Do You Still Visit Loved Ones Graves

I visit my grandparents when I can but with my not driving and me having a minor issue with public transport I don't do it very often as I rely on my dad going which he doesn't that often as it is so hard for him. I remember my maternal grandmother every time I pick up my needle to stitch and my paternal grandparents are remembered every time I attempt to grow a plant. We do little things on their anniversaries to remember them and set a place for them when we have our Samhain (halloween) meal

I am sorry to hear about your loss when it comes to your nan. That is incredibly sweet how each time you visit her you bring her flowers & tidy up her grave.. I know that . . On Christmas Eve of last year my other half & me had rented a vehicle just so we would be able to visit my Grandfather's grave. Well when we got there it took me some time to remember where he was buried, but I ended up finding it. My other half was amazed at how good my memory was that I was able to remember where my Grandfather was buried. Since it was two years that I hadn't gone to see him. My other half was the only one willing enough to take me to go visit him. My mom would always go to visit him or bring others to go & see him but no one would ever take me. And there we're no buses going out in that direction, & if one wasn't to have a car they wouldn't be able to visit the graveyard as it is rather far outside of our city. So I was thankful to have someone like my other half willing to take me but also be there for me while I had paid my respects. The sad thing is though.. Because there was so much snow on the ground & the place hadn't marked his grave.. We couldn't find his grave stone. It was so sad because our pant legs we're covered in snow & we're very wet. But we still stayed out there for roughly an hr. trying to find it. We eventually had to give up because it was getting dark & we we're going to my Grandma's for dinner that evening.. It made me sad that I had a chance to pay my respects to my Grandfather yet I was unable to due to the large amount of snow covering everything. We actually witnessed people having to bring shovels just so they could find the people they we're wanting to visit. It made me sad that the memorial place didn't try to mark all of the graves out there. But I am hoping when the snow slowly begins to melt that in the summer time we will try to pay our respects to him then. Next time we go we plan on taking a wreath full of flowers so that we can mark his grave & then we will be able to know exactly where he was buried.. So due to what had happened I still can't help but feel a little guilt since I was unable to pay my respects. Even though I know it wasn't my fault.. I just wish I could have paid my respects on Christmas Eve to him.. As I had wanted to do just before Christmas.. I just hope that next year will be a different story. Thank you for allowing me to share my story with you.. As it is difficult to talk about. xx

My parents are both on two different states about 2500 miles apart. I am not near either, so I don't go. But, when I lived in the same state that they were at, I would always visit and talk to them and take flowers. I will always love them and miss them, even if I am not at their grave site. I love my memories and hold onto that dearly.

Yes, we still visits the graves of our loved ones... actually, here in the Philippines, visiting loved ones graves is a tradition usually observed every 1st day of November...

I think most of my family have been cremated, as I will be when the time comes .. ! And in a way I am glad about that .. if there was a grave I would feel I 'had' to visit whether out of respect or duty .. I very much prefer to remember people the way I last saw them alive .. when they were happy and just going about their daily tasks ..

YES I STILL VISIT MY DAD ON HOLIDAYS, HIS B-DAY AND ANY OTHER TIME I FEEL THE NEED. I BELIEVE THE GRAVE IS FOR THOSE LEFT BEHIND, WE KNOW OUR LOVED ONE HAS GONE TO A BETTER PLACE BUT WE NEED TO HAVE A PLACE HERE ON EARTH TO VISIT AND TALK TO THEM. AND SO THAT THEY ARE REMEMBERED BUY ANY ONE WHO HAPPENS TO PASS BY THEIR FINAL RESTING PLACE. TAKING CARE OF THEIR GRAVE SITE IS A WAY OF STILL TAKING CARE OF THEM AND GIVING THEM RESPECT.

no i have not done it in a long time

You may visit when they are not there, as hurting their feelings would not be a good idea.

No and my mom has been gone for 18 years now. I cant bring myself even till this day to visit her gravesite. I just think its not real because they arenot there. You know what Im saying? They are not there physically but yes spirtually. So I figure I dont have go there for that I talk to her all the time. She is always with me.

The last time I visited a grave, was both of my dad's parents, when my daughter was I think less than a year old (she's 4 1/2 now, and we live in another state). I took her to visit the graves with me, because she was named after my grandmother. Call me crazy, but I even took pictures of her sitting next to my grandma's head stone. My grandpa doesn't even have a head stone (his kids are stupid and don't want him to have one), but we walked over to the general area, and I talked to him a bit. I want to say I took flowers that one time. I also cleaned up the head stones of not only my grandma, but of her parents and siblings. The grass goes nuts where she is.

Yes, I sometimes visited the grave every day on Friday, because for Muslim group Friday that was the good day, sometimes could I visited the grave in the Idul Fitri Holiday pass. Because in the Idul Fitri day,wanted to not want us to have to visit the grave, because that his aw was obligatory.

yes i do . It may only make feel better, but i like to think they are looking on our deeds. and it shows love. Donald Rich

Sure, it's nice visiting the graves. Butr, really we should visit our loved ones and extended families who are still alive, but we can't cuz all of the problems.

Its called remembering your loved ones. Pay respect to them. Its a tradition, most people do that. Very good example are the chinese.

yes i still visit my loved grand parents , i will go to the grave yard

yes i visit my grandparents grave whenever i get home in our province but even if i cant be able to visit them, they are always remember by me in my heart.

After the initial visit, I haven't been back. i always lived too far away. Now I live in a different country and it is just not possible. It doesn't mean that I don't want to.

My mum passed away a little over 5 years ago and I visited her grave regulalry until I moved from Canada to the US. When I go back to visit thoug, I always take the time to visit, takes some flowers and just spend some time there. It's still a very painful experience for me when I go, but she was such an important part of my life that I just couldn't imagine not going.

ya at times

well avery year on all souls day but if we have spare time we usually visit our parted love ones, thats the least we can do for them :)