I need advice on what to do if anything regarding a pedofile

wow! where do you live? it doesn't seem lik the kind of response the situation would get where I live

I don't really understand : why do you call him pedofile ? Did he tried to attack your boy or something ? Or you just made some charity with him then get disgusted by his greediness ? I really don't understand you. Is he a pizza delivery boy ?? Please explain us more how he "terrorised" you or the church people or similar. I don't really understand the situation. Is he just sexually harassing you or what ? But what has that to do with the fact that he wanted to take part to the religious service in the church ?? Anyone has this right, I think !! Thanks.

Number one, get a restraining order against him. Number two, find a new church.

I'm glad you reported him & I don't think that those people should be laughing at you. People that have really bad issues (like my rapists & my brothers rapist, for exampe) need to be away from the rest of society for our protection. The same woman molested my brother than proceded to rape him from the time he was only 5! Until his teen years. So I don't believe rapists can be reformed into productive members of society, but that's my opinion.

I don't think you're too harsh. You're right on all counts! I've reported him,had an injunction put against him and I feel like I'm being laughed at by people that I thought cared about me {wrong} I'm told to forgive him and let him do whatever. I've forgiven him,but that doesn't mean to lay there and give him whatever he wants. They don't see it the same way apparently. I think I'll be moving far enough away in a couple weeks Lela

You're not being harsh just straight forward. For those who don't quite understand the one who started this discussion, this is my daughter. I can tell you this is a fairly small town and everybody she has gone to already knew about this man. The last the know, is his present day victim. We will be moving, not far away but out of town, by the end of this month.

Calvary Chapel ?? Then that maybe explains everything ... It seems that they thought you knew about his past and wanted you to be gentle with such people that has a mental disease to do what he did ! They wanted you to sacrifice yourself for his good. Wow, what kind of scoundrels !!

would you believe that the church knew about this man before I did and never told me? They stared and glared at me,and no one would tell me why{this was over a year ago}. The pastor's wife called me a liar and to be nice to him. I will take your advice and go to the local paper about the church. No, it's not catholic, it's a Calvary Chapel. Thank you for a fresh perspective on what to do.. :) Lela

Don't understand why, you could say just "yes" or "not" to my question. I would be not so aggressive with anybody just because he tries to learn the TRUTH. After all, HE is guilty of what happened between YOU TWO, not me, coward lady !

there ya go.

you've been reported

Lela, try to understand the wife of the pastor. She is the wife of a "man of God", isn't it? God doesn't teach us to be so fast in punishing the others, do you remember that ?? What do you would like, to kill someone that poor man ?? Imagine that his sins are not so infinite as you would like to believe. He already was punished for his bad behavior, don't you think that ?? I think that already the law made justice against him, so stop considering that he's still worth of being punished for his next days of his life. He paid whatever was due to pay for his bad actions made in the past. Why are you so angry against him but what has that to do with the fact that you are still a divorced lady ?? To be someone attracted by you is a gift of God for you, maybe this way you could marry someone that is a good man (because definitely your next husband must like you not just you to like him, don't you agree with that ??) So the problem is not that person was attracted by you, because you can refuse him and are not a simple girl alone that could be attacked in any moment ! You have next to you your mother and your son - both of them could call the police or other people around you to help you - if something wrong could be possible to happen against you at some day. What is that who make you hating so deep that man ?? Keep him away, he's an unhappy male without a woman next to him, but your attitude makes me feel that you felt with him or was attracted by him and suddenly was disappointed by his past. Please be sincere about this issue, or else I cannot understand why are you so angry against him ... I ask again : did he attacked your boy or similar ? Then what happened ?

you seem WAY too entertained with this subject, so I'm done answering your questions MR. yorgag or whatever. You are freaking me out with this good guy/bad guy bipolar stuff going on, so I don't know which personality I'm looking at right now,but I'm done either way..... Besides,you seem to be fine with taking over the entire conversation amongst your self or selves{with how many personalities]

I thank GOD that he's homeschooled, so my son's safe in that aspect. I did take a diary of all of this stuff to his parole officer. I am also thinking of a different church as you say... I should feel safe in church,and this pastor doesn't seem to care. His wife called me a liar when I confided in her about this man. It sure seems that the only men attracted to me are scum,ya know? No wonder I'm still divorced. That's not what I ever wanted either. I just wanted to be a wife and a mom. No diamonds needed,just love. Now I'm 33and working my buns off to take care of my mother and my son. Well, thanks and take care, Lela

This discussion was started by my daughter.I can tell you I was out of town when all this started. Away from my grandson, for a long time, after coming back and after a bit of time, he confided in me something this man had done. As a result, I sent him immediately for an X-ray of his arm. Sure enough it had been broken and rehealed in a warped position. Too late to do anything about it, short of surgery. He had kept silent due to that man's manipulations. You see, he's one of those 'out talkers'. He can outtalk the judge. When it became clear that this man was not going to drop off the planet, I approached him with the threat of pressing charges if I ever saw him within 20' of my daughter or grandson. He tried to outtalk me but I'm pretty good at it too and I made my threat firm. You see, too much time had passed and we might not have a case at all but I sure will use it against the guy. When I came home, the atmosphere here changed. I'm a dog, when it comes to my kids and this 'piece of bologna' wasn't going to snow me. I've had to go eyeball to eyeball with him 3 times before he finally got the picture. The lingering problem has come through the so-called church, as they want my daughter to be forgiving and pleasant toward this guy. I'm a bully, when called for, and I won't play their game. We will be moving and changing churches by the end of this month and if I ever see this guy come near again, it will be because he sought us out and I most definitely will take over. This will end.

Did you read the topic, or just the title? She is a grown woman and to tell her to tell her parents, when her mother clearly knows,tells me you did not!!

You don't understand..He doesn't have a home. He just goes from one woman or church member tot he next to mooch 'til they kick him out. I had no idea there were people out there like that

I have to thank everyone for responding to this question. I needed to know what you all thought,and will be taking alot of the advice, and putting it to use ;) Lela

I have the restraining order,so now he uses the church to harass me. I think I need to change churches

you are right on the nose with this response. Thank you so much :) Lela

Would you believe that even after getting an injunction{that's all they'd give me},it still seems to be unimportant to the Payson police? I"ve been told that this man has to attack me or my son for anything to happen. That doesn't really help..I don't want this person anywhere NEAR me, yet he's allowed at church and in the parking lot{usually standing around between myself and the door} So at this point I get to be the one to move because no one cares. At least not until something horrible happens..but I was hoping for it not to get to that point,ya know?