once a cheater always a cheater

This depends on alot of things. People will be said to be cheating BEFORE they have married whoever they are supposed to be cheating on. WAKE UP!!! If you are not engaged or married, there is no cheating. If you want fidelity then you need to make a committment. No 5 year engagements to keep someone else tied to you either. If you aren't getting married within a year then you might as well not be engaged. If you are married then you need to decide if the life you have built so far is worth keeping or if you are willling to rip it up over an indiscretion. If you have noticed, wealthy people rarely do that. They figure out a way to ether live witht he fact that they married a human being, or they stay married but rarely actually spend time together, if forgiveness isn't in the mix.

I've made mistakes, cheats, and bad things in my past. And onething for sure, it is a difficult task, and almost immpossible I said, to regain trust again. No matter how hard you prove that you are a better person, they will still having it hard to believe in you again.

If a person were to cheat on me and come clean,I would definately give them a second chance as it may have been a one-time only thing and a mistake of judgement. If someone were to cheat on me a second time,I would have to go buy new shoes as one of my shoes would be so far up their butt I would not want it back!

I dont think so One should be given atleast one chance. U should also do so. Think on it.

A cheater does deserve a second chance, but not third. Every body must be given a chance to know their fault and if they feel guilty, they wouldn't do it again. Asking for a third chance, means he will never feel guilty and will cheat again. Giving a cheater a 3rd chance is really foolish.

I have cheated in the past but with my not so serious relationships..but when i was quite mature already and it happened to me that my bf cheated on me..i accepted him evrytime he cheats..we break up and then he comes back and tells me he will not do it again..then he does it again.until it came to a point that i gave up and told myself i will never accept someone like him who cheats and doesnt respect other peoples feelings anymore.

Well in my opinion if you have the urge to cheat something isn't right in the relationship. I have never cheated but I have been cheated on, and to be honest I would have preferred the guy just came clean and said "this isn't working" or something. It would have saved a lot of time and energy and hurt.

yes i've been cheated before and to tell you its still hurts. I believe a cheater is always a cheater. However the second chances you mean is only for those who are deserving for it but if the break up is cause by cheating its hardly to trust again because it was already broken. Yes we could easily say one side on our mind that maybe we are just not mean for each other, and nobodys perfect but you have to learn a lesson from the past. If you give second chance to that certain person who cheated you just be sure he/she is deserving to gain back the trust because if you just carried by the emotion of love, the person knows of it and he/she will just abuse you and hurt you again and again.

Well, i believe everybody deserves a second chance. As they say, 1 mistake is Ok to be given a second chance, twice is too much. Cheaters who cheats more than twice is making a fool out of himself, not of anybody.

once a cheater always a cheater huh? well for me i think it depends because for some that willing to change then we shud giv them a second chance although we may not know whether are they sincere enough or not but we can giv it a try. I believe everyone has a second chance in life, until the day u die of course then there is no more second chance left for u. hehe. i hav yet cheated, maybe in the future i will, i hope i wont =P peace

No I don't believe that once a cheater always a cheater. That's not true. I believe in second chances. I'm glad that you found your true love. You and the other one weren't meant to be like you said. She should of giving you another chance but I guess she didn't love you. Some people contiune to cheat and there's others who do it once and regret it and stop. I believe that if the one who cheats is willing to stop and be faithful and they really want to then they can. Those are the ones who deserve the second chances like you. Good for you by the way. Glad your not thinking about it anymore.

there's always a chance for everything or everyone if we only allow it.

Never cheated, never will. If someone comes clean to me about cheating, apologizes, I'd consider a second chance.

My husband cheated before we got married and i gave him a 2nd chance and i am happier then i could of ever thought i would be. So i would have to say yes if they came clean i would give them a 2nd chance.

I have cheated in the past in relationships, but I realise now that I was wrong. I also realize that I was looking for a get out clause from the relationship. I am married now and no way would I cheat! (I think). I love my husband but more than that, I respect him. So I don't think I would. I think that when we are younger that we all do things we regret, we dont deserve to be judged on the excesses of our youth!

Giving chance just shows how much you love that person..inspite of being cheated you are ready to take another risk and have faith in him/her. Real love does forces a person to forgive mistakes of your loved one. The reason is that you cannot imagine a life without her...so you ought to give him/her a second chance. This is a real testing period for judging true love.

Well, it is true that all things in life happen for a reason. But that does not make cheating a good or a moral thing to do. I am glad to hear that you have found your true love, however. This is what I wish for with all of my heart, to find my true love. If I were with my true love, I know that I would never have a desire to cheat. Or at least I absolutely cannot imagine feeling that way, anyway. I don't know about second chances when it comes to cheating. It really depends on the couple in question. I am not sure if I could forgive or not. It is so hard to let go of someone we love, though. So I could see myself forgiving and being sorry later, because well.. once a cheater, always a cheater, as your topic says. I nkow that people can change, but if there is a tendency for someone to cheat once then I don't know why they wouldn't do it again.. it's just hard to imagine.

no thats not true, sometimes you do things that you repent later and never do again, and what else everyone deserves a second chance, so dont get upset my friend.....

no. Thats not true. people can change when they found their true love

yes your right they never change. hope the karma will come to them.