Are you ever ready to start your family?

I think if we all waited to be financially ready to have children, not many of us would have children! I know I wouldn't! :) There's nothing wrong with waiting. My husband and I waited nearly 5 years before having our son.

I honestly don't think that anyone is ever ready to have a child. We have a one year old and we was never ready for her but when it happened we was excited. It always has to happen I think to be ready.

Its the decision of you both. Everybody has different but lastly it will come to you whether to start your family or not.

Considering my age and my financial status right now, I think I'm very much ready to settle down.

I will not be ready until I am 30. I want to have my degree in teaching first, a house, and a great job first before I get into that.

You'll never be ready to have a baby. nobody can EVER afford a child. You just go with the flow. you always here, i wanna be financially stable? you can have No debts whatsoever and save all the money you want. you're never going to be ready when it comes time. Its just something that you go with the flow with. You make ends meet.

ya i am ready to start my family , and to get married

I do not think anyone is ever ready for a baby.they may be in some ways but not totally.i think you are just freaking yourself out.you will know when you are ready for a baby i know i did.

you can prepare yourself all you want but you will never be actually ready. you will know when you are ready when you are ready. i do recommend having insurance first, because i work for a health insurance company and i know how much those prenatal and hospital stays can be.

yes ofcourse... as long as you are not plan to get pregnant then why are you freaking out.... just get relax.... everything would be okk when time would be right... you can go back to school and finishing studies in the mean time

No, not yet because me and my partner are not yet financially stable. We still have to finish college and have a nice job, help out in the family and all that.

hello ! My self chintak Jain, and I am doing to marry with my love in next few months, but i cannot justifiee my self is this really happen with me........ I am just 24 years old......and my love her name is shallu she is just 23 yrs...... so, I wanna talk to some persons who just married and plz communicate with to share ur exp. of ur latest happyly life......

I know exactly how you feel. My husband and I have been married for just over four months, and I'm already thinking about babies! Haha. I know we're nowhere near ready yet, though, so at this point in time we are not planning on having kids. We want to be stable as well. I know though that our situation will improve, and I'm sure yours will, too. Don't worry! It's perfectly normal to not feel like you're ready. One of my friends who is married and has an 8 month old son told me that you will never be fully prepared, but there are things you can do to make yourself more prepared. So just hang in there, your time will come! :D

Just make sure your relationship is strong enought to withstand the difficulties of a baby.

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Why are you afraid of going back to school? What does your husband do? MAybe it is better for you to go back to school so you can be better financially to have a hbaby

no not yet. have to enjoy being single first.

You're a small business owner, eh? Well, what's your objective with that? Will you ever get to a point where you can still own your business, but not have to work it like a job? When that time comes (and the more you plan for it, the faster that'll be), you: 1. ... will have plenty of money, as the business will no longer need you and you will be free to start other businesses or a family. 2. ... won't especially need insurance, because you'll have your business to support you... but ironically enough, insurance agents will be flinging themselves at your window like pigeons (why yes, I do sell life insurance. How could you tell?). 3. ... will have hellacious free time on your hands. Remember that there is a difference between a business and busyness. Employees can afford to just "be busy," but when you're building a business, everything you do makes a difference. For better or worse. Why in the world are you so concerned about having children when you're still young? Even if you're female, you can have kids until around 50. So keep your head in the game at hand... unless you just want to have kids, put your dreams on hold, get a job, and fall into the trap millions of people willingly hurl themselves into...

you're not freaking yourself out. if i were you i'd feel the same way. my bf keeps repeating about marriage and plans about our future but he doesn't even have a job yet. he's still studying and my greatest fear right now is to get pregnant. my older sister has a 2-year old baby now out of unexpected pregnancy. The baby is fine for her, but the relationship with her husband is not that stable to commit to eternal life. i think you're just trying to think ways of fulfilling your plans and there could be so many of them since you just got married. you'd get through to it.

Nicole- I am a true believer that you are never financially stable. If you waited until you think you are at that point you will be 80 years old in a wheel chair and it will be too late. We decided that we wanted a child when we were partially satisfied with the point we were at in our lives, we had a house, we both had good jobs, insurance, maternity leave and a little extra money to afford baby things. I will be honest if we didn't have a child, we would have so much money. Childcare alone for us is $600 a month not including all of the other expenses. We just look at it like this: Owen outweighs any expense. The joy he brings to us is something you could never put a price tag on.