Spouse Swapping - What do you Think?

Let your friend known that if he researches the BDSM or Swingers community that I am sure he will locate other couples willing to wife swap. Explain to him that you are not interested in this lifestyle and his bringing it up is extremly uncomfortable. I too find this lifestyle to be immoral and unfair to the spouse. Unless all parties are 100% in favor, it is wrong. It violates all sort of trust issues between husband and wife. I know that I could never stand idly by with a smile on my face and watch my spouse doing it with another woman. I don't know of any human being who has respect and admiration for their spouse that could physically do that to them. To me it is cheating and violating the sactiticty of marriage.

It may work for some people, but I really feel that having multiple partners really means you have no business being in a committed relationship. It just doesn't seem right to do that.

If his wife is ok with that, then i guess it's ok. I would never do it of course but some people like to experiment. As long as all the parties are consentent adults, then there's nothing wrong with it.

I think once you are married (hense the spouse part) swapping needs to go out the window. I guess if all parties involved say yes, then not much can be said. I think you are playing with fire though. It seems like in the end someone usually gets hurt by it.

I think mine was made for me, even though I might like my friend's hubby and we might get along perfectly , but my hubby is my hubby , I can never replace him or exchange him

In my views you want to be with someone or you dont. If you keep going from one to another you will never have a proper realationship with a person as it is built on love, trust and respect for one another.

yes i too there is a person in our group too who wants all the time the same thing u mentioned. we too feel the same thing like u did tht he is sick. i strongly think he needs psychological treatment since he is all the time thinking of other women. and hving....with them. we must ignore such people and try to keep away from such guys its the only way.

Well...Hi ash... Actully you have pointed out towards a very debating issue! Personally I dont find it much ethical u know? Unless your partenr isn't equally for such idea you should not do this. It's ur duty to take care of your partner's dignity!!!!!!!

This is the most uncivilized and barbaric thing that can ever come to a human beings mind.According to me it is even ok to commit a murder,but spouse swapping is something that irritates me like hell..How can he even think about that..That shows his sincerety and love that he has for his wife and she should never ever live with her..not only she but no women will do that... I feel like killing him..DO not keep friends like that..that will destroy your relationships also..

Hey ashjoe, Id have to say I dont agree with the partner swapping part, but this is the way some people are these day's and I dont think its our part to judge them as long as there happy. For Me, I've been with my other halve for 2 yrs now and am quite happy with her, and vice versa. But at work I know a bloke who goes to a club in the city with his partner, where they meet other couples and swap for the noght or a few hours ect, and he seems happy still in his relationship, I cant say for his wife though. The only thing i disagree with your friend about is the fact he seems to be pushing his interst on yourself and others who are clearly not interested.Telling him to go try one of these clubs. Hope this helps

Personally, I feel that what anyone does in the privacy of their own homes that isn't harming anyone else is their own business. But he would definitely have to have his wife on his side, meaning that she would have to be feeling the same about doing this before there is any way that it could happen. Plus, it doesn't sound like he has anyone else interested around him. So I am not sure why he is pushing for the idea. Maybe he just wants attention *laugh* I really don't know. Maybe he is just a rebellious mind, as you were saying. Without knowing more about the particular situation, I really can't say.

He's got issues he needs to address with his wife. Anyone of his friends should tell him to get serious and not press this with them. He needs to talk to his wife or to a counselor to find out whats going on.

people like this drive me insane who in the right mind could want anyone else besides the one they love and married. Why get married why have that commitment when you can go out and be single and do whatever you want. I guess i dont get it. He must not have any self love let alone love for his wife. ????? some people?

In india ..when people marry..they are bound for life by a sacred thread of commitment and they take an oath in front of the fire to remain faithful forever..So when people urn unfaithful..they are not only destroying the trust and the commitment ..but also commiting a SIN!!!

A great mate you'd be do you really think your mates would want you inflicting your Mrs on them we know you are a practical joker but that the last straw

I wouldnt ever partner swap, I couldnt imagine my fiance being with some other woman, or me being with some other man. Your friend is entitled to have his own beliefs, but he shouldnt push it onto anyone. Not everyone wants to hear it, so next time, let him know that you dont appreciate what he is talking about and ask him to stop. If he doesnt, and it is still really offending you, you might have to cut the friendship short :(

There are so many peoples who are having intrested in spouse swapping. This is not the good sign for our society. We should do something to stop this type of peoples and also we must remain safe from this. You should make him understand that what are the side effects in it. How can it be harmful to families and like that we can stop him to spread such activities. By the way frm where u r?

i think mature individuals should decide for themselves and if all partners want to go ahead its probably ok.but it should not be forced upon anyone.on the other hand even if all want to do wrong things it does not mean they should be done.....but who decides what is wrong is the big question here.i dont think the human race will ever be able to decide on to a final agreement on such discussions.

I understand that you need our opinion and not endorsements on the issue. Why I doubt for I have seen some of the opinions expressed here is quite trivial in telling that they are no less individuals than others. Who in this free world is going to question their wisdom? the members who spoke of the institution of marriage and the moral conduct they value are puerly airing their personal views and it has nothing to do with any other opinion ,concept or value. As for my views I personally consider it as an unhealthy practice . Should somebody wants variety in everything ,who prevented them from doing so not getting tied up with a poor individual who need not necessarily be interested for such an activity. Even if both the partners are interested ,in my opinion they are making a mockery of the established systems,beleifs and values and also paving way for anarchy. God save our younger generation!

I think that your friend has a flare. Perhaps he has fantasys about living with a new woman, sleeping with a new woman etc...How long has he been married? Maybe he and his wife dont have a very good relationship.....I dont they he is a 'weirdo' as you are putting it, maybe give it a try - you might find it a laugh too....then if all else fails tell him about swingers....good luck