Is it fine to have a relationship with another lady after you are married

Right! And your marriage is not going to last very long. This is not healthy as you say and runs the possible risk of bringing home some disease.

Of course its not right. Your wife is right. If you thought it was healthy and right to have multiple partners and hope your spouse was ok with it, then you shouldn't have gotten married.

the best person to answer this question is your wife.im sure that if you are happily married and have a close relationship with her that she would appretiate your honesty.so ask her if its ok for you to shag the girls at work .because if i answer the question for you i would be majorly putting you down with a lot of nastey name calling and have no respect for you as a fellow human.so yer ask her instead

then why did you say your wedding vows in the first place...or do you not follow the ten commandments?

I have to agree with your spouse on this one. It is not right, if you value your relationship and your marriage..to ruin your marriage for a work place companion. It's just not right.

I don't know many people who would like their husband or wife to have another relationship like that outside the marriage. I have only heard of that with open relationships. That is when both people have realtionships outside of their own, and agree to it. If your wife isn't agreeing to your relationship then you have to decide if you want to be married. You aren't being fair to her. I would divorce my husband if he had a relationship with another woman and let them be happy without me in the picture. I would want no part of it. I like a monogamous relationship and would not have more than one man. Never.

yes u are absolutely wrong.no matter for what reason, having an affair (if that what u mean "intimate") after married even if still only as girfriend/bf is not right.its really put ur relationship in danger and u might loss ur love one.

YES YOU ARE WRONG...if it is healthy, then your wife wouldn't be so upset. you may think it is healthy because you're getting everything you want. emotionally, you are destroying everything around you, your wife, your life, and maybe even your job. in todays society, several women to one man is not something very accepted. stop everything you're doing...look at the whole situation and decide once and for all which one you want to be with.

no it is not good to have an extra marital affair

It's not good to have another woman when you're already married. When you marry her you promise to love her for the rest of your lives. You must live together and share responsibilites. Sometimes your trouble at home make you jump into conclusions that your wife doesn't understand you anymore or doesn't care about your needs. So you resort to finding another girl. But it is important to understand the source of your discontent and develop good communication

As a man, I think it's ok just don't get caught. It's not like your leaving your family right? It's like craving to taste other dishes but you still have your favorite dish.

no it is not right to have an "intimate" relationship with someone other than your wife, why did you get married then?? When you commit to marriage, having intimate relationships with others is not approved, you took your vows, now live up to them.

I personally don't beleive in extramarital affairs. Marraige is a commitment to your partner. If you aren't ready to settle down and be faithfully committed, you shouldn't be married. It seems to me that since your wife is not happy with this situation, you may need to figure out chich is more important to you. A relationship with the woman who promised to love, honor, and cherish you for the rest of her life, or the "friend from the office". Didn't you promise to love, honor and cherish your wife in return? Does this relationship honor her?

No this is wrong, and most likely will lead to a divorce. The reason for this is because you are not faithful to them therefore you lose their trust. You must have trust in a healthy relationship.

I think you are utterly wrong. Would you be happy if your wife develops relationship with somebody else. Must be quite pinching but please look from her side and you would realize that this is wrong. Woman are very possessive about their man so do respect her feelings.

Its not right and you know it isn't without having to ask. If you are looking for a "yes" to ease your guilty conscience, you won't find it here except from someone in your position looking for the same thing. What this cheating says to your wife is that you have no respect for her and that you don't have any regard for the commitment that you made to her. She has every right to be upset with you. You have to admit that your actions and desires are very selfish and that you wife is giving you more respect by honoring her commitment to you than you are even trying to give to her. She should think about divorce and finding someone to appreciate her.

There is absolutely nothing healthy about having an affair on your wife. You are cheating and being dishonest. i would not stand for this kind of behavior and if i was here i would leave you in a heartbeat. Cheaters and worth anything!

Well I guess if your wife was happy with this situation and you were happy for her to have affairs too - then that is your private business, just between you and her. Some people have "open" marriages and they are both happy. But if this is upsetting her, then seems to em you have no love or rspect for her to upset her so much. I wnder why you married this poor lady is you want to cheat on her and upset her? Perhaps you shouldn't be married at all until you have grown up enough to be faithful to the women you married.

Wow Dude! Check out down the list. You got alot of pissed off mylotters. lol. But Im gonna have to agree with them. Your gonna blow your whole marriage if you have an intimate relationship with another woman besides your wife. That is against the rules of marriage. Your spouse shouldnt approve of it and she has every right to be mad at you.

I think that what is and isn't acceptably within you marriage is up to you and your wife. If she isn't happy with it, you can't do it. The idea of an open marriage is something that needs tobe discussed and agreed upong before you even enter into marriage.