Marriage before he leave out of the country
By mimicgurl
@mimicgurl (64)
Philippines
January 18, 2007 8:18pm CST
Hi Friends! I just want to hear your opinion about my current situation. I'm from the Philippines. I'm 25 and my boyfriend is 27. We are currently live in partners for almost a year. Now he is processing his papers and he will be working in Korea for our own good and for our future. the fact that we're going to have a long distance relationship and we're not yet married I'm relly confused and bothered sometimes that I have a lot of WHAT IF??? in mind. What if he would meet another woman?What if lond distance relationship would not work?
In your opinion is it better that we're going to get married before he lives or not getting married when he comes back?
5 responses
@coffeechat (1961)
• New Zealand
22 Jan 07
In my view, it is best to just give the long distance relationship a try and see how it goes. I know that being apart for quite some time can bring up a lot of questions especially those with regard to him cheating or finding another woman. Since these are the possibilities, I suggest you keep your freedom! In the Philippines, divorce is not legal and anullment can take years. So why tie yourself into marraige when you are just starting to go through the first major test in your relationship? Marriage can't stop a guy from doing what his urges are. Trust is the only key to this one. But believe me, the truth will always surface no matter what.
@mimicgurl (64)
• Philippines
22 Jan 07
Thanks for the advice. I should say that no matter what happen married or not we must trust each other.
@santwana_veddika (2018)
• India
19 Jan 07
what he want first u asked him because u are living together for 1 years .
But in my opinion u get marry with that boy .
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@mimicgurl (64)
• Philippines
22 Jan 07
Thanks for that. I really want to marry him..I'm still thinking for all the negative and positive side..
@mimicgurl (64)
• Philippines
19 Jan 07
Thanks for the advice but I have a job here in the Philippines and it's his first time to go in Korea so we don't have enough money to stay there.
@Deane_2005 (1644)
• Philippines
25 Jan 07
I would suggest that you must marry first before he goes. If your sure about him already then don't waste time. Besides there are too many temptations in Korea, and I would like to add that many long distance relationship doesnt workout, since their is no security and bond in both of you. Marriage must be done before he goes because me and my boyfriend has lost each other for a certain girl when he goes abroad to work. He told me that if only I agreed to his wish in marrying me then probably we never end up that way.
@leiann02 (2)
• Philippines
9 Feb 07
In order for a long distance relationship work, you should trust your partner and vice versa. Though your living together for almost a year, it doesn't mean that you need to get married already. If your guy really loves you, then he should know how to value you, your relationship and his love. No matter how far you are with each other, your love and trust will keep it work. Besides, you're still young to get married. Why don't you try to enjoy your life first? Your work here in the Philippines will make you busy. Have time for yourself while he's out of the country.
But make sure that before he leaves, try to discuss what you're thinking. Tell him that you're afraid for the consequences of having a long distance relationship especially now. If your guy tells you that there's nothing to worry about, then believe in him. At least, it makes you feel secured, right? Anyhow, try to cherish the remaining days he has before he leaves.
@rain07 (132)
• Philippines
19 Jan 07
Just get married after he comes back. :)
it's hard if this is the 1st time you'll be separated from each other for a long time, there might be a possibility that it won't work but of course, its up to you if you'll exert extra effort to sustain the needs of that situation. Maybe being apart would also help you analyze if you're really meant to be together.
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@mimicgurl (64)
• Philippines
22 Jan 07
You have a point. I'm thinking that if we really meant to be. Whatever the distance and the shortcommings we still be together forever
