dating and divorce

Although, legally speaking, you are free to date again the moment the papers are signed, I think everyone should take the time and energy to reflect on things before they really start to date once again. When you go through a divorce, you end up with 'baggage' that must be dealt with before you can heal and move on. You have to honestly look and see why your marriage failed, and also have the guts to look into how you contributed, if at all, to the downfall of the marriage. Marriages all fail for different reasons. Until we examine our hearts and souls with maturity, and seek to correct the behaviours that led to that path, we are usually doomed to repeat the same mistakes, only with a different person. Everybody's level of healing after a divorce is different. When you are ready to trust again, and not drag your old 'baggage' from a past relationship into a new relationship, then that is when you are probably ready to start dating again. I see too many people rushing into new relationships when they have not resolved their past ones in their mind, and they immediately start dating out of fear of lonliness, only to lead to more disappointment and heartaches along the way. Only YOU will know when you are truly ready to start again.

If a person doesn't allow themselves time to heal from the wrongs in their last relationship, they will compare the new relationship to the old. Therefore several issues could stand in the way unfairly. Also they have to be sure they are not wanting into a relationship just as a rebound thing.

When ever you are comfortable doing so.

I think the best thing is to wait until the bitterness from your marriage is over. That way, you'll be able to accurately judge the person you're dating and aren't comparing him/her to your ex-spouse.

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whenever you are comfortably ready too, its your life, for me im taking my time getting back into the dating scene again, im finding myself again and doing everything i couldnt or didnt do when i was married.

Legally once you been announce by court that you were divorce its your right to start a new love anytime you wish.