you should go if you feel you have to, just make sure its for the right reasons. And if after moving you feel like you have made a mistake, then I'm sure your parents wil take you back, as it is obvious there is a lot of love between yourself and them. Hope my advice helps.

I have moved away when I was younger, and my daughter did the same. Honey, you must do what you want to do to be happy. But before moving there, may I suggest visiting it first. It is a lot different cultural and weather wise from Virginia. Moving is a big expense. Be sure you like Miami first. I'm sure that your family will miss you, but they would want you to be happy.

You have to spread your own wings. As parents we always want to keep our children near and safe. Just make sure that you keep in contact so they know you are safe. I left my town for awhile even though I came back it was a good experience and I now appreciate being back home. It hurt them at first but we stayed close and are even closer now. I say go for it just make sure you plan it well.

I have lived in Miami, Florida for all my life. I hated it. Too crowded and too hard to find a good job. Prices are extremely high for living. It's your decision. May sure you do your homework to see if you can make it there.

I think if you truly feel there is nothing left for you in Virginia then you should take this chance...If the only reason you are staying is because you feel your family will be upset, well as hard as that is, it's not a fair reason for you to stay.. I would be sad if when my daughter grows up she moves far away, but more than anything I want her to be happy and find her place in life and would just make sure I visited her as much as possible.. I moved away years ago..I had to leave all my family and freinds behind and it was hard for me, but it was the right choice,.. I actually found I even developed a better relationship with my family because of the move.. We spoke on the phone all the time and emailed and it seemed we communicated more than when I lived next door lol!! You know the saying "don't be afraid to go out on a limb- that's where the fruit is" Sometimes you have to take chances and you definetly have to live your life for you... If you find complete happiness in this move what more could your loved ones really ask for??

I assume you are old enough to move out on your own (or with friends). From my experience, it is much harder to make a drastic move when you are older and more settled into a job or a lifestyle. Once you are married and have kids then you have others to consider too before any big move, so if you're going to do this, now would be the easiest time. Eventually we all must cut the apron strings, it's easier to do that early, though it might be hard on your family and they may miss you, if you don't do it, will you regret it some day? Someone mentioned getting a job. That is something important to consider since Florida does not have a strong job market. Plan what you'll do to earn income, maybe even check some job boards online before moving, to see what's available. There are many things to consider before making this kind of move so talking it out with people who have no emotional investment is a good idea. Good luck :)

For me it is not how young or old you are but what aspirations you are living for. I for one suggest that you find out what the world (or in this case a change of atmosphere) is offering you. Widen your horizons and always see the big picture. I knwo your parents and family would be devastated but there is no harm in trying to talk it over with them first. Tell them of your plans so that they won't be left out. That way they now you are trying to live the way you want to. There is a whole new world out there, go out and experience it.

look every success has to give something in return,so for wht u r afraiding of?tht u didn't get success or u love ur family?

you should stay.

It is time to stretch out your wings little butterfly. Just because you leave home doesn't mean that you can never come back. Even the most successful of ventures you will want to share that success with your family. So go if that is where your heart is telling you that your future lies. Go and stop worrying.

dear friend, i think it always difficult for people to leave their hometown. Place that have seen them grow up and which take a big part of your history. I think you must first know why you want to move to Miami. Second part, you must have more info about miami,(life style, work,etc), wher eyou are going to leave. how much money you will bring with you and how many time you can economicly survive if you don't find job. If your answer for those questions are good for you i think you can go.If there are some you can not answer i think you must take more time in virginia to plan correctly your living. Good luck

discuss with ur parents. if they want u to stay, stay. best wishes

That depends to where you can be happy. I know its hard to leave uour parents and pick what we really wanted. Maybe they will understand you because they're your family. Im sure, they've already passed with that situation of moving out or going somewhere far away from their family. a place where they desired to go. So in that they will surely understand what you really wanted to do with your life.

If you think that it is the right thing for you too do then you should do it. If it ends up not being right then you can just go back home. I moved a few states away because my husband and I got stationed there and it is really hard for my family even though they live on 6+ hours away. you can always visit your family for the holidays and keep in touch with them if they think it will make you happy then they will be okay with it.

I think this depends largely on your age, if you are too young i suggest you'd better stay where you are. If you are capable enough to support your own life outside then it's up to you already for making the decision.