Am I wrong to be upset? Isn't this like Fatal Attraction?

Hhmm I personally would just lay it out flat for her "look I know you have been stalking my husband and if it doesnt stop I'm goin to tear out your heart and eat it for lunch"....but thats me....You should still tell her you know and that both your husband and yourself want her to knock it off...I'd also start a file and save her messages, emails etc and if she continues to behave this way get a restraining order put on her...thats harrassment and stalking which as far as I know is against the law..I'd also be VERY sure your husband isnt encouraging this behaviour whether knowingly or unknowingly....with ppl like that you need to be VERY clear and straightforward "LEAVE ME ALONE"....taking any sort of pity on her will give her the impression that he's interested etc...he needs to get almost cold hearted in order to get the message across cause if he doesnt she could very easily misinterpret what he's saying

First off, I think you need to report her to your local law enforcement department, let them kno what's going on and what you can do to stop the harrassment. Just to be on the safe side you never know what people think or what extent they would go to "get back" at someone. Just be careful with this one. Secondly, I would suggest you block her emails or change email names. Text msg's I would suggest you change your phone number. Good Luck, hope this helped...

This sounds rather serious to me. she obviously is obsessed with your husband and your life of course and the mere fact that she even changed her hair colour to match yours suggests that she wished she was in your place. I think you should be careful, she could be capable of anything and I think you should report her to the police. And also don't even communicate with her on any level again and certainly don't let her in your house. To be honest the situation is just too freaky..like a movie script, just be really careful.

She definately sounds crazy. I don't know if there is a way you can get her to stop. It sounds like she needs professional help for her problems. Just don't hesitate to call the police if you feel that she is being dangerous.

I had the same problem with one of my neighbors. But her husband (who she was split up from, but they still lived together for the baby) worked for mine, she kept going to work with them. I got pissed because she was always with them or at our house. She soon started telling him that I was sleeping with his cousin who lived with us. She was telling me that he was with my best friend. The funny part is that his cousin was with my best friend. She got busted when she told my husband that I said something about his cousins di*k, he went and asked my friend about it she said, what the girl said couldn't have come from anyone who'd ever seen it. My husband still wasn't seeing what I saw, so I rented an apartment and packed all my stuff to leave. He kissed some butt, and we made up the day before I moved in. He came with me and she soon started calling our house and acting like someone else and asking if I was married to him, and crazy stuff. Finally he answered the phone when she did that and told her to leave me alone and that he never would be with her because he loved me. She still asks about us 4 yrs later...

I believe there are following ways to address this issue.. Firstly go with ur husband to meet her in a public place and do some plain talking but i guess u have already tried it. Second ignore her behaviour for a month and never respond to anything she has to say or give. This will surely get her off ur life If she still continues bothering u do file a report of stalking and legally debar her from visits

I think you and your Husband need to put it bluntley to her and tell her if she does not stop then you will report her for stalking as that is what she is doing she actually sounds a bit dangerous so you nedd to stop it as soon as Possible If she works in the same Place as your Husband he needs to see his Boss and explain the situation there to I really hope you get this sorted as it must be scaring you and driving you mad

This woman is obsessed with your husband. She should be reported for stalking and harrasment. There are laws against doing that. She really needs menatl help. Do you know her family? Or her husband if he hasn't divorced her could have her put in a place for evaluation. Get a court order against her forbidding contact of any kind. Phone, email or anything else.

This sounds seroius, well i think you need to move out to another home. Do it secretly so she wouldnt know where you going. And change your cellphone number.

she becomes a stalker! i think it is better to not react on anything she does, just delete all the messages, ignore her calls! tell her when you see her she is not welcome and if that won't help go to the police maybe they have a solution!

I would get the police involved she is stalking him. This type of person can be very scary and you never know what they are capable of. I am sorry to hear you are going thought this but do not try to resolve the situation on your own. Best of luck.

It does sound like fatal attraction. I would definitely turn her in to the police for stalking. For her to change her hair to look like yours she is crazy. And I'd be wanting her to leave my husband alone too. Just tell him to ignore her emails and try to block them if he can.

get a restraining or stalking order.

Shame on your husband for not trusting your instincts in the first place. But I'm glad to know he is now on your side. I was afraid you were going to say something else. The best move you can make to protect yourself is to get a restraining order. Other than that, there is a website called Revenge.com, there is a lot of stuff on there that I would never do, but there are also some great ideas as well. Just remember don't hurt anyone, and don't get caught.

well, he is the one that need to stop her as its him who she is in love with. its sexuall harrassment in the work place. he can report her to his boss.The guy she was engaged to, call him and ask why they are not together any more and ask him to talk with her. hope it works out.

Yes you have the right to be upset on the situation. Maybe what you have to do is ask your husband not to respond to her anymore or dont open any email and text he does not know the sender till she stop for if your husband dont respond anymore to her or dont show any interest she might realize that what her doing is wrong..

it upests me, i think that that lady should have lost her mind and the only way to treat her is to make her have check up with a psychologist and take steps to change her mind

I would do something about it NOW before it's too late. Call the police and file a reprot,and get a restraining order. You need to have it on file, in case she tries something. Because you never know, we may all be reading about this in the newspaper, 'crazy stalker kills wife in order to take her place..." seriously, she sounds dangerous.

I think shes too possesive, maybe in the right and cool manner you could tell her everything, your feelings toward on that matter. I still believe that every problem can be solve by means of good communication. Just tell her the cons and effects of what she did and she might destroy your married life. Explain to her that your husband is no longer available or rather your husband will tell her. Good luck then. I know its hard but you have to save the friendship. Try to understand that shes upset now. and Maybe she see your husbands quality, and its makes you proud for sure. Just see the positive side of it rather the negative ok!

OK. I think she has a severe mental problem and she needs to get help but thats not your problem or responsebility. You responsibility is to your marraige and your childrens saftey. You should consult with a lawyer and the local authorities. Try to get a restraining order against her for envasion of privacy and house breaking cause she is clearly trying to steal your husband away from you and that is considered house breaking. You do whatever you need to do to defend what is yours. Family first is what I always say. Good luck.