Stay at home moms that send kids to daycare...

I run a daycare out of my home and currently am caring for two children who's mothers aren't employed. I personally would NEVER do this myself because we can't afford it. Second, I want my kids with me. That is why I work from home in the first place. Everyone is different though. Some people don't have the patience others do and one of the children I mentioned above is kept home approximatly half of the time she could be here (I am paid by the week). I think her mother just wanted a place for her to be exposed to other children and to gain some independence. Anyway, in short, I try not to pass judgement on other people's parenting decisions. Parents are all unique. As long as the needs of the children are met I just mind my own business.

Well we all need break. Since you are at home that does not mean you should feel guilty about putting your child in day care. I am stay at home mom with my 4.5 year old son. I kept him home with me till he was 2.5 years old. I loved every moment with him but then he wanted more friends and wanted to play with someone his age and I decided to inquire about day care and found good one and started sending him 3-4 hours/day for 3 days/week and he loved it so much and while he is gone I make dinner/ do errands and when he comes home we both are relaxed and fresh to play with eachother. This way he gets best of both worlds.

Great topic ..I often wonder that also. I am older and had 5 children and would and did not ever think about putting children in a day care let alone while I was at home. And who is paying for this daycare..that the other question. I am sure these people are not rich enough to do this by no means. Ok I can see maybe putting them in for a hour or two if I did not have friends or family to watch them while I had a appointment that did not offer this service. Now days lots of places will offer right at the place of buisness if deamed to have a service to help out while you are at an appointment. But have to really agree with you...and yes what are they doing..not looking for work I hope...maybe sleeping or couching it..

I agree with laziness! I once nannied for a couple that had 2 kids and the husband worked from home everyday. I was there taking care of the kids and he was there working. It was wierd but hey it paid my bills!

Now that I'm a stay at home mom, my kids stay home with me. I love being with them. My son is 14 months and he is with me all day long, my daughter is in pre-k and is gone 3 hrs a day during the week day and during that time I still have my son and I hang out with him and just play with him and then do some cleaning while he naps. When my daughter comes home, I do it all over again. Yes, there are times I feel stressed, but even when I'm sick, my kids are with me. Why send them to daycare if I really don't need to? But some parents will put their child in daycare to socialize with other kids. When I use to work, I was working in a childcare center and I had lots of part time kids that the moms would just drop off for a few hours a day so they could socialize. I don't see nothing wrong with that. I have a hard time understanding why parents that don't work keep their child in daycare all day long. If it was a couple of hours, then that is understandable, but all day? Oh well, I guess it's the parents choice. I think they should be spending time with their child though. They say that most of the kids in childcare spend most of their days with their daycare teacher. If you add up the hours, the kids spend more time in childcare. Some have to because their parents work, but if your not working, what is the excuse?

That is so silly to me!! Like do they not want to be with their kids?? I don't know, being a sahm means taking care of your kids, not sending them out the door for someone else to watch. I know a fe people who do this and it just boggles my mind!!!

You know I can not understand how women do it .. I have 2 young boys and I stay at home to look after them .. That's what a stay at home mum is meant to do.. That is my job!!! .. My husband and I decided that I would stay at home with them as we were both brought up in a home where our mothers were ALWAYS there and we believe that's what kids need and want.. They need their parents.. besides I cant work out what I would do all day if I didn't have kids to look after.. It kind of seems pointless to have babies if your just going to drop them off at daycare all day and only spend a few hours a day with them. I understand that sometimes both parents have to work and believe that is what Daycare is for not babysitters for mothers who are sitting around at home everyday.

Why in the world would their children be in daycare if they did not work? What would they do all day? I could not even imagine telling my husband that I wanted to put our kids in daycare, but I did not want to get a job. He would laugh me out of the house.

I would say laziness. If I could afford daycare I would be working outside of the house now. Unfortunately daycare costs is so outrageous. I can understand if you need a break or need to run errands where kids wouldn't be allowed but other than that, no way.

I guess everyone has different beliefs. I am a single mother and whenever I am not at work I want my children with me. I understand everyone needs a break once in awhile but not 5 days a week.

I don't care for it.I know that moms need a break so I could see possibly an hour a two a day maybe but not all day.I used to volunteer at a day care and a child was there from open 600 until close 6pm and mom stayed at home across the street in her apt.

i dont like that at all. I have 4 kids. 2 that go to school and 2 stay home with me all day. I had to quit my job because I had my 10 month old. I worked at a day care. There was this mom that didnt work and dro[pped her daughter off early and came to pick her up late. I hated it.

I run a home daycare and I have had parents of all sorts. Some that truely work to just put food in thier kids mouths and others that half the time the kids are in daycare are out doing whatever. The other day I had a parent show up over 2 hours late to pick up her child and I told her I was beginning to worry that something had happen to her. Her reply was "I went home to take a nap and just woke up" She did not say sorry for not calling or anything. Then just yesterday showed up late again without calling. My patience are starting to run out with her. She will be really unhappy when she no longer has a daycare because she shows not courtesy for others. Sorry for blowing off some steam. lol

Not sure why they would have them in full time, but I would definitely understand a few hours a week, it is wonderful for the kids to get involved and socialize in setting without their parents

That is just pure laziness to do something like that! If you have the kids and dont work outside the home then your kids should be your main priority!! If you didnt want to take care of your kids then dont have them in the first place!! Yeah, there are times that I would like a "break" for a little while, but I would never send them off to stay with strangers all day long, every day! thats just irresponsible and lazy!

As a former daycare provider I can't tell you what they do all day while the kids are away. I can tell you that I think that it is terrible that they have chosen to be SAHMs so they can raise thier kids yet they are not around thier kids. I had one mother who would be late to come get her child consisitently not because she had to work late or had an appointment or whatever but because she chose to go home after work shower/bathe, watch tv whatever instead of coming to get her kid leaving her kid with me for sometimes 10-12 hours. And she did this 2-3 times a week. Needless to say I shut the daycare down, I loved the kids just couldn't handle thier parents anymore.

Pure laziness! I can understand if it was just a few hours a week so the kids could socialize or if they needed to go to appointments. I don't see how they can afford it if they aren't working. Maybe they have rich husbands..who knows. I'd like to just have one hour away from my kid to get stuff done, but alas we can't afford it and I prolly wouldn't do it anyway cuz I'm the mom and I should be taking care of my kid!

Not really sure about their reasoning. My girls went to a few classes a week for about an hour at a time when they were about 3. It was more for their benefit than mine. I actually don't think DH would pay for the girls to be in daycare if I was staying at home. I am sure he would say to get off my lazy behind & get a job.

Maybe they want their kids to learn to be social with other people their age. That's very important even if you are a stay at home mom.

A bit odd they do it every day but why not send a toddler to daycare - they get to socialise with other children which is a good thing. I'm sure a Mother would like some time to herself at home or an day alone to get EVERYTHING done! I don't agree with every day though, that just seems a little un-motherly to me.