do you think an alcoholic can quit on their own?

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i have been dealing with my ex husband on this matter for about 20 years. notice i said ex, now you know why i am divorced. he has a very bad temper and when he would drink it would escalate and he would get violent. i remember years and years of excuses from him. new years day, he would say his resolution would be to quit drinking. he didn't. his birthday would roll around, he'd say he would quit, he didn't, etc. he now has his parents living with him, due to their health. new years eve this year, he was drunk and his dad tried to settle him down. thru the scuffle his dad got his hand slammed in the bedroom door, literally crushing one of his fingers. he has pins sticking out of one of his fingers. i talked to my ex the next day, and read him the riot act. i just told him, now he has hurt his dad, and when would it ever stop. he said that he is going to try to quit drinking by himself, and if that doesn't work he will seek professional help. the lamest part of this is that he said he cannot just up and go to a 30 day treatment center, that he had to get things in line with his parents and at his job. i told him, i didn't have time to get things in line as he was pulling my hair, his dad didn't have time to get things in line before his finger was crushed. i truly believe if wanted and realized he needed help, he would seek it immediately, so this situation would never happen again. i don't think he can help himself. alcoholism is a disease, and he cannot cure himself. i am just glad my kids are grown and don't see this. what do you think?