love versus responsibility and arranged marriage[almost]

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i have a friend who is being sent to school by a relative. she has a boyfriend for years but her relative who is sending her to school does not know it.. the problem arose some weeks ago when a relative of her told her that after she'll graduate this semester, she will be brought to another country and marry the man her relative is close to. she told her relative that she already have a boyfriend, but her relative insists on that guy.. my friend also have siblings that she's going to send to school.. is it right that if you send someone to school, you have the total control of her life, even her lovelife? is it unethical if you disobey the person who sent you to school and fight for someone you really love? if you are in her situation, to whom would you rather tell that you already have a boyfriend you love so much, to your relative whoi insists you to marry another man, or to the man himself whom you are being insist to marry?