have you ever experience of being broken-hearted?

This is a very healthy and self-improving frame of mind to try to put oneself in. However as I can well remember each heartache and heartbreak all along my maturity I find that matters of the heart are rarely if ever subject to the direction or the "Power of positive thinking." This is why it is called a break, because until the immediacy of the emotion ebbs and you are able to think upon and reflect upon the good things about the relationship and the unique 'love affair" that you shared, without regard to the duration of the affair or the duration of the seperation. It is my experience that love is not free nor easy. It must be not only earned and returned in somewhat equal measure. However here's the kick in the pants: The depth of your emotional attachment, whether it was healthy or unhealthy, good, solid, with good longevity (or so you thought!) or a poor relationship the more that you bind your life to someone elses the more it hurts to tear up those ties and roots and move on. There is a neccessary greiving period. There is no gainsaying heartache nor is there any way to hurry it's progress along. Nor is there a specific period for which mourning the loss of love is to last. When it is in your corner of the universe raining on your parade it can feel like that feeling will last along with your suffuring FOREVER! However the ever amazing human animal is a social animal in need of care, comfort, and closeness (among the other 4 of the the "C" for interpersonal interactions) and eventually the heart will mend and move on to the next "good prospect" for a lifetime which SHOULD BE SHARED BETWEEN TWO PEOPLE! Love is like a flood it sees not color, age, religion, or those who try to deter us from our pursuit of our beloved other. It rises and rises and innundates us until we must seek shelter in the arms of another human being.' Love the flood, hate the mud, clean up, rebuild and move on in the pursuit of your personal happiness.

I remembered the time when my bf broke up with me. It's a sadness that I never felt before. I didn't even know why he broke up with me. It was then that I realized.. even if you treasure and do the best you can to keep the relationship. It doesn't matter at all.. as long as your partner don't want to keep the relationship and eyes one different girl. A way to get through over that feeling was making myself look better and make improvements. It really helps a lot! When we accidentally met at the mall. He was so surprised to see how well I look. Somehow.. it's like a swet revenge for me..

i had been cheated on and left because of third parties. it was so painful knowing that you tried your best to keep the relationship going and yet, they still find someone they say is better than you. i felt so bad. i felt like the whole world is against me! i cried for weeks and months. and i realized that i can still move on without him in my life. and i did! i just need a little push from my friends and family. a little support from them will always be of help.

I think everyone suffers from a broken heart at some time,its a part of life I am afraid, hence the saying "it is better to have loved than never loved at all" and as I have found something better always comes along and then you look back and wonder why you cried so much.

I think we all at one time or another have had our heart broken and that it helps us with our greiving process. The best cure for a broken heart is time."Time heals all wounds".Of course,when you are going thru it you are in pain.Friends,family and outside interests help move on from the pain.

Being heartbroken is hard especially if you're alone but if you have friends then they are really of great help. I have already been in this situation a gazillion times and what I usually do, is look for a diversion. I hang out with friends. I don't listen to love songs. I try my best not to think of him. I drink. I go out every night. I cry so that I can release all my sadness, anger and bitterness. I do write in my diary. Crying doesn't mean that you're a loser. It's one way of releasing all your suppressed feelings. I sometimes shout until my throat aches. Do anything to release all your bitterness, anger and sadness. Trust me!!! Eventually, you will get used to the situation that you don't start the day and end the day with him like you used to do. I do believe that time really heals all wounds. And you'll also learn lessons from your experiences. I've been in this situation before.

Each person is different. When we give our hearts to someone and then it does not work out a part of our heart will always belong to that person. We can carry the scars for a long time. The best advice I can give you is to start thinking about you a bit. Do things you enjoy, if someone asks you out then go out and enjoy yourself. Realize that you are important and slowly but surely you will regain your self confidance back and who knows you may just meet your true soul mate in the journey.

yeah actually im still on my way of moving on not only with love but also from myself. all of us maybe have experience this and it brings so much pain that sometimes you think time cant heal it.. well i did i though time will never help me but i was wrong.. i just let myself go with the flow of time and in the end i found myself smiling again and not only that i have learned so much wisdom that i think brrings me to a higher level.

I looked at this discussion as I am just going through it now after my 18 year relationhip has just ended. There is some good advice spoken on here and it does seem like time is the healer. I know I am going to now go through all the emotions possible but as a few people have said why cry over someone when they obviously don't care about you and they're out enjoying themselves. My only regret is that I gave in so many times before believing we could work our relationship out. Now I feel humiliated and used as I feel my partner hasn't really loved me for years but through convenience stayed. I know I will get through this but I also know its going to be tough. I wish you happiness!!!

forget it... life must go on with or without him, and if i were you... i will keep myself busy, doing something that makes me happy, go hang out with friends, just do want i wanna do. and i keep saying for my self: yesterday is my past, now is my present and tomorrow is my future, i will not turn my head back when i walk forward.

A lot of times. Keeping yourself busy by going out with friends or having a new hobby will help you get rid of the pain. It's really hard to cope up after a break-up but we have to.

yes it's really hard nursing a broken heart specially if you caught you boy friend having an affair with a third party. just keep yourself busy, try to go out and try to do something that would make you happy. it will take months or years but this will help. just move on there are lots of guys waiting dont rush into marrying right away once your married it's hard to go out of the relationship specially if you already have a children.

I have been experienced of broken-hearted and it's all left over with pain..and I hurt a lot too.The whole day Im out of business..I can't concentrate in anything as though my world left nothing...blank.I was blur and started to burst into tears.This continued for about 6 mths plus. Then slowly I begin to realize that life have so much things to be done not only love failure.It is he not deserved to love me.Why should I cry for someone who doesn't care about me?Isn't it wasting my time.He is somewhere out there hanging out with another girl with happiness while Im crying of him..I felt that is the most stupid thing and then I started to recover and back to my normal life.Mainly Im not criticizing any guys here but about my Ex-bf.

i just had my heart broken this past xmas. it hurt so much coz it was my birthday when the bf and i had the falling out, even though we never really ended it officially (he wouldn't talk about it with me til this day). i had some good cries, and i felt better after i did. i talked with my friends a lot to keep me sane. i kept myself busy at work and surrounded myself with people who actually care about me. i also kept in mind that everything happens for a reason. i can't really do anything about it now, but i'm glad i still had the experience coz i learned a lot from it. and now i'm happy being single. =)

I had experience being a broken hearted. It is very hard to move on specially if you did everything for him. As the song goes "I did my best, but my best wasn't goo enough" That's right! I did my best but my best was not my best for him. How did I move on. I kept myself busy and I totally cut our communication. I let anger dominates my feeling so that I will not cry for such guy. I said to myself that I will revenge but not a revenge to harm someone. I want him to look up at me and I will look down to him. I strive more and now I am successful. He is begging me to love him again, to start another one but it is too late. I don't love him anymore and I won. I laugh at him now, coz he is nothing for me. I made sure that he will regret what he did and I succeed.

i am married for two years to fulfill my father's desire and today when i come across my former love i feel very bad, i find myself pity i am still there and yet i cannot do anything for her. sometimes i am broken hearted.

Not yet so far, and I hope such thing will never happen on me.

i do have experience of broken heart.i do love someone deeply straight from my heart but she didn't care about me.she says its time to concentrate on your career.it irritates me.

ya its really painful when the loved ones get departed from us and i also had this experienced when my gul fren left me ....it took me a lot of time to forget her ...but finally i thanked god that she was out of my mind..

Yeah painful, but I see it in a lighter side, because I think lots of problems in earth that has worst senario than your relationship, there is no permanent in this world specially feelings, I engage with sports specially hiking, meet new friends...anyways his not worth it for my love and respect. Good for us as aerly we know the person. RIGHT?